My teenage son curses and threatens t...

My teenage son curses and threatens to punch me

There are 110 comments on the The Morning Call story from Jan 7, 2008, titled My teenage son curses and threatens to punch me. In it, The Morning Call reports that:

Q: My 15-year-old son and I are butting heads a lot lately. When I get on his case about messing up the house, he begins cursing at me and has threatened to punch me.

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Barky von Schnauzer

Red Hill, PA

#50 Jan 8, 2008
Zoompad wrote:
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I thank God for folk like you! God bless you, kind heart.
I do feel sorry that there is so much child abuse in our society. Not just child abuse but also bullying of all weaker members of society. We live in a bullying culture. It isn't good at all.
Thank you for your Blessing, and the same to you.
Gitty Up

Zionhill, PA

#51 Jan 8, 2008
All this over a messy house.

What happens when he dosen't make his Bed?

Take away the xbox, cell phone, stero, camera, computer, car, room phone, and lock him in a room with nothing and I bet he'll wish that he never cursed again.
These kids today are so spoiled with all the little gifts parents bye them, that they think of nothing but themselves. Good old restrictions and for 1 week and none of the luxurys should do the job, and if that dosen't help after the third offense, a good swat across the mouth
with him landing on his butt should take care of the issue. Stop with the child abuse issue, and bring back good old punishments. Self respect is taught sometimes the hard way, especially in todays age of teens. And if he yells child abuse, beat him again and tell him the next time he will be picking himself up at the police station, for you'll call the cops yourself.
I am a meany!!!!!!!!!! I told my boys you have one chance at yelling at me, and one chance to raise your hands to me, after that it's lights out. I NEVER had a problem with them after the first time. It never came to a second time.
Gitty Up

Zionhill, PA

#52 Jan 8, 2008
should be by not bye
Gitty Up

Zionhill, PA

#53 Jan 8, 2008
lets try this again he he he

buy.......... not by or bye
Son is raging bull

Mount Pleasant, NC

#55 Feb 2, 2008
My son is also abusive verbally threatening me on average 5 days a week. He refuses to leave ,19 yrs old, and curses all the time. He uses words that must come from satan and I dread my daily life. His father is a laid back man ,in the home, who just doesn't understand the abuse I receive. I have cried until I can't see and begged and go angry with my husband for allowing this kid or young man to continue this, but I get no where. My son hates his life,yet has everything he needs and wants. It is hard to change some kids no matter what you try. This has been spawning since his birth. No doctor has been able to help and when a kid gets to be of age, a doctor can't help or counselor. The child will refuse. Been there and pleaded with both. Any help, real help out there?
impeach bush

Philadelphia, PA

#56 Feb 2, 2008
Son is raging bull wrote:
My son is also abusive verbally threatening me on average 5 days a week. He refuses to leave ,19 yrs old, and curses all the time. He uses words that must come from satan and I dread my daily life. His father is a laid back man ,in the home, who just doesn't understand the abuse I receive. I have cried until I can't see and begged and go angry with my husband for allowing this kid or young man to continue this, but I get no where. My son hates his life,yet has everything he needs and wants. It is hard to change some kids no matter what you try. This has been spawning since his birth. No doctor has been able to help and when a kid gets to be of age, a doctor can't help or counselor. The child will refuse. Been there and pleaded with both. Any help, real help out there?
You need a divorce and new locks on the door.
impeach bush

Philadelphia, PA

#57 Feb 2, 2008
My 14 year old hit his younger(10 year old) brother once. When I yelled at him for being a bully, I said "It is easy to hit someone smaller than you, how about taking a poke at me?" (he is almost as tall as I am). He said " If I had a reason to, I would".....

When he got up off the floor, I told him he had just recieved a reason. It is a funny thing, he opted not to hit me, even though he had a reason. Also, he does not hit those smaller than him.(He later grudgingly told my wife "Dad has really fast hands"). I don't enjoy hitting my kids, but the ends justify the means. My father would have done the same (or worse) to me. Violence isn't always the answer either, but sometimes it is necessary.
Barky von Schnauzer

Red Hill, PA

#58 Feb 2, 2008
Son is raging bull wrote:
My son is also abusive verbally threatening me on average 5 days a week. He refuses to leave ,19 yrs old, and curses all the time. He uses words that must come from satan and I dread my daily life. His father is a laid back man ,in the home, who just doesn't understand the abuse I receive. I have cried until I can't see and begged and go angry with my husband for allowing this kid or young man to continue this, but I get no where. My son hates his life,yet has everything he needs and wants. It is hard to change some kids no matter what you try. This has been spawning since his birth. No doctor has been able to help and when a kid gets to be of age, a doctor can't help or counselor. The child will refuse. Been there and pleaded with both. Any help, real help out there?
I don't know if a PFA (protection from abuse) or restraining order would help, but you might consider looking into it. At least the legal system would be aware of it, and might be able to advise you. He needs to be out of your house, and on his own, since he obviously doesn't appreciate the free room and board.
Hope you can get the help you need.
Perhaps you could call the police when he is threatening you, and have him arrested.I know that wouldn't be easy, as it is your son, but sometimes tough love is necessary.
J from PA

