I have to ask; was the "kids/no kids" issue EVER discussed between the two of you before you and your wife got married, and if so, did you ever say you DIDN'T want any?I am a dad trapped in the monotony of parenthood. I used to have an interest in life. Fishing, surfing, sex in the morning, jumping out of planes, alcoholic benders...Those things are gone forever. No one is to blame but me. It was my choice not to pull out. Too late for that now. We tried to stop at one, but apparently the doctor who did my vasectomy must not be able to identify simple anatomy. Or, maybe "GOD" miraculously repaired the ole' vas deferens. I love my wife so I do what is expected in my newly acquired role.
It just seems to me that if someone, be it a man or a woman, DOESN'T ever want children, that issue would be raised very EARLY, while dating, before marriage was even considered. If after a while, there is still the fundamental problem that one partner wanted kids and the other didn't, the best thing would be NOT to get married.
There really is NO compromise on this one, since that would mean having a child when one partner doesn't want any kids. It's much better for all concerned to end a dating relationship early than getting married and then having one or more kids a partner doesn't want.