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Contentious study says spanking may benefit children

There are 21 comments on the www.ctv.ca story from Jan 8, 2010, titled Contentious study says spanking may benefit children. In it, www.ctv.ca reports that:

Home : Health : Contentious study says spanking may benefit children Contentious study says spanking may benefit children Viewer CTV News Video Canada AM: Experts debate the pros and cons of spanking Two parenting experts discuss new U.S. research that suggests children who are spanked may be a better adult.

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“Never stop learning.”

Since: Sep 09

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#1 Jan 8, 2010
Hmmm, I guess I was doing good for my kids. They are productive members of society, even though they have minds and opinions of their own and don't mind voicing them and providing the facts to back them up.
sandy

United States

#2 Jan 8, 2010
Well, there is spanking and there is abuse. It's about time they figure out we shouldn't let those kids do whatever they want. Sometimes a spanking is needed. Don't need a belt or paddle or whatever to do it though.

“Never stop learning.”

Since: Sep 09

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#3 Jan 8, 2010
sandy wrote:
Well, there is spanking and there is abuse. It's about time they figure out we shouldn't let those kids do whatever they want. Sometimes a spanking is needed. Don't need a belt or paddle or whatever to do it though.
Sandy, I agree.
PDeverit

Portland, OR

#4 Jan 9, 2010
Spirit of the law or letter of the law?: The vast majority of professionals agree that child bottom-battering/slapping isn’t healthy. A marginal few (mostly religious fundamentalists as those at Calvin) think that child bottom-slapping is good. They use the same selective literalist interpretation of the Bible as was used to justify “witch”-burning, depraved torture methods for those accused of sin and heresy, slavery, racism, wife-beating, oppression of women and a host of other social ills.

Since: Nov 08

Albany, CA

#6 Jan 10, 2010
The vast majority of professionals is liberal and bent over double with political correctness. Thus, it would be unexpected for them to be for the proverbial "swat on the butt." However, it has been used by mothers since we were living in caves and has saved many little fingers and hands from the cave fire to the light socket.

No one will ever love you as unreservedly as your mother and she is the one who swatted your butt when you were about to do something dangerous or stupid. That tool used to be transferred to female teachers who were the first females for whom little boys had feelings of love beyond mother. So classroom paddling was natural and created both an orderly learning environment and transference; an important step in development.

Once again political correctness has destroyed that which worked so well for so many so long. It would appear we are doomed to destruction from within.

“Never stop learning.”

Since: Sep 09

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#7 Jan 10, 2010
PDeverit wrote:
Spirit of the law or letter of the law?: The vast majority of professionals agree that child bottom-battering/slapping isn’t healthy. A marginal few (mostly religious fundamentalists as those at Calvin) think that child bottom-slapping is good. They use the same selective literalist interpretation of the Bible as was used to justify “witch”-burning, depraved torture methods for those accused of sin and heresy, slavery, racism, wife-beating, oppression of women and a host of other social ills.
Please show in the Bible where “witch”-burning, depraved torture methods for those accused of sin and heresy, wife-beating, oppression of women and a host of other social ills is supported.

We are talking about spanking, not abuse, there is a difference. If you had read the article, you would know that the physical discipline occurred during the early years, 2-6, and wasn't an on-going action. The ages mentioned are the years in which children are learning the differences between right and wrong. They are also learning self-control and what is acceptable behavior.

I'm sure that most of these professionals don't have children and are trying to project their beliefs onto those who do have children. You can't walk a mile in another's shoes if you havent' traveled his path.
omg

Midway, KY

#8 Jan 10, 2010
Lets teach our young children that it's ok to hit another person. Sound right to you?
HHMMMM

Frankfort, KY

#9 Jan 10, 2010
omg wrote:
Lets teach our young children that it's ok to hit another person. Sound right to you?
Agree. I quit spanking my child when it finally dawned on me that all I was teaching was that if people don't do what you say or what you want you get to hit them.
not completely true

Frankfort, KY

#10 Jan 10, 2010
omg wrote:
Lets teach our young children that it's ok to hit another person. Sound right to you?
No, let's teach our children RIGHT from WRONG. There is absolutely nothing wrong with spanking your child when you're doing it out of love, not rage and anger. There is a difference (a very BIG difference) between spanking and abuse. I spank my children and I get so many compliments on the behavior of my children and how respectful they are. People act like it's a secret to raising good, behaved, well-mannnered children. Let's continue to do what the government says and continue to let our children get out of line. Time out may work for some children, but it's very obvious that it's not doing the job alone. I was spanked as a child as well and I don't go around thinking if I have a problem with someone that it's automatically okay to resort to hitting. Now, on the flip side of that if someone puts their hands on me first, I most definitely will defend myself. You have to TEACH your children these things. Quit leaving the responsibility of raising your children up to the teachers in the schools, Lord knows they can't handle these children nowadays. If you teach your children and talk with them in conjunction with spanking, there is nothing wrong with it.

“Never stop learning.”

