Study Explores Why Some Teen Boys Hit Their Girlfriends

There are 17 comments on the www.findingdulcinea.com story from Oct 23, 2008, titled Study Explores Why Some Teen Boys Hit Their Girlfriends. In it, www.findingdulcinea.com reports that:

The first qualitative study of environmental factors that incline adolescents toward dating violence shares its results.

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Lynn

Long Island City, NY

#1 Oct 23, 2008
Fascinating stuff
Niles

Long Island City, NY

#2 Oct 23, 2008
They need accountability, not another excuse for their behavior.
Hanna

Long Island City, NY

#3 Oct 23, 2008
Wow. Hopefully parents will be responsible enough to identify these traits. Because if not, who cares? The study didn't help anyone. Let's implement a policy instead of jabbering.
Regina

Long Island City, NY

#4 Oct 23, 2008
Wow. This is intriguing. I had no idea teenage boys were beating their girlfriends so commonly.

Since: Oct 08

Chicago

#5 Oct 23, 2008
Boys suck.
abelone

Houston, TX

#6 Oct 23, 2008
do girls ever hit their boyfriends?
Shannon

Lakeland, FL

#7 Oct 23, 2008
I read somewhere that in situations where a witness sees another friend being abused by her boyfriend, she is more likely to get help.
Self-Made Woman

Long Island City, NY

#8 Oct 24, 2008
I hit my boyfriend occasionally.
Know More

Washington, DC

#9 Oct 24, 2008
Violent and abusive relationships, especially among teens, also seem to be linked to serious reproductive health issues including unplanned pregnancy and STD's. Some 25 to 50 percent of adolescent mothers experience partner violence before, during, or just after their pregnancy.

Women and teens are sharing their stories and taking action at www.knowmoresaymore.org

“WOOH!!”

Since: May 08

Vallejo, CA

#10 Oct 24, 2008
Niles wrote:
They need accountability, not another excuse for their behavior.
It's true that they should be held accountable for their behavior. However, I don't think the point of this was to make any excuses for their violence. If we know why men become violent, hopefully that will help find ways to prevent it from happening.
Kim

Bloomfield, CT

#11 Oct 24, 2008
It happens a lot. Ive been hit, beaten, and made to do sex stuff to guys more times than I could count, and so have some of my friends. It's almost like I expect guys to be like that to me since it happens so often. Its something that usually happens in private, and nobody knows its going on and even if they do they dont do anything about it. And you cant tell on them cause if you do the guy will come after you real bad and who wants that? If I cant avoid it, I just deal with it and dont tell anybody about it except sometimes some friends who have the same thing ging on. But yeah, this happens a real lot, more than you think it does.

“WOOH!!”

Since: May 08

Vallejo, CA

#12 Oct 25, 2008
Kim wrote:
It happens a lot. Ive been hit, beaten, and made to do sex stuff to guys more times than I could count, and so have some of my friends. It's almost like I expect guys to be like that to me since it happens so often. Its something that usually happens in private, and nobody knows its going on and even if they do they dont do anything about it. And you cant tell on them cause if you do the guy will come after you real bad and who wants that? If I cant avoid it, I just deal with it and dont tell anybody about it except sometimes some friends who have the same thing ging on. But yeah, this happens a real lot, more than you think it does.
There's no reason to tolerate being treated that way. Find a local Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault agency in your area; they can help you learn the warning signs, and what you can do to keep yourself safe. And if a guy is forcing you to do sexual things against your will, that is rape (or at the least, some form of sexual assault).

Since: Oct 07

Location hidden

#13 Oct 25, 2008
abelone wrote:
do girls ever hit their boyfriends?
And wives hit their husbands.
It works both ways.

It's just more often reported when the male strikes the female than when the gal hits the guy. It's not "Manly" to report that abuse, if one is a male.

We have an obligation to see that all such reports are taken seriously, no matter the gender of the reporting party, or the gender of the party who is behaving violently.

Kids need classes in what to look for, in a healthy relationship, and in an unhealthy relationship, and I firmly believe that ALL kids should be put through Peer Mediation classes, so that they can learn how to 'fight' with their' partners in a more appropriate manner.

Since: Jul 07

Stockton, CA

#14 Oct 26, 2008
Fifth Generation wrote:
<quoted text>
And wives hit their husbands.
It works both ways.
It's just more often reported when the male strikes the female than when the gal hits the guy. It's not "Manly" to report that abuse, if one is a male.
We have an obligation to see that all such reports are taken seriously, no matter the gender of the reporting party, or the gender of the party who is behaving violently.
Kids need classes in what to look for, in a healthy relationship, and in an unhealthy relationship, and I firmly believe that ALL kids should be put through Peer Mediation classes, so that they can learn how to 'fight' with their' partners in a more appropriate manner.
You are the very definition of intelligent thought Fifth!!
Jane Doe

United States

#15 Dec 19, 2008
I have a 13 year old boy who is huge for his age. He wears size 13 shoe, is a foot taller then I am and outweighs me. All through his younger years I was his best friend. He was the easiest of all of us to get along with. At age 11 I noticed some changes in him. He put tobasco sause on his nonverbal brothers tongue to punish him for making weird sounds. He is mean to his older sister. He puts his fists up to me. He kicked a hole in my wall. Tonight he hit me with a box. I hit him back and could tell how strong he is. I suspect at this rate of attitude and growth we are introuble when he turns 16. My sons father (also my husband) refuses to do anything about anything. He ignores our sons behavior and when he kicked a hold through the wall, my husband said oh he slipped and fell or something. My son has told me about marijuana deals at school. How can I get external help without jeapardizing my other 3 children?

“WOOH!!”

Since: May 08

Vallejo, CA

#16 Dec 20, 2008
Jane Doe wrote:
I have a 13 year old boy who is huge for his age. He wears size 13 shoe, is a foot taller then I am and outweighs me. All through his younger years I was his best friend. He was the easiest of all of us to get along with. At age 11 I noticed some changes in him. He put tobasco sause on his nonverbal brothers tongue to punish him for making weird sounds. He is mean to his older sister. He puts his fists up to me. He kicked a hole in my wall. Tonight he hit me with a box. I hit him back and could tell how strong he is. I suspect at this rate of attitude and growth we are introuble when he turns 16. My sons father (also my husband) refuses to do anything about anything. He ignores our sons behavior and when he kicked a hold through the wall, my husband said oh he slipped and fell or something. My son has told me about marijuana deals at school. How can I get external help without jeapardizing my other 3 children?
Have you tried talking to your son's school counselor? They should have information on resources.

Since: Jul 07

Stockton, CA

#17 Dec 20, 2008
I hope this kid gets some sense into him fast. His future is bleak if he does not.

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