When men stop having sex and what wom...

When men stop having sex and what women are doing about it --

There are 447 comments on the Trinidad & Tobago Express story from Apr 22, 2007, titled When men stop having sex and what women are doing about it --. In it, Trinidad & Tobago Express reports that:

“You know, it was hard on my ego and self-esteem when he didn't want me sexually, because I didn't grow up knowing there were men out there like that.”

It is estimated that more than 20 million marriages in the United States are suffering from a lack of physical intimacy. via Trinidad & Tobago Express

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Malkin

Norristown, PA

#260 Apr 4, 2009
Roger wrote:
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Hahahahahahaha Good one ! I shall try to remember recounting this "story" next time I am in a cruise ship LOL Thanks!
How about when you are On a cruise ship.

You're welcome. Glad you liked it.
Malkin

Norristown, PA

#261 Apr 4, 2009
cmedic wrote:
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psh, nobody really hates Australia, we're too awsome.
Really?

Since: Mar 09

Katy, TX

#262 Apr 4, 2009
Malkin wrote:
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Really?
yup!
cableguy

United States

#263 Apr 8, 2009
lala17 wrote:
becoming too tired for sex? I'm a guy and I question if that is possible... even if I was tired I would still like my girl to f *k me while I fall asleep if she wanted it... maybe there's a misunderstanding or maybe he thinks your getting old =(
viva endurnz! that will get him up and running

www.endurnz.com
flyboy

Richmond, VA

#264 Apr 8, 2009
Im definetely never getting married.
Loca

UAE

#265 May 20, 2009
I lost my job for a few months & ended up spending a lot of time around my boyfriend, which made him feel he doesnt have enough space, & from my side it was unintentionaly. Lately ive noticed that he is watching porn every single day, 2 or 3 times a day, & he doesnt have sex with me. We cuddle & kiss & play every night, but when he finally gets a hard on, & i try to have sex with him,he stops me & tunrs his back & goes to sleep leaving me horny & wondering for several nights in a row. This is coming from a man who used tp get turned on just by looking at my legs. Not to show off, but i am fit & sexy & pretty & i waer nice things all the time, i.e, i take good care of myself. Is it happening because of porn?? his excuse is that he watches all the time because its his only way to escape my monitoring eyes everytime he gets the chance, its his way of rebelling. But does anyone really rebel 24/7? I mean i love giving him a blowjob, & he loves it too, but lately, when i try, he stops me! We've only been together 8 months... can someone advise me if i should worry or not?
flyboy

Richmond, VA

#269 May 29, 2009
Harlot wrote:
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Why not--everyone else does.
I love Australia!!! Aussies are the bomb.
flyboy

Richmond, VA

#270 May 29, 2009
Loca wrote:
I lost my job for a few months & ended up spending a lot of time around my boyfriend, which made him feel he doesnt have enough space, & from my side it was unintentionaly. Lately ive noticed that he is watching porn every single day, 2 or 3 times a day, & he doesnt have sex with me. We cuddle & kiss & play every night, but when he finally gets a hard on, & i try to have sex with him,he stops me & tunrs his back & goes to sleep leaving me horny & wondering for several nights in a row. This is coming from a man who used tp get turned on just by looking at my legs. Not to show off, but i am fit & sexy & pretty & i waer nice things all the time, i.e, i take good care of myself. Is it happening because of porn?? his excuse is that he watches all the time because its his only way to escape my monitoring eyes everytime he gets the chance, its his way of rebelling. But does anyone really rebel 24/7? I mean i love giving him a blowjob, & he loves it too, but lately, when i try, he stops me! We've only been together 8 months... can someone advise me if i should worry or not?
You definitely need to talk about the situation and whats wrong, why he is acting the way he is, and let him communicate his feelings with you, and try to come to a happy medium. Communication is the key. But dont think that you losing your job is your fault or his feelings are your fault.

“Is It You?”

Since: Dec 08

LA

#271 May 29, 2009
This is an interesting thread. My wife is sexually dull - indifferent, almost anti-sexual, and I need somone who shows up for the experience. She does not seem to receive joy from seeing the joy on my face, and she puts me down for getting joy from giving her joy. For example, "you're not doing it for me (oral sex, vibrators, asking her what she wants from me)because I can see that you enjoy it, so you are doing it for your own pleasure". My reply - "I'd feel really great to see you receiving as much pleasure from giving to me the way I give to you."

I used to be absolutely nuts about her - thought she was the most sexy woman alive. But this has gone on for so long that I have become indifferent to her. In fact, she is becoming more and more unattractive - at times really ugly. I used to love seeing her nude, and now she looks like a cow to me. I used to love spooning and holding her breasts, and doing it now feels like I'm holding just another lump of fat. I've become mostly impotent with her (and I'm not at all impotent). In fact, it feels almost degrading to have sex with her.

I don't know if you would call that anger, although there is some anger associated with it. I'm angry with her for not taking care of our relationship - for trashing a beautiful thing. And I'm left with the option of having to find intimacy somewhere else.

