Oh gods, the "you should be grateful" crud!!!Sure, adoption is great for the adoptive parents, who have the ability to make an adult choice. But what about the baby or child who loses their original parent but is not allowed to grieve, and is told for a lifetime to be "grateful" instead of "bitter"? Let's not forget the myriad human rights that are legally denied to adoptees, even in adulthood, in order to "protect" the adoptive parents.
Even a newborn taken from his or her mother at birth feels a "primal wound" that can affect their behavior throughout life in a multitude of ways.
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Right. People need to know that just because a person adopts it doesn't mean that they will be a good parent. Age isn't the deciding factor either. OR former profession. My mom had been a teacher for years, she was an EXCELLENT teacher. She sucked at being a mom. Dad was absent via the bottle of booze he dived into to escape her constantly critical attitude.
I was emotionally abused, neglected in my daily care and physical medical problems ignored.
But Oh, I should be SO grateful.