The Age of Abstinence-Only Sex Ed is ...

The Age of Abstinence-Only Sex Ed is Over

There are 3 comments on the Christianity Today story from Jul 19, 2013, titled The Age of Abstinence-Only Sex Ed is Over. In it, Christianity Today reports that:

Somebody has to say it: Our approach isn't working, and it's time to rethink "the talk."

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mom 2 girls

Portland, OR

#1 Jul 19, 2013
OMG how I am so glad to hear that, the whole "abstinence only" thing was doomed from the start, and so many of us knew it. It was bred out of the idea that sex and sexuality is a moral issue, and it just isn't that! It's a human issue, and the best slogan to have now is "sex education is birth control". I started sex awareness with my girls when they got to be about 10 or 11 and that seemed to be just about right, because they were already starting to see other girls in their class do HJ and by the time they turned 12 there were BJ's happening in the restrooms. They told me they were doing it, but I took that with a gigantic grain of salt! I started the sex ed talks by reminding them that BJ's can give you an STD just like screwing can, they were horrified to hear me talk like that I could see it in their faces – but if it helps the message gets through, I don't care! Let them be surprised and horrified at mom for that, and the things I told them about contraception in blunt straightforward terms, that's a small price to pay if it keeps them from making that one mistake. That one big irreversible mistake.
Jock

UK

#2 Jul 20, 2013
mom 2 girls wrote:
OMG how I am so glad to hear that, the whole "abstinence only" thing was doomed from the start, and so many of us knew it. It was bred out of the idea that sex and sexuality is a moral issue, and it just isn't that! It's a human issue, and the best slogan to have now is "sex education is birth control". I started sex awareness with my girls when they got to be about 10 or 11 and that seemed to be just about right, because they were already starting to see other girls in their class do HJ and by the time they turned 12 there were BJ's happening in the restrooms. They told me they were doing it, but I took that with a gigantic grain of salt! I started the sex ed talks by reminding them that BJ's can give you an STD just like screwing can, they were horrified to hear me talk like that I could see it in their faces – but if it helps the message gets through, I don't care! Let them be surprised and horrified at mom for that, and the things I told them about contraception in blunt straightforward terms, that's a small price to pay if it keeps them from making that one mistake. That one big irreversible mistake.
Very well spoken.
Ocean56

AOL

#3 Jul 21, 2013
mom 2 girls wrote:
OMG how I am so glad to hear that, the whole "abstinence only" thing was doomed from the start, and so many of us knew it. It was bred out of the idea that sex and sexuality is a moral issue, and it just isn't that! It's a human issue, and the best slogan to have now is "sex education is birth control". I started sex awareness with my girls when they got to be about 10 or 11 and that seemed to be just about right, because they were already starting to see other girls in their class do HJ and by the time they turned 12 there were BJ's happening in the restrooms. They told me they were doing it, but I took that with a gigantic grain of salt! I started the sex ed talks by reminding them that BJ's can give you an STD just like screwing can, they were horrified to hear me talk like that I could see it in their faces – but if it helps the message gets through, I don't care! Let them be surprised and horrified at mom for that, and the things I told them about contraception in blunt straightforward terms, that's a small price to pay if it keeps them from making that one mistake. That one big irreversible mistake.
Agreed, but I would also add that NO contraceptive method is 100% guaranteed to prevent unwanted pregnancy. Should contraception always be used if a girl decides to take the risk of having sex? Absolutely. Is it a GUARANTEE that a girl will never get pregnant? Absolutely NOT.

Even if a girl or young woman is on the pill, for example, that is still no guarantee that she'll never get pregnant. Especially if she doesn't know that she has to be on the pill for a month before she actually has sex for the first time. Contrary to the mistaken but popular teen belief, a girl CAN get pregnant the first time she has sex. That especially applies if she isn't using any protection at all, but it also applies if she hasn't been on the pill long enough for it to be FULLY effective in preventing pregnancy.

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