When men stop having sex and what wom...

When men stop having sex and what women are doing about it --

There are 447 comments on the Trinidad & Tobago Express story from Apr 22, 2007, titled When men stop having sex and what women are doing about it --. In it, Trinidad & Tobago Express reports that:

“You know, it was hard on my ego and self-esteem when he didn't want me sexually, because I didn't grow up knowing there were men out there like that.”

It is estimated that more than 20 million marriages in the United States are suffering from a lack of physical intimacy. via Trinidad & Tobago Express

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szkjht kerjt

Nanjing, China

#1 Apr 22, 2007
dn kjngje

Since: Apr 07

Morrison, IL

#2 Apr 22, 2007
"The main reason men say that they stop having sex with their wives is anger, and women are aware of this. Close to 50 per cent of our female respondents say their husbands are angry, and that's why the men have stopped being intimate."

Then why is it that women are the ones portrayed as using sex as a weapon?
hcwillard

Orange Park, FL

#3 Apr 22, 2007
My wife had a hysterectomy a few years ago and since then, she has lost all intimacy. I am willing to accept almost any willing woman.....
smarterthanyou

Milwaukee, WI

#4 Apr 22, 2007
The women who concluded that the anger caused the lack of intimacy could be wrong. Let us say that half of them are correct, though. So, only 25% of the women in that survey accurately indicated that anger was the causal issue. In that 25%, what is the cause of the anger? I suspect that the cause of the anger is also the cause of the lack of sex. However, if this isn't the case it is important to realize the differences in how men and women handle anger.

Us men want to be alone and away from you when we are mad. On the other hand, women want to hug it out and talk about feelings and ultimately convince the man that he is wrong and she is right. Go away.

Since: Apr 07

Morrison, IL

#5 Apr 23, 2007
"Us men want to be alone and away from you when we are mad. On the other hand, women want to hug it out and talk about feelings and ultimately convince the man that he is wrong and she is right. Go away."

That could also be worded as:
Us men want to be alone to stew and pout when we are mad. On the other hand, women want to talk and resolve whatever the problem is and ultimately try to put it behind them. Go talk.

Oh well, tomayto, tomahto.
franko

Vancouver, Canada

#6 Apr 23, 2007
CDMelton wrote:
"The main reason men say that they stop having sex with their wives is anger, and women are aware of this. Close to 50 per cent of our female respondents say their husbands are angry, and that's why the men have stopped being intimate."
Then why is it that women are the ones portrayed as using sex as a weapon?
I think often women stop having sex because they are angery at the man .. I guess the excuse goes both ways.

Men adn woimen had both better learn how to resovle their issues rather than letting them remain unresolved and smoldering under the surface, eating away at the foundation of the maraige. Trust, repsect, adn open communicaotin are essential. Bad sex or lack of sex is a symptom of other, deeper problems in many cases.

BLT

Since: Apr 07

Holland, MI

#8 Apr 23, 2007
Anger can cause a disruption in sex life but don't over analize it.Most times he is either doing another woman or having recreational sex with men.I am not being funny here I am being honest.There are several places men can readly go and some have memberships it is not all porn theatres and adult bookstores.
lucretya

Haledon, NJ

#9 Apr 24, 2007
It is a normal thing for a man to feel pleasure when being touch in their niples.
is this a clear sign of homosexualism...?
please answer my question, I'm very confussed and concerned.
lucretya

Haledon, NJ

#10 Apr 24, 2007
I want to know if is a normal thing for my boyfriend to asked me to touch his niples to get excited, and have sex.
Is this a clear sign that he is bisexual or something else.
please answer my questions, I'am very confussed and concerned.