Reading, PA

#61 Feb 2, 2008
Son is raging bull wrote:
My son is also abusive verbally threatening me on average 5 days a week. He refuses to leave ,19 yrs old, and curses all the time. He uses words that must come from satan and I dread my daily life. His father is a laid back man ,in the home, who just doesn't understand the abuse I receive. I have cried until I can't see and begged and go angry with my husband for allowing this kid or young man to continue this, but I get no where. My son hates his life,yet has everything he needs and wants. It is hard to change some kids no matter what you try. This has been spawning since his birth. No doctor has been able to help and when a kid gets to be of age, a doctor can't help or counselor. The child will refuse. Been there and pleaded with both. Any help, real help out there?
Yes. There is something you can do. It's a hard thing to do. Throw your son out of the house if he refuses to respect you in your own home. Next time he treats you bad warn him he will be out on his ear. You have cooked for him, cleaned for him, provided him with shelter and more, and this is how he treats you? When he realizes how good it is for him and how hard life can be out there, especially for a 19 year old, maybe he will appreciate his parents more. Don't tolerate the trash talk. Put him out until he learns some respect. Boundaries are the key.
God Loves His Children

Bethlehem, PA

#62 Feb 3, 2008
Dave wrote:
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OH YEA THE BIBLE SOLVES EVERYTHING ! THAT'S WHY THERE IS SO MUCH VIOLENCE,CHILDREN SUFFERING,MURDERS,TERROIST...O H BUT GOD LOVES US !!
WHAT KID OF GOD LET'S THIS HAPPEN ? NO GOD ! BECAUSE THERE IS NO SUCH THING ! IT'S A FANTASY THAT WE WERE BRAINWASHED TO BELIEVE IN !
BECAUSE WEAK MINDED PEOPLE CAN'T THINK FOR THIERSELVES.
AND WHY MUST WE BOW DOWN AND WORSHIP HIM ? SOUNDS A BIT EGOTISICAL !
IT'S BS !
AND PREACHER'S CAN HIDE BEHIND THE CHURCH WHILE THEY MOLEST OUR CHILDREN .
Perhaps you've never been in a good bible preaching church. I will pray for you. God loves ALL his children. His purpose is for us to seek him. Did you know that he sent his son to die on the cross for our sins? Wrap your head around that and you will truly find out what a loving God we have. God Bless You. Someone cares.
God Loves His Children

Bethlehem, PA

#63 Feb 3, 2008
Zoompad wrote:
<quoted text>
I thank God for folk like you! God bless you, kind heart.
I do feel sorry that there is so much child abuse in our society. Not just child abuse but also bullying of all weaker members of society. We live in a bullying culture. It isn't good at all.
I liked your comment. Did you notice that most of the comments are negative? I believe it's because most of these people don't read the bible and don't know God.

“God loves to heal people”

Since: Nov 07

Oxford, UK

#64 Feb 3, 2008
Dave wrote:
<quoted text>
OH YEA THE BIBLE SOLVES EVERYTHING ! THAT'S WHY THERE IS SO MUCH VIOLENCE,CHILDREN SUFFERING,MURDERS,TERROIST...O H BUT GOD LOVES US !!
WHAT KID OF GOD LET'S THIS HAPPEN ? NO GOD ! BECAUSE THERE IS NO SUCH THING ! IT'S A FANTASY THAT WE WERE BRAINWASHED TO BELIEVE IN !
BECAUSE WEAK MINDED PEOPLE CAN'T THINK FOR THIERSELVES.
AND WHY MUST WE BOW DOWN AND WORSHIP HIM ? SOUNDS A BIT EGOTISICAL !
IT'S BS !
AND PREACHER'S CAN HIDE BEHIND THE CHURCH WHILE THEY MOLEST OUR CHILDREN .
Dave, I've had first hand experience of the sort of wicked person that you are describing. There are some people who use the church and religion to hide behind as they do the most foul things.

