Navajo Healthy Marriage project offer...

Navajo Healthy Marriage project offers free education sessions

There are 35 comments on the Farmington Daily Times story from Oct 6, 2008, titled Navajo Healthy Marriage project offers free education sessions. In it, Farmington Daily Times reports that:

An unassuming brown trailer sits off the side of the highway in Kirtland. Inside, a staff of three professionals is in the business of mending relationships.

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Happy

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#23 Oct 7, 2008
What the F wrote:
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So what if they are doing it just to be doing it? So what if it's a trend? it changes nothing. Who cares where the family lines up in the non-existent alphabetical role call?
It seems like people are missing the big picture. Family is not about a name (or even marriage for that matter). It's about love and support.
"She's a drug addict and he's a violent drunk that beats her and the kids, but at least they all got the same last name." Please people!?
Come on!!
Bad morning?..wake up on the wrong side of the bed?
Pat

Farmington, NM

#24 Oct 7, 2008
The Healthy Marriage is not the only one providing education about healthy marriage. All My Relations in Albuquerque also provide the same service for Navajos and other Native Americans. The staff at the Kirtland project are not professional in the area of teaching or giving advice to anyone about marriages. The couples are being taught how to live like the western society. The material are based on Christian base teaching and the Native American beliefs and values are mixed in by the staffs. The money for this project is give to non Native American to come into the project to train staff to teach there co-called traditional ways. Both the director and co-director of this project are non Native American,so how do they know what the Navajos or other Native Americans need in their relationship?
uKnoMe

Ganado, AZ

#25 Oct 7, 2008
Dude wrote:
What's with the hypenated last names of the ladies mentioned in the article? Is this the trend for tribal workers? I thought that once your given in marriage you take his last name, not your last name first then his.(I have my reasons on why I don't agree with the hypenated last name bit)
As it was mentioned in an earlier post, it should be staffed with people with credible marriages, and the staff should know what they are faced with.
I am a native woman and my husband is of Mediterranean lineage and I have a hyphenated last name. I definitely wanted my publication record to be distinct from my husband's. The idea was have the name represent that we were equals in the marriage. Also, while my last name is not particularly rare, my husband's last name is. I am confident that I am the only person around on earth with my hyphenated last name. With my native last name hyphenated with the Mediterranean last name, I cannot be mistaken for a nonNative. Some of us native women have pride in our family name and want to keep it going to represent our Family. And for dudes who have issues with native women with hyphenated names, I say I think you have insecurity issues. LOL.
Facts

Albuquerque, NM

#27 Oct 7, 2008
Who said this woman is Navajo?
Chuck wrote:
married women with hyphenated last name are not serious about their marriages, but rather hang on to the aprons and separate life from their spouse. Navajo women with hyphenated last names are proned to divorces early so they can just drop the very last name which is their former spouse's name. Personally, I hate married women with hyphenated last name and it is a poor lesson for their children.
why

Florence, AL

#28 Oct 7, 2008
Wow, who cares about the name, maybe men should take the woman's name...in most Navajo families seems the woman is the spouse with an education and career anyways!
Dell

Chinle, AZ

#29 Dec 31, 2008
come on people..lets talk HEALTHY marriages...jeez
APWBD

Santa Fe, NM

#30 Dec 31, 2008
uKnoMe wrote:
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I am a native woman and my husband is of Mediterranean lineage and I have a hyphenated last name. I definitely wanted my publication record to be distinct from my husband's. The idea was have the name represent that we were equals in the marriage. Also, while my last name is not particularly rare, my husband's last name is. I am confident that I am the only person around on earth with my hyphenated last name. With my native last name hyphenated with the Mediterranean last name, I cannot be mistaken for a nonNative. Some of us native women have pride in our family name and want to keep it going to represent our Family. And for dudes who have issues with native women with hyphenated names, I say I think you have insecurity issues. LOL.
Thanks, uKnoMe! I'm 19 and not yet married, but I think I'll hyphenate if I do get married. My last name is part of my identity and I don't want to lose it.
black guns rule

