Seattle's single moms find strength in one another

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Randi Anderson knew she was on her own the day her son was born 22 months ago when she drove herself to the hospital.
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Randi

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#81
Feb 28, 2014
 
Well, hmmm... MAC is clearly written on the birth certificate. Damn. Weird, right???:-/ Go figure? Do you think he signed something? He saw the birth certificate. Do you think he was a fraud?? Odd.
Randi

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#82
Feb 28, 2014
 
I'll have to look in to that 'hire a daddy' thing. Thanks for the tip! ;-)
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#83
Feb 28, 2014
 
Pssst- I 'moved on' over 10 years ago, when I kicked him and his stuff out of my place.:-/ Oddly, you are still here?!
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#84
Feb 28, 2014
 
There is an idea. I wonder if we can have the better person sign the affidavit now? I would much prefer to have someone else on there. Ideas? Again, I am so happy you are helping me here. Thank you! lol
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#85
Feb 28, 2014
 
I mean... Because DNA doesn't really matter. A better person would be so much better. I fully agree.
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#86
Feb 28, 2014
 
Below is what I found regarding adoption and when parental consent is not needed in WA State. Given that he has a record that includes drug abuse and sexual assault and has paid under $200 in 10 years (owing $25,000). I'm pretty sure we can get it figured out. If not, however, I think we would need his consent which would require him to actually speak to me (or the courts) which he has proven to be incabable of doing. So.... any great ideas from you would be welcomed. Again, thanks so much for your assistance in this matter!:-)(FINALLY, I have been really hoping this would happen. It would make life much easier for us all.)

When Parental Consent Is Not Needed
Citation: Rev. Code §§ 26.33.120; 26.33.170
Except in the case of an Indian child, the parental rights of a parent may be terminated upon a showing by clear and
convincing evidence that it is in the best interests of the child to terminate the relationship, the parent has failed to
perform parental duties, and the parent is withholding consent to adoption contrary to the best interests of the child.
Except in the case of an Indian child, the parent-child relationship of an alleged father who claims paternity may be
terminated upon a showing by clear and convincing evidence that it is in the best interests of the child to terminate the
relationship, that he has failed to perform parental duties under circumstances showing a substantial lack of regard for his
parental obligations, that he is withholding consent to adoption contrary to the best interests of the child, or that he is
not the father.
The parent-child relationship of an Indian child and his or her parent or alleged father, where paternity has been claimed
or established, may be terminated only pursuant to the standards set forth in 25 U.S.C.§ 1912(f).
The parent-child relationship of a parent or an alleged father may be terminated if the parent or alleged father fails to
appear after being notified of the hearing in the manner required by § 26.33.310.
The consent of an agency, the department, or a legal guardian may be dispensed with if the court determines by clear
and convincing evidence that the proposed adoption is in the best interests of the child.
The consent of an alleged father, birth parent, or parent may be dispensed with if the court finds that the proposed
adoption is in the best interests of the child, and the alleged father, birth parent, or parent:
• Has been found guilty of rape or incest where the child was the victim of the rape or incest
• Has been found guilty of rape or incest where the other parent of the child was the victim and the child was
conceived as a result of the rape or incest
When Consent Can Be Executed
Citation: Rev. Code §§ 26.33.080; 26.33.160
A petition for relinquishment, together with the written consent to adoption, may be filed before the child’s
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#87
Feb 28, 2014
 
And, then, just imagine the free time you would have on your hands after you stop stalking me.:-) YAY!!!
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#88
Feb 28, 2014
 
damn you keep telling on yourself ! State Law requires "that if a mother is not married at the time a child is born NO FATHER WILL BE NAMED on the birth certificate unless both parents file sworn statements",... however when you go to the welfare office the state will not give you public assistance such as food stamps housing, all the welfare you used ,You are required to list a name on the father application otherwise you will be denied public assistance. Dumb broad keep talking your just exposing yourself
Randi

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#89
Feb 28, 2014
 
Your point? Yes, of course, I have needed assistance. And, unfortunately, he is listed on the birth certificate. I never have said otherwise. So, let's get his pathetic self off of it. You are funny.
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#90
Feb 28, 2014
 
Oh, you thought I was too 'good' for that? I know I don't fit your stereotype, but I am a mom who needed assistance. I'm not ashamed of doing what I needed in order to provide what I could for my amazingly bright son.
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#91
Feb 28, 2014
 
Dumb broad? Who says that? Who is this? So stupid.
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#92
Feb 28, 2014
 
I certainly wish he was not ever listed on the birthcert. If I could change it, I would do so happily. Again, if you can be reasonable for a minute, perhaps you could assist in making that change? Or are you just here to stalk and attack?

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