I can understand why you're so angry about it. The only thing I can say is that surely God will reward each person according to what he has done.
God Loves His Children

Bethlehem, PA

#65 Feb 3, 2008
Son is raging bull wrote:
My son is also abusive verbally threatening me on average 5 days a week. He refuses to leave ,19 yrs old, and curses all the time. He uses words that must come from satan and I dread my daily life. His father is a laid back man ,in the home, who just doesn't understand the abuse I receive. I have cried until I can't see and begged and go angry with my husband for allowing this kid or young man to continue this, but I get no where. My son hates his life,yet has everything he needs and wants. It is hard to change some kids no matter what you try. This has been spawning since his birth. No doctor has been able to help and when a kid gets to be of age, a doctor can't help or counselor. The child will refuse. Been there and pleaded with both. Any help, real help out there?
Absolutely. Please seek counsel with a reliable pastor in your area. He would be able to show you from the bible that children need to obey their parents and parents need not entice their children. You are very brave to reach out for help. I will pray for you and I know with God's help you will be able to overcome. God Bless You and God loves you.
God Loves His Children

Bethlehem, PA

#66 Feb 3, 2008
Zoompad wrote:
<quoted text>
Dave, I've had first hand experience of the sort of wicked person that you are describing. There are some people who use the church and religion to hide behind as they do the most foul things.
I can understand why you're so angry about it. The only thing I can say is that surely God will reward each person according to what he has done.
It's true. God will judge everyone one of us. Noone is exempt. No matter how good they think they are, no matter how much money they have or what they think their status is. No of it goes unnoticed by God. I'll pray for you. God bless.
You are a Knucklehead

Andover, NJ

#67 Feb 3, 2008
jim wrote:
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amen to that........what kind of person needs to write to a newspaper for parenting advice?
When your child was born, did he/she come with a handbook!? At least the woman cares enough about her child to know that what he is doing is not correct. Maybe she can't afford professional help. Seeking advice from other parents is a very humble thing to do. Who better to seek advice from than other parents!!!!!
J from PA

Reading, PA

#68 Feb 4, 2008
Zoompad wrote:
<quoted text>
Dave, I've had first hand experience of the sort of wicked person that you are describing. There are some people who use the church and religion to hide behind as they do the most foul things.
I can understand why you're so angry about it. The only thing I can say is that surely God will reward each person according to what he has done.
Your reply to Dave (and we have all heard the arguement elsewhere) was the best I've ever read.
2nd amendment

Nesquehoning, PA

#69 Feb 5, 2008
impeach bush wrote:
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You need a divorce and new locks on the door.
My thoughts exactly.
X-MAN

El Paso, TX

#70 Feb 6, 2008
I really need help! i have an 11 and 8 year old son. we come from a low income background. right now i have no rights' to see my kids'. my 11 year old son is being verbally abused to the point were he is being as productive in school as he should. this is coming from him out of his mouth that he is being treatend and intimadated by mom and boy friend. and my 8 year old just found out that i might not be his father in an attemp to make him not care about me. for eight years i have never talk to anyone that he isn't my child and when he was 2 i had an opertunity to take a dna test but i was not having none of it. i sign the court papers' that i have two sons'. i am not trying to talk down on there mother because they only have one. i have tried to let the system handle this problem but they have made it worst. yes i am on C.S.

What can i do or who i can i contact who will treat my boys for these problems,because there child rights are beeing violated. and my rights as there father are being violated.
(14th amendment)i lost my rights to see my kids in a large part dew to her giving false statemets about me. which they were found to be false in court. but i got in trouble for her crime. and i know thats not legal. but we come from a low income family and thats just how the court handled it. WHAT CAN I DO? please help us?
the truth

Duncan, OK

#71 Feb 6, 2008
I would love for my child to threaten to hit me.I will Knock Hiss A** out and he knows it.Thats why he dont try me.
J from PA

Reading, PA

#72 Feb 6, 2008
X-MAN wrote:
I really need help! i have an 11 and 8 year old son. we come from a low income background. right now i have no rights' to see my kids'. my 11 year old son is being verbally abused to the point were he is being as productive in school as he should. this is coming from him out of his mouth that he is being treatend and intimadated by mom and boy friend. and my 8 year old just found out that i might not be his father in an attemp to make him not care about me. for eight years i have never talk to anyone that he isn't my child and when he was 2 i had an opertunity to take a dna test but i was not having none of it. i sign the court papers' that i have two sons'. i am not trying to talk down on there mother because they only have one. i have tried to let the system handle this problem but they have made it worst. yes i am on C.S.
What can i do or who i can i contact who will treat my boys for these problems,because there child rights are beeing violated. and my rights as there father are being violated.
(14th amendment)i lost my rights to see my kids in a large part dew to her giving false statemets about me. which they were found to be false in court. but i got in trouble for her crime. and i know thats not legal. but we come from a low income family and thats just how the court handled it. WHAT CAN I DO? please help us?
X-Man, the only thing I think you can do is talk to an attorney. If you can't afford an attorney one may be provided by the Courts, but you have to talk to the Courts about the details. All that varies from state to state.

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