Aztec, NM

#31 Jan 2, 2009
one more free thing, and they still complain about it.
Chicken Street Chick

Montebello, CA

#32 Jan 5, 2009
black guns rule wrote:
one more free thing, and they still complain about it.
there you go, free-be, I hope you accomplish something out of this program.
Mina

Port Washington, NY

#33 Jan 6, 2009
USMC Devil Dog wrote:
Why does it have to be the "Navajo Healthy Marraige Project"?
Why not just The Healthy Marriage Project?
Are the Navajo the only ones having problems in marraiges? No.
Don't programs that single out ancestry such as this promote racism in society through program segregation?
I would assume you would have to be Navajo to get the counseling.....?....and that's why it's named that? Correct me if I'm wrong.
Native X

Albuquerque, NM

#34 Jan 6, 2009
uKnoMe wrote:
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I am a native woman and my husband is of Mediterranean lineage and I have a hyphenated last name. I definitely wanted my publication record to be distinct from my husband's. The idea was have the name represent that we were equals in the marriage. Also, while my last name is not particularly rare, my husband's last name is. I am confident that I am the only person around on earth with my hyphenated last name. With my native last name hyphenated with the Mediterranean last name, I cannot be mistaken for a nonNative. Some of us native women have pride in our family name and want to keep it going to represent our Family. And for dudes who have issues with native women with hyphenated names, I say I think you have insecurity issues. LOL.
So which last name will your children take? Yours or your husbands?
See the problems this makes. I think too many women with hyphonated last names seem to be boastfull and full of themselves and cause problems for the rest.
I want to say I dont have a problem with you or your decisions but have seen way too many arrogant women with these types of names.
Native X

Albuquerque, NM

#35 Jan 6, 2009
USMC Devil Dog wrote:
Why does it have to be the "Navajo Healthy Marraige Project"?
Why not just The Healthy Marriage Project?
Are the Navajo the only ones having problems in marraiges? No.
Don't programs that single out ancestry such as this promote racism in society through program segregation?
Devil Dog: I couldnt have said it better myself. this is a very big problem with our society.
THANK YOU
Lynda Lasiloo

Farmington, NM

#36 Jan 6, 2009
I give a reason for healthier marriages: being in harmony and sane. These people are doing their jobs in helping our people so these people can, in turn, help their children become productive citizens and to become educated, of course. Some of us had to grow up on our own despite being in a unstable home life and disharmony, now, to me this is a worthy project. After all, no one truly knows the Navajo philosophy of life these days to understand about real life, so we just take things for granted every day. If you were taught, than you would understand the holistic of life, etc.
Clara

Zuni, NM

#37 Jan 23, 2014
What the F wrote:
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This sounds like a load of opinionated B.S. to me. What statistics? A well trained counselor does not suggest whatever they prefer, they usually follow a protocol and frequently suggest nothing at all, they just listen and mediate. It should not matter if their lives are perfect or not. Your statement about sick people needing to be treated by doctors as opposed to people who are sicker than them tells me you assume all doctors are perfect?
I agree with you. Certified counselors only guide and the client will do most of the changing (you cannot change a person, she/he have to want to). They (Counselors) are just ordinary people like King David but he was chosen to lead his people. Same with medicine men, they make the wrong choices in life but chosen to give remedies to people like doctors. Substance counselor had their mistakes but they lead back the loss to reality for good life before the person loses everything. Please, look at a person from all four sides before casting a harsh judgment.
avery

Window Rock, AZ

#38 Jul 22, 2016
Sud wrote:
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married women with hyphenated last names (Mary Maiden Name-Husband's Last Name) are presumably pretentious. Why bother inserting your husband's last name when the married women can keep her maiden and why in the world the husbands put up with it. Publications purposes are probably for 10% of US women and Navajo married women are doing it just to be doing it. What last name do they give to their children. When a service call or roll call is made by alphabetical order the married women stands separate from the husband and where do the children fit in?
Its to inform the previous last men in her relationship that she is now with a richer man that's paying her bills other then her child supports. If you no-longer don't see you last on her (-) name you are considered history and $ broke.

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