BLT

Since: Apr 07

Holland, MI

#11 Apr 24, 2007
lucretya wrote:
I want to know if is a normal thing for my boyfriend to asked me to touch his niples to get excited, and have sex.
Is this a clear sign that he is bisexual or something else.
please answer my questions, I'am very confussed and concerned.
Yes it is very normal it is a sensitive area on men as well

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#12 Apr 24, 2007
lucretya wrote:
It is a normal thing for a man to feel pleasure when being touch in their niples.
is this a clear sign of homosexualism...?
please answer my question, I'm very confussed and concerned.
yes, it is normal and no it has nothing to do with homosexuality ...

stop being so confused and concnerned. No necessary. If some of your freinds are saying this, then don't admit this to them ...
karly

Humble, TX

#13 Apr 25, 2007
im 33 and my b-friend is 47 but he is obssesed with young girls making me very insecureHELP
lucretya

Haledon, NJ

#15 Apr 28, 2007
My boyfriend wants to have sex every single day, sometimes it is to much for me, he is 36, I'am 40.
If I'am not available to him, then he starts to masturbate, this makes me fell so incomfortable. is this sign of sex-addiction. or this is normal.
Butterfly

Hephzibah, GA

#16 Jul 10, 2007
we just moved together to a new city and we stopped having sex.. why? we have been together for now 2 years and marriage is talked about, but no real issue.. What is this? we had sex all the time before.. Is he stressed or just not that into me anymore.. i have gained about 10 pounds.. but is that it.. im still really hot and get hit on all the time.. why does he turn me down and make me feel like its a job when he makes love to me..
Im confused.. can a man explain why?
hajii

Spring Hill, FL

#17 Jul 13, 2007
lucretya wrote:
My boyfriend wants to have sex every single day, sometimes it is to much for me, he is 36, I'am 40.
If I'am not available to him, then he starts to masturbate, this makes me fell so incomfortable. is this sign of sex-addiction. or this is normal.
NORMAL! and don't feel uncomfortable when he masturbates...if you are around, then just help him along...if not the know that it is normal and maybe you can even talk about how he masturbates and who he thinks about and what he thihks about just to keep the sex life rockin!
Marie

AOL

#18 Jul 24, 2007
Im 35 an my husband is 49. Sex is on his mind 24/7 he has 2 have it at least 2x a day. He can take a nap wake up and come find me 2 have sex. i use to enjoy sex but now i feel like it is a job 4 me. If i turn him down he masturbates then gets mad. He say it will only take a min. r u can just lay there. IS THAT NORMAL R SIGN OF SEX ADDICTION?

Since: Jul 07

A Tropical Island Somewhere

#19 Jul 24, 2007
What is a 'sex-addiction'?? I think it depends on who you ask. If someone has a high sex drive and is not ashamed of sex and masturbation, then it seems 'normal' that they would want to have sex frequently, and would relieve themselves if they can't have sex with a partner.

On the other hand, if your culture believes that the sex drive should be repressed, or associates sex with shame, then these activities would be seen as an addiction.

Most psychologists define a sexual addiction as something that completely takes over a person's life, makes them oblivious to risk and relationships. This happens, but is not as common as the media sometimes portrays it.

The most common regret among people near the end of their life? They didn't have sex often enough.
In-Love but disappointed

AOL

#21 Jul 31, 2007
I'm a 35 year old wife with a 48 year old husband. We don't have sex anymore, maybe 1 to 2 times a year. Most of the time I masturbate to relieve myself. I ask him what's wrong and his response is nothing. When we first started dating sex was great, we used to have sex at least 3 times a day. we have a 5 year old boy and his a great dad and he provides for his family but the only thing he's lacking is having sex with me....should I go else where?
its me

Sunbury, OH

#22 Jul 31, 2007
In-Love but disappointed wrote:
I'm a 35 year old wife with a 48 year old husband. We don't have sex anymore, maybe 1 to 2 times a year. Most of the time I masturbate to relieve myself. I ask him what's wrong and his response is nothing. When we first started dating sex was great, we used to have sex at least 3 times a day. we have a 5 year old boy and his a great dad and he provides for his family but the only thing he's lacking is having sex with me....should I go else where?
No you should not go else where. Just speak up and tell him you need the di*k in you. Get some hot panties or edge up that pu*s if you want it you can get it just gotta put forth effort. Just wait till you two are all alone and take his di*k out and start sucking it and if he starts to say something tell him not to talk. If it was we I would love for my girl to do that.
In-Love but disappointed

AOL

#23 Aug 1, 2007
I've tried all that and all he can come up with is "I'm Tired" that's his motto. I come home at 11:30 at night and he is sleeping and I've tried to wake him by touching his private parts but he'll say "come on baby I'm tired"....I'v tried all the sexy panties and touching. What is a girl to do?

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