Kids will ruin your life

Since: Feb 14

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#185 Mar 26, 2014
TdOff wrote:
Don't have any kids unless you're ready to throw your life away. Or if you really have to have one, just have ONE. You can usually recover from that pretty fairly. But when you hit 2 or more it becomes regret. They suck the living life out of you and you become an old fart that has nothing to live for. You give up ambitions and dreams and they find ways to cut you down. Kids suck.
Keep your pants up and mouth shut! stop screwing them d@mn monkeys for crack!!!!!!!!!!
Depressed mother

Fort Worth, TX

#186 Apr 16, 2014
Wow I was over here all sad and pissed at the thought of my kids have took me through since day 1. For years I wondered y I'm so depressed until n friend said when your kids get grown up live ur life again. He was right unfortunately!! I gave my whole life to my kids...stop dating, stop having fun,lost myself, couldn't take certain chances in my life because if I fail then we all fail. These teens are the up most disrespectful lieng deceitful most ungrateful ever but yet IV been soooo good to them. And IV wondered y I'm so depressed. I no longer have a life dats y!! I'm miserable!! I'm so glad I found this site. I feel a whole lot better now. I use to be the most outgoing happiest person ever now its the total total opposite.

Since: Feb 14

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#187 Apr 16, 2014
Depressed mother wrote:
Wow I was over here all sad and pissed at the thought of my kids have took me through since day 1. For years I wondered y I'm so depressed until n friend said when your kids get grown up live ur life again. He was right unfortunately!! I gave my whole life to my kids...stop dating, stop having fun,lost myself, couldn't take certain chances in my life because if I fail then we all fail. These teens are the up most disrespectful lieng deceitful most ungrateful ever but yet IV been soooo good to them. And IV wondered y I'm so depressed. I no longer have a life dats y!! I'm miserable!! I'm so glad I found this site. I feel a whole lot better now. I use to be the most outgoing happiest person ever now its the total total opposite.
Maybe you just need some TLC?
Mike Harold

United States

#188 May 27, 2014
Do not have kids your life will be so incredibly miserable. Free time will disappear and so will your life. Having kids is just not worth it, it's a bad risky investment guys don't do it.

Since: Feb 14

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#189 May 27, 2014
I went through a S.A.P with a Mike Harold..Great guy.
Mike Harold

Denver, CO

#190 May 28, 2014
Hey Pusherman I wasn't trying to offend you with my last post. I was just telling people about my personal experience before and after having kids. Everyone's experience migth differ. I'm a positive outgoing person with many friends but after having kids I can't definatly say that it was a bad ideal. To make matters worst I'm now paying child for a child that I love and barely get to see. If I could go back and change things I would.
Mike Harold

Denver, CO

#191 May 28, 2014
Spelling errors fixed

Hey Pusherman I wasn't trying to offend you with my last post. I was just telling people about my personal experience before and after having kids. Everyone's experience might differ. I'm a positive outgoing person with many friends but after having kids I can honestly say that it was a bad ideal. To make matters worst I'm now paying child support for a child that I love and barely get to see. If I could go back and change things I would.

Since: Feb 14

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#192 May 28, 2014
I wasn't Implying anything. I figured if you were him that you would've said so. I don't have any kids myself, but yeah, I am sure they're a game changer.
Kelly

Southlake, TX

#193 May 30, 2014
My friend with kids literally stopped talking to me because I didn't have kids. This is literally what she told me one day on the phone "I haven't been returning your calls because I'm jealous that you have extra money, free time and not stressed all the time". I then pointed out it was her choice to have kids not mine then one of her babies started crying and she said she would call me back... that was 8 months ago. This reaffirmed my decision to never have kids.

Since: Feb 14

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#194 May 30, 2014
Maybe you just haven't met the right guy Kelly?:)
Kelly

Southlake, TX

#195 May 30, 2014
Pusherman it doesn't matter if I find the right guy I don't want kids. I love my life the way it is and I love my FREEDOM!!!

