I am well aware of what the topic of this forum is. The poster who began this thread said "kids will ruin your life," no "if" anywhere in the subject line. That can definitely be true when people who were undecided about or unwilling to have children cave in to pressure from family, friends or religious community to have them anyway.May I remind you of the topic of this forum. It's about if kids will ruin your life. As for the rest of your statement, all I can say is that you didn't understand what I meant.
I understood what you meant just fine. I just don't AGREE with what you said. Big difference.