Despite their daughter's death, San J...

Despite their daughter's death, San Jose girl's parents ask for mercy for teen driver

There are 8 comments on the Inland Valley Daily Bulletin story from Nov 26, 2010, titled Despite their daughter's death, San Jose girl's parents ask for mercy for teen driver. In it, Inland Valley Daily Bulletin reports that:

The parents of the Santa Teresa High cheerleader killed last weekend in a car full of teenagers and booze bottles said that the 17-year-old driver will suffer the rest of her life with the burden of Jordan West's death and shouldn't be charged with any crime.

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Nancy

Walnut, CA

#1 Nov 26, 2010
It's sad to lose a life so foolishly, but if teens are not held accountable for their actions, how will they learn the hard lessons? They'll always have mommy and daddy to bail them out, intervene on their behalf and in every way prevent them from understanding accountability in their own lives. If you think I'm wrong, then look again at how many youngsters turned up at the candlelight vigil drunk. They certainly aren't going to learn by observation if they don't want to.

Save the driver/best friend's life by holding her responsible for what she did. Give her an opportunity to pay off her debt for the destruction and death she caused. Maybe, just maybe she'll get it.
montclair

Whittier, CA

#2 Nov 26, 2010
Nancy wrote:
It's sad to lose a life so foolishly, but if teens are not held accountable for their actions, how will they learn the hard lessons? They'll always have mommy and daddy to bail them out, intervene on their behalf and in every way prevent them from understanding accountability in their own lives. If you think I'm wrong, then look again at how many youngsters turned up at the candlelight vigil drunk. They certainly aren't going to learn by observation if they don't want to.
Save the driver/best friend's life by holding her responsible for what she did. Give her an opportunity to pay off her debt for the destruction and death she caused. Maybe, just maybe she'll get it.
I kind of agree with you,, But its hard to pick sides on this story.As a parent, I hope that I never have to be on either situation of these 2 parents.Im a parent of 2 teenagers,Its hard when your trying to make the best out of them and they just dont get it.On the parents of the girl who unfortunately got killed..God bless them , they have a good heart
Dare

United States

#3 Nov 26, 2010
It's not what the victims parents want. The girl driving committed a crime, she must be held accountable. Maybe her conviction would deter another person from driving drunk. Then again maybe not, too many times we just slap people on the wrist and move on. Others see that and figure, "it won't happen to me.” We need to get tougher on these kinds of killings. We also need to educate kids before they get to the age of driving. Maybe a viewing of the video from Australia at this link would help. It's graphic, but also very sobering. Maybe graphic is what needs to be done to deter drunk driving.

http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup...
chief1

Norwalk, CA

#4 Nov 26, 2010
Dare wrote:
It's not what the victims parents want. The girl driving committed a crime, she must be held accountable. Maybe her conviction would deter another person from driving drunk. Then again maybe not, too many times we just slap people on the wrist and move on. Others see that and figure, "it won't happen to me.” We need to get tougher on these kinds of killings. We also need to educate kids before they get to the age of driving. Maybe a viewing of the video from Australia at this link would help. It's graphic, but also very sobering. Maybe graphic is what needs to be done to deter drunk driving.
http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup...
I agree with you, she needs to be held accountable. But I also feel that all the kids in that car, including the victim, were responsible for what happened. They all used poor judgement by drinking and smoking weed and then getting in a car and expecting the driver to somehow get them home safely.
It's sad. My two boys are in their 20's now and I've talked to them many times about not drinking and driving, but I still worry about them when they go out.
change your mind

Waianae, HI

#5 Nov 26, 2010
Nancy wrote:
It's sad to lose a life so foolishly, but if teens are not held accountable for their actions, how will they learn the hard lessons? They'll always have mommy and daddy to bail them out, intervene on their behalf and in every way prevent them from understanding accountability in their own lives. If you think I'm wrong, then look again at how many youngsters turned up at the candlelight vigil drunk. They certainly aren't going to learn by observation if they don't want to.
Save the driver/best friend's life by holding her responsible for what she did. Give her an opportunity to pay off her debt for the destruction and death she caused. Maybe, just maybe she'll get it.
Couldn’t have said it any better...I also agree with you! She needs to be held accountable for her actions. If the parents of the deceased really cared about this young lady who made the decision to drive drunk then they will stand behind her as she goes forward with the criminal charges.
Who is to say down the road their feelings will change??? Right now they are hurting, grieving for their daughter but all that hurt will turn into anger and they may regret the decision they made! If anything forgive her but don't ignore what happened.....
Just my opinion

Garner, NC

#6 Nov 26, 2010
While I agree with the fact that the driver should be held accountable, what I struggle with is to what degree should she and she alone be held accountable. All the teens in that car, including the victim need to shoulder some of the responsiblity. The one driving isn't the only one who made a bad choice. It just happened to be her car. It could have been any one of the other teens driving that night. As for the mother of the victim. I couldn't have said it any better. Teens if you have been drinking call someone! A parent, a cab, a godparent, anyone! Just don't drive! That is what I told my children because even though in my perfect world they wouldn't think of drinking and driving, the reality was I knew they may. So my children called or stayed the night where they were at. Some might say that made me a "friend" to my children. No it was just me being realistic and it kept them alive. My condolences to all involved.
live oak gal

Santa Cruz, CA

#7 Nov 28, 2010
Accountability is all about perspective. I do not think the friend should be charged as an adult. This wasn't a gang shooting or a robbery gone bad. To have her face the same amount of time in adult prison with the dregs of society solves nothing. Society will not be any safer with the friend in prison for 10-15 years. I have teenagers and god forbid that I, as a parent end up on either side of that coin.
A mother

San Jose, CA

#8 Nov 1, 2012
live oak gal wrote:
Accountability is all about perspective. I do not think the friend should be charged as an adult. This wasn't a gang shooting or a robbery gone bad. To have her face the same amount of time in adult prison with the dregs of society solves nothing. Society will not be any safer with the friend in prison for 10-15 years. I have teenagers and god forbid that I, as a parent end up on either side of that coin.
What all of you don't know is that this girl was supposed to be the designated driver and she had recently turned 18. Yes they all knew better than to drink. Yes they all got into the car. And yes they expected the driver to be sober. The fact is the driver was honored at her high school graduation. She continues to drink and get behind the wheel. Jordan's parents weren't even invited to their own daughters graduation. Their daughter was no longer a student there. My daughter was close with Jordan. Do I feel Jordan was at fault for her death? Nope. The driver is at fault. She knew better. And continues to drive drunk, go to parties, and celebrate with her family. The rest of us continue to mourn the loss of our beloved Jordan. The family just wanted an apology. Still waiting...

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