Step children

Since: Jan 14

United States

#1 Jan 13, 2014
long story.... my step children lived with their dad until 3 yrs ago. we have been married almost 2 yrs. since they went to live with their mother they have turned into monsters. they lie and steal. they never do what they are asked. the oldest is almost 18, he has become super weird since about 6 months after going to his mothers. he talks to himself and laughs and hand jestures. I mean a lot. he does not realize he is doing this. my husband has observed this behavior as well as the other things they do. I have suggested that he take him to see a dr or talk to his mother. the boy needs help. I am so freaked out by this behavior that I have moved my daughters out. we live in a different home. my husband will not talk to the boys mother as they hate each other. I cant talk to her because she is the most unpleasant person I have ever met. the kids used to be nice and sweet but not since going to live there. I want to move back in with my husband. the boy graduates this spring and turns 18 in march. I feel he should not be coming on weekends for over night visits after he graduates. he can come visit for a few hours and go back home. my husband wants to take him on vacation with us in late summer. I cannot do this. he scares me and my 13 yr old daughter to death, even his 12 year old sister is freaked out by his behavior. I don't think I am being unrational, I moved out so he could spend time with the boy without us about and freaking out. but the time is coming to cut the apron strings, get him some good medical help. I believe a lot of the behavior is stuff their mother tells them do. since I moved out she has cut a lot of visits out because she is mad at her ex. if I move back I figure the visits will resume full force. the woman hates my husband but she sure as hell don't want him happy and seems to be using the kids to cause trouble in our marriage. my husband and I get along very well. until these 2 start their shit when they come. we do not fight ever when they are not here. I have gave great amounts of leeway when it comes to these 2 but am at my wits end. there used to be 3 , last year the oldest and worst graduated and only came back to get xmas and birthday gifts, she came in the night and vandalized our garden statues for no reason. I am tired of being nice. I want my life with my husband back. I think the youngest will be much better behaved once the oldest isn't here. she gets along with my daughter great. they are friends. I think if we just let her come the bad influence of her mother wont be as bad without the older one to encourage her. anyone with advice???

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