Straight Dope: Should I Let My (Maybe...

Straight Dope: Should I Let My (Maybe) Gay Teenage Son Have Sleepovers With Boys?

There are 62 comments on the City Paper story from Feb 13, 2013, titled Straight Dope: Should I Let My (Maybe) Gay Teenage Son Have Sleepovers With Boys?. In it, City Paper reports that:

I'm a 37-year-old single father with a 14-year-old son. I've raised him on my own basically since birth, with help from some good friends and nearby family.

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Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#25 Feb 14, 2013
If it's people of the same sex it doesn't matter whether they are doing the wild thing or not because there is no pregnancy involved. Pregnancy is what parents worry about with people of the opposite sex sleeping together.
The Gay Sheep

Amherst, MA

#26 Feb 14, 2013
WeTheSheeple wrote:
<quoted text>
Only if your sister has 10" swinging down low......
I don't have a sister. Do you?
lilybug

Marion, CT

#27 Feb 14, 2013
let him have a life are you going t keep him away form guy friends wherever he goses

“Petite twink, barely legal”

Since: Dec 12

Location hidden

#28 Feb 14, 2013
I think the only thing that might really matter is a big age difference.
Rufus

Mclean, VA

#29 Feb 14, 2013
Sure why not! And you can lead the circle jerk!

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#31 Feb 14, 2013
snyper wrote:
That was