I like the idea of asking her to fix me up with one of her friends.

“Is It You?”

Since: Dec 08

LA

#272 May 29, 2009
I had to run before finishing my last post. I do not like to have sex with her because it is degrading, not because I am angry with her. But I am angry with her for not valuing our relationship and taking care of it.

“Where is Cookeville?”

Since: Dec 07

Cookeville

#273 May 30, 2009
Quinc wrote:
I had to run before finishing my last post. I do not like to have sex with her because it is degrading, not because I am angry with her. But I am angry with her for not valuing our relationship and taking care of it.
it sounds like a divorce would do wonders for your relationship, or, if you have'nt the balls for that, get yourself the best prostitutes money can buy. You're lucky enough to be born an American citizen. You disgrace all that that is wallow in misery in a life so very rich with opportunity.
wtf

Rockland, MA

#274 May 30, 2009
In-Love but disappointed wrote:
I've tried all that and all he can come up with is "I'm Tired" that's his motto. I come home at 11:30 at night and he is sleeping and I've tried to wake him by touching his private parts but he'll say "come on baby I'm tired"....I'v tried all the sexy panties and touching. What is a girl to do?
Well it sounds like your husband and my wife may be related, I have heard avery excuse you can imagine: tired, have a cold, too humid, eyes too itchy, pregnant (yes I am serious) pregnant that is when we should be having more sex no contraceptives needed. The fact of the matter is the lack of sex has become a minor issue it is the rejection 80-90% of the time that is ruining our marriage. Being a good catholic I thought cheating is never an option, now I that I am in contact with an exgirlfriend I am just waiting for the opportunity, it is simple my wife does not care about my needs or feelings why should I continue to view our marriage as sacred, I say do it but with somebody you know and trust, avoid strangers, former flames a re great for that especially married ones.
ccv

United States

#275 May 30, 2009
In-Love but disappointed wrote:
I've tried all that and all he can come up with is "I'm Tired" that's his motto. I come home at 11:30 at night and he is sleeping and I've tried to wake him by touching his private parts but he'll say "come on baby I'm tired"....I'v tried all the sexy panties and touching. What is a girl to do?
i'll tell you what you need to do!first,do a google search on generic viagra.you will find sights where you can actually order real viagra and cialis.i know for a fact that is his problem.even if he can get hard,he knows he won't be able to keep it up if you guys have sex.you can order the viagra for about 100 dallars for 30 pills,this stuff works wanders.but beware,if you get this stuff,YOU may get tired of sex with him.if he has health issues,talk to a doctor.you can also order a product called "rhino51".i personally like rhino51 better because it lasts for days,so that spontaneos nataral sex happens more often.believe me,his dick will be harder than you could ever imagine!and it will stay hard!!!

Since: May 09

Location hidden

#276 May 31, 2009
the old lady got Endurnz for me and that really improved our sex life. We went from once maybe twice a month to every 3 or 4 days. I dont know why Endurnz works but it does. Its not that I could not get hard, I just was not into it. She used to tell me I was like a old women. I tried viagra. But that did not help. I can get hard. I just did not want to. Somehow Endurnz helps with my libido. I dont know if we were headed for divorce. We are Catholic and that really is not an option. But I was worried that she was going to start cheating on me. That is the reason I took it when she suggested it. Im glad she did.
flyboy

Richmond, VA

#277 Jun 21, 2009
Its called getting a divorce. Really. Life is way to short to be miserable. If it just aint working, it aint working. If its something physical that is affecting the sex life, then maybe that can be resolved. If its emotional, then only trust, open communication and honesty will fix that, and that isnt a definite fixer upper.
flyboy

Richmond, VA

#278 Jun 21, 2009
Cheating is not an option. Cheating is for lowlifes.
michaelg

Chicago, IL

#281 Jul 4, 2009
I think that the best hot thing on a market now for sexual performance is Erektor www.erektorforlife.com .
result in 20 sec 100% and no side effects, no pills. It's simple and genius.
what is it

Pikesville, MD

#282 Jul 24, 2009
I,m 40, and my boyfriend is 30, we met about a year ago, and was having sex all the time. We recently moved in together, and at first we was having sex all the time, now he hasnt touched me in a month, we have been having arguments, but he is still here, he comes in at all times in the night, i'm ready to just give up, because i love having sex, and it's nothing to just make a call for me to get it, but i have changed because i wanted to make this work. what do i do? i don't know whats goin on with him, i have asked him if he was still attracted to me and he says yes, and he still loves me, but i'm ready for the sex, what do i do???
Frustrated

Lakemba, Australia

#283 Jul 27, 2009
Well at least the majority of you seem to be able to talk about it with your partners. I am a 27 yr old female and my partner is 33. We gradualy do it less and less. It's been about 3 months now and everytime I ask him what's wrong or generally want to talk about it he tells me to f&$k off and that he does not need this shit anymore. We also have a 17 month old daughter.
Frustrated

Lakemba, Australia

#284 Jul 27, 2009
Oops I mean he said he does not need this shit at the moment or he is tired and can't talk.

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