Shame on DSS for neglect in a boy's t...

Shame on DSS for neglect in a boy's torture

There are 28 comments on the Lowell Sun story from Mar 31, 2008, titled Shame on DSS for neglect in a boy's torture. In it, Lowell Sun reports that:

I called my wife from work the other day and asked her one question: "Hi Honey. Hey listen, how would you feel about adopting a little boy?" There was extended silence on the other end of the phone.

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Speak out about it

Dover, MA

#21 Apr 1, 2008
My parents have been foster parents for a very long time. I have seen over a 100 kids come and go into my parents house. I would wake up in the a.m. and there was a new foster child in my room. I would always ask my mom why what happend to this one. My mom would not hide anything from us. She told us the truth of why that child was there. Over the past 25 years my mom has adopted over 30 kids who where going to "AGE OUT" of DSS. That means that no one adopted them so when they turn 18 and do not go on to college DSS stops calling and stop sending that child money. So what my mother and father did was when they are 14 years old ALL the money that they are givin to raise that child they bank aside for that child so when they are 18 and do not want to go on to college my parents give them that money. Do you know that DSS tells them to fend for themself after the age of 18! No help getting them on there feet or first or last months rent some where, NOTHING! If that child came into care when they where 5 or 6 they should have been adopted but NO DSS thinks that they should give that drug addict mother one more chance to get her kids back. I have seen it before that mom has 5 kids nad keeps on having them till the court or DSS lets her keep one. What about the other kids she has already have. DSS needs to change there rules and take care of the kids! I agree there are not a lot of foster homes for all these kids. I now myself do foster care with my husband but I can only take in so many kids on top of my own 3 kids. I just with I had a bigger home to open my doors to them all.
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Dover, MA

#22 Apr 1, 2008
Until some of these foster children who are raised in the system speak out about there care in the system its going to fall on deaf ears. I ask you, if you are or where a foster child at some point in time, please speak out about your time in the system. Unless you speak out about how the system was to you, then we don't know how to change the system. In the long run someone needs to file suit against the state of Mass. for the system to change. All it takes is for one person to tell there story and then another and another.

Since: Mar 08

Harrisburg, PA

#23 Apr 1, 2008
Lou wrote:
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Whatrever! I feel so bad for the overworked, underpaid, self rightous DSS worker. That no excuse for not doing your job when human life is involved. How many children will die from abusers after DSS has decided they are fit parents. And how many children who are not abused will be taken away from their family. It seems to me that DSS has their priorities backwards.
I'm a nurse who has worked with a shortage of help for years. What if nurses used the shortage of help excuse to neglect thair duties while taken care of you or your family member? Whould you think that excuse is OK then. Think about that.
Here in PA we had a case where a girl was starved to death...the social workers seriously dropped the ball. One even forged papers saying she was at the house and saw the child and she was well (yeah- this was a few weeks before starvation killed her). They went on trial for it, and got off. No punishment for forging legal documents! It's sick! The courts DEFENDED their actions.

I don't have any sympathy for them. In what other profession could you forge legal documents and LIE and that would be okay?
pdplowell

Lowell, MA

#24 Apr 1, 2008
OK, in this case it looks like the DSS worker screwed up. That should be dealt with. The bigger issue is this. Since the 1970s in child welfare there has been a slow and steady shift in philosophy about what approach state DSS agencies should take. At one end it the "family preservation" movement, where you keep the family together at all costs. At the other end is the "child protection" movement, where you remove the child to avoid abuse. For YEARS now, across the country, there has been a steady shift from one end of this spectrum to the other. DSS in Mass just reached the end of the "family preservation" movement (notice how many stories like this have been in the news lately? its because DSS has an agency wide philosophy of keeping families together). Now, because of stories like this (and this started with Haley Poutre) DSS will begin shifting towards "Child Protection" - in the sense of removing children for "lesser" incidents of abuse. Then, a few years from now, there will be stories in the paper about how DSS just comes in and takes kids away "for no good reason." I dont have the answer for this, but this has been going on for 30+ years and likely will continue. It's sad that kids have to get hurt for public policy changes.
laurie

Brighton, MA

#25 Apr 1, 2008
DSS is a laugh and needs a complete overhaul.
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Dover, MA

#26 Apr 2, 2008
Dragonfly wings wrote:
I agree on alot of the comments here, But what about the DSS workers that just step in and take your baby or in this case babies? My daughter had a very hard and difficult birth of twin baby girls, both were born alittle over 2 months premature and both breech, At 3 days old we took pictures of the babies and you could see finger brusies on the ribs of both babies, my daughter nor any other family members got to handle or hold the babies for almost 2 weeks, yet when my daughter got to take her babies home and after about 3 weeks she had taken one of the babies to the hospital because of the crying, Which she thought was from being a colic baby, The DR's took x-rays of the babies ribs and found that they had been broken, Well guess what? My daughter is now being charged with not just 1 but 2 counts of child neglect, and there are alot of family that want to get the babies until this nightmare is over, but NO, the foster parents have been approved to adopt the babies already, my daughter was just served with (T.P.R.) papers and hasn't been to court yet, What ever happened to innocent until proven guilty?
If there is something wrong with your daughters children and you say they where born early then they the hospital will have X-Rays to prove that the childs ribs where already broken. I myself had a child 12 weeks early and let me tell you they did every test there was out there. I asked why and they said they had to to cross there T's and dott there I's. My child had a broken hip and was in a body cast for 7 1/2 weeks. She told is now 4 years old. If you say its true, then call the hospital and talk with your doctors who treated your grandchildren, they will help you.
someone who knows

AOL

#27 Jun 8, 2008
Politics is just one profession that comes to mind!
watchfull grandma

Rockford, IL

#28 Jun 11, 2014
DSS is a joke and has always been a joke. I worked for low income housing for years and each time a tenant reported abuse they gave the kids back or found nothing wrong ..only to have the so called anonymous caller receive threats from them. I too reported a family and the father attacked me verbally in my office until I threatened to call the police.. My son who had 50% custody reported verbal abuse and took his wife to Lowell Court only to have his custody stopped and hers regained. This agency needs to be dismantled and privatized. There are too many who knows who and who owes who a favor....They are politically appointees just like any other STATE job in Massachusetts. My retirement will be spent in New Hampshire ...Not one red nickel of my tax dollars will be spent in this STATE. I've had enough.

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