Since: Feb 14

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#196 May 30, 2014
Yes, I understand kelly. I didn't want kids either and don't have any, but Now that I am getting older I would love to find a gal and have children with. I think it would be a great crown to wear. I am loving and affectionete and would love to be a parent and husband..I was just flirting with you, sorry bout that : )
Casey

Santa Rosa, CA

#197 Jun 12, 2014
derek4 wrote:
I have a daughter in her late 30's who left home at 18 and moved to another state because she wanted an exciting life of her own. She took up with a drug dealer and lived high for awhile until the bottom fell out.
Since then, she's lived in homeless shelters and has nothing to show for her wasted years.
The disappointment we felt almost ruined our lives, but we've learned to let go of it and move on.
The life she ruined the most was her own.
I can relate to that. I'm 56 and have not had a life I was 36. Stayed in a mariage for kids sake for years. Got divorced and took care of kids all by myself. Got a troubled teen on my hands now. I'll be dead before I'm free. I worry about them constantly. Feel guilty that I may not have done enough & they will end up in the streets. I'll pay anything to be magically be turned into an asshole so I can wash my hands of the whole thing, take my money and retire in far away land. Life sucks !!
Jason

Southlake, TX

#198 Jul 22, 2014
Kids end your life as you know it. Not only will you lose your own personal identity, but the realities of the stresses of child bearing will destroy your marriage, drive many to substance abuse and self doubt. Want to draw the last chapter in your story. Get married. Have kids. get divorced 10 years later and lose half of everything you worked for all your life. Men...just don't do it.
Kevin

Southlake, TX

#199 Jul 24, 2014
if you have kids your life and free time are a wrap its over for you.
Kevin

Southlake, TX

#200 Aug 13, 2014
James wrote:
If you enjoy living paycheck to paycheck, having (((NO))) free time and being tied down go ahead and have kids.
truest words ever spoken in the history of earth
Maria

Grapevine, TX

#201 Jan 20, 2015
It has always seemed to me that raising children is like having an extra full-time job; the reward for which is, a much delayed retirement
annals

Palmetto, FL

#203 Aug 28, 2016
TdOff wrote:
Don't have any kids unless you're ready to throw your life away. Or if you really have to have one, just have ONE. You can usually recover from that pretty fairly. But when you hit 2 or more it becomes regret. They suck the living life out of you and you become an old fart that has nothing to live for. You give up ambitions and dreams and they find ways to cut you down. Kids suck.
Parents who have easy, normal kids will say you are being harsh. Parents like me agree with everything you said here. It's horrible. When you have a child who wants to hurt you and ruin your reputation, who refuses help, who purposely destroys everything you try to achieve, you realize that having this kid ruined your life. You have one life and they destroy it.
Marie57

Colonial Heights, VA

#204 Oct 19, 2016
I think kids are great as long as their not mine
I never wanted kids by choice. I am not financially and emotionally capable to raise a child. I don't think I am being selfish or anything like that. It's just my personal choice.when I was younger people would say "wait till you have your own" but I just never wanted to be a parent. I respect your decision do please respect mine. Plus I do value my privacy.
Chidlfree woman

United States

#205 Jan 31, 2017
Parent wrote:
Kids are a waste of time. I have a daughter who is 13 years old... Shouldn't she be living on her own by now?!?!? She does the dishes and makes me put my plate in the sink instead of her picking it up, isn't that ridiculous? Every time she vacuums the floors and I walk in with my shoes on she asks me to take me shoes off!! It's my house ill do what I want she can just re vacuum the floors. The little crap wants allowance even though she barely does anything except for cleaning the house and tutoring her younger siblings. She also hates how I eat. She's been diagnosed with misophonia or whatever, she just needs to get over it! And whenever she wants something she'll asks my wife and I to pay 1/4 or 1/2 of the thing. Wtf she can just get a job. Sometimes she doesn't even clean the kitchen or do the dishes because she has to study for a test or for finals. She wasn't even planned like my first child. Long story short kids suck.
I don't want kids but damn seems to me like your kid could be doing much worse. She can't get a job she's too young you're her only source of getting what she wants/needs so how is that her fault??? Also if she cleans and tutors her siblings that doesn't sound like nothing to me... you seem very entitled like your kids are your slaves. You're probably a really mean father.

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