Since: Sep 09

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#11 Jan 10, 2010
not completely true wrote:
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No, let's teach our children RIGHT from WRONG. There is absolutely nothing wrong with spanking your child when you're doing it out of love, not rage and anger. There is a difference (a very BIG difference) between spanking and abuse. I spank my children and I get so many compliments on the behavior of my children and how respectful they are. People act like it's a secret to raising good, behaved, well-mannnered children. Let's continue to do what the government says and continue to let our children get out of line. Time out may work for some children, but it's very obvious that it's not doing the job alone. I was spanked as a child as well and I don't go around thinking if I have a problem with someone that it's automatically okay to resort to hitting. Now, on the flip side of that if someone puts their hands on me first, I most definitely will defend myself. You have to TEACH your children these things. Quit leaving the responsibility of raising your children up to the teachers in the schools, Lord knows they can't handle these children nowadays. If you teach your children and talk with them in conjunction with spanking, there is nothing wrong with it.
"If you teach your children and talk with them in conjunction with spanking, there is nothing wrong with it."

That is the secret. You don't just spank a child and leave it at that. You also don't spank them when you are angry or upset.

Since: Nov 08

San Francisco, CA

#12 Jan 11, 2010
Does anyone here remember reading of the work of Pavlov and the newer, more fashionable aversion therapy?

There is a psychologist in Russia who claims treating depression with spankings gets better results than anything.

Karl Marx said, "Without physical pain there is no gain." Now that should make all the liberals happy and ready to bend over.

“Never stop learning.”

Since: Sep 09

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#13 Jan 11, 2010
Adrian Vance wrote:
Does anyone here remember reading of the work of Pavlov and the newer, more fashionable aversion therapy?
There is a psychologist in Russia who claims treating depression with spankings gets better results than anything.
Karl Marx said, "Without physical pain there is no gain." Now that should make all the liberals happy and ready to bend over.
I like the way you think.
JUSTINE

Englewood, CO

#14 Nov 10, 2010
not completely true wrote:
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No, let's teach our children RIGHT from WRONG. There is absolutely nothing wrong with spanking your child when you're doing it out of love, not rage and anger. There is a difference (a very BIG difference) between spanking and abuse. I spank my children and I get so many compliments on the behavior of my children and how respectful they are. People act like it's a secret to raising good, behaved, well-mannnered children. Let's continue to do what the government says and continue to let our children get out of line. Time out may work for some children, but it's very obvious that it's not doing the job alone. I was spanked as a child as well and I don't go around thinking if I have a problem with someone that it's automatically okay to resort to hitting. Now, on the flip side of that if someone puts their hands on me first, I most definitely will defend myself. You have to TEACH your children these things. Quit leaving the responsibility of raising your children up to the teachers in the schools, Lord knows they can't handle these children nowadays. If you teach your children and talk with them in conjunction with spanking, there is nothing wrong with it.
GREAT post. Thank you! As a child and teen I was spanked by my drunkard, addled father. His spankings were EVIL; however if I were spanked by a loving, caring father, who took the time to explain WHY I was being punished, and further explained that punishing me was an act of correction and love, I would have, on an emotional level welcomed the punishment.(while I probably would have been crying and trying to get him to forgo applying the strap.)

“Hail Satan”

Since: Nov 10

Hell

#15 Nov 11, 2010
My mom would spank me as a child. I would then ask what did I do wrong. She would never answer me, just spank me. I believe in talking with the child first to let them know why it is wrong in what they did and then disciplining (spanking, if need be) them. If you talk with them and explain why it is wrong in what they did, they will more than likely remember the next time they are wanting to do it. Spanking is a whole lot different than abuse. I do not believe in abuse.
Arie

United States

#16 Dec 27, 2010
JUSTINE wrote:
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GREAT post. Thank you! As a child and teen I was spanked by my drunkard, addled father. His spankings were EVIL; however if I were spanked by a loving, caring father, who took the time to explain WHY I was being punished, and further explained that punishing me was an act of correction and love, I would have, on an emotional level welcomed the punishment.(while I probably would have been crying and trying to get him to forgo applying the strap.)
I completely agree with you. Growing up with abusive alcoholics isn't the same as growing up with a father that wants to theach his daughter right from wrong and spanks her now and then. There is love in spanking. Hitting out of anger or influence is just hitting and no longer punishment. The child just begins to detest everything and find flaws in itself. Hence the most common phrase "why me" begins to appear
Ms Watts

Brooklyn, NY

#17 Sep 4, 2011
I think spanking is a very important role in parenting ! Usually over the clothing should be enough, but occasionally some kids (especially boys) need it across their Bare Bottom !
idiocracy

Toledo, OH

#18 Sep 7, 2011
i listen to dr. devo, who said,"whip it..whip it good".
Desiree k

Fremont, CA

#19 Apr 23, 2014
My dad would spank all of us kids as we were growing up it got to the point of the problem
Desiree k

Fremont, CA

#20 Apr 23, 2014
My dad would spanked my brothers and sisters and we got it on the bare bottom with a his hand and it hurt to he would hit all of us hard enough unlit ours butt was red and we got the message not to do it again. Ours father was a strict disciplinarian and he didn't want spoil brats or for us to act like spoil brats today there is no discipline with kids no wonder kids are mess up to day.
Trishalana L

Fremont, CA

#21 Apr 23, 2014
Trishalana L saids she's and hers brothers and sisters were raised by spanking hers father would hit us with a switch which my fathers would called his correction rod and he would give it to us on ours bare bottom and it hurt he would keeps it in his draw of his desk. If we done something bad he would called us into his office tells us to dropped ours pants and he would pulled the switch out of the drew and tells us to bend over his desk and gives it to us with the switch he would hit us hard enough so we can feel it and hits us unlit ours butts is red and then he would stop ours dad wasn't the same dad people sees he was very different person at home ours dad was strict with all of us kids he was a strict disciplinarian and he was very tough on all of us he used tough love in raising us all of kids

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