child refuses to go to preschool
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Derby, UK

#84 Sep 18, 2012
Stressed and Confused wrote:
My daughter now 3 1/2 started preshool in september. The first week she loved it, she kissed me goodbye, didn't care that I left, she loved telling everyone about it, and then after that she hated it. She cried every morning, she would ask me every night do I have school tomorrow...She would tell me her teacher was a lion and she didn't want to go back anymore. I kept her there for two months, but with no improvement I took her out. Now I have started to a mommy and me class with her to get her ready for pre-k 4 in september, but she still was reluctant to go to that even though I was with her. I feel like the first school really tramautized her and now I am haveing such a hard time getting her back into the swing of things...I really don't know what to do!!!
hi please let me know how did u sort it out as i have exactly same problem with my daughter.thanks

United States

#85 Oct 5, 2012
My son...3 years old..will not go. He loved it at first went everyday. Now all if a sudden he hates it and will not go. Says his stomach hurts. Its crazy cuz he had to be excepted to this school and now he wont go they're gonna kick him out. :(


#86 Oct 5, 2012
confused wrote:
My son...3 years old..will not go. He loved it at first went everyday. Now all if a sudden he hates it and will not go. Says his stomach hurts. Its crazy cuz he had to be excepted to this school and now he wont go they're gonna kick him out.:(
that must be hard for you, but if he suffer too much by carefoul it could leave trauma for rest of life. i read somwhere kids can have health problems and bad dreams from it, this will have big impact for future, we just left it for later will see how it goes but not pushing at all,..

Bristow, VA

#87 Oct 17, 2012
The same problem here. Just that she will be 5 inJanuary and my concern is what if she refuses to go to school next fall? she started preschool and was attending for three weeks, loved it, then just hate it. She has tommy aches ,. cries a lot , and it is immposible to get her to preschool. We talk about everything, it sems there 'isnt any problem with the teachers or with the children. Anybody on this forum that has any positive experiance?

United States

#89 Dec 8, 2012
Bobby Logston wrote:
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I totally agree with you. Mothers should stay home with their kids before age 5. But not everyone does the best they can as parents, as much as we like for that to be true.
If EVERYONE did his/her best for the children, we wouldn't see so many dysfunction brought on by dumb decisions and selfishness on the parts of the parents. Many of them put their own desires, careers, and hobbies ahead of their offsprings.
Result: dumping kids at daycare, nanny or babysitter.
Comments like this are insensitive and ignorant. The world we live in requires many families to have both parents working in order to keep the heat on, food on the table and provide medical care. To make the generalization that mothers/parents who work don't love their children as much is just hateful. You didn't mean just mothers did you? Because that would be sexist as well. Maybe you think that educated women with careers shouldn't be able to have children and that should be left to trophy wives and irresponsible welfare recipients. It is very hard to delegate taking care of your child for the day and even harder when there is a breach of trust with the daycare provider, which is what the parents on this board struggle with. Don't make it worse.

Silver Spring, MD

#90 Feb 4, 2013
Stacey wrote:
<quoted text>Do you have children?
Read the post more carefully....

Frederick, MD

#91 Jul 29, 2013
[My son who just turned 3 loved going to school as well but for the past 6 days begs not to go.I had already been contemplating changing schools because he's been there now for 8 weeks and has been bitten 7 times, but put it off because he still seemed so happy.Out of the 7 times he's been bitten,the school has documented it once and the response from the teachers are "I didn't see anything, so it must have happened after we left, we will keep an eye on things"...My son doesn't want to talk about it or say who it is and the school's response to that is he needs to learn how to openly communicate better.Most recently I received a letter from one of the teachers stating "children at your son's age are learning how to work disputes out between themselves and that their actions bring consequences.I'm sorry we don't see everything and we appreciate your open communication with us." I spoke to some of the other parents at the school and the had the same problem with their children being bit last year.The biter was an aggressive child with some social and emotional problems that coincidentally is in my son's class this year.The teachers' policy for that is to keep that child near them at all times..I am really upset by all this. Am I being over reactive or hasty? I am enrolling my son in a new school immediately even though this school states they need a 2 week notice. Any advice as to a different way to handle all of this and a better way to convey how upset I am?[/You are not overreacting at all! You gave them your child in hopes he will be safe and taken care of while you're not there. They are professionals. I know that children need to learn to be independent and resolve disputes among themselves but he was bitten 7 times in 8 weeks and I think that's crazy. My son was bitten once and I didn't like that they took it too lightly. I felt like they should have communicated it to the parents of the child who bit him at least. They promised though they'd keep eye on that boy because my son complained few times he got hit by him and he was scared from him. But teachers seem to pay attention to it and limit any confrontations. If there are, we're leaving the school. My son is 2.5 year and I believe, at this early age, althoug they have to learn to fight their battles, they are too young to face bullies and still need adults to help them be safe. Our children are most important and we are here to protect them. We have full right to get upset if they're hurt]

Pretoria, South Africa

#92 May 12, 2014
Please help******
My 2 year old son has been in pre school for 4 months now but his still cries like its his first day there! He starts by asking me where we going in the morning and when I say school he cries and says he does not want to go there, so I just lie and say we going to the mall to make him feel better, but the moment we drive into the school gate he screams! What could be the problem?

Brooklyn, NY

#93 Jun 10, 2014
Stacey wrote:
<quoted text>Do you have children?
She says in her post that she has a 4 year old son

Piscataway, NJ

#95 Jan 9, 2016
my daughter us 4 and she has been going since September but recently suring christmas she had a viral cold and when she went back in January she is afraid to go. In the morning she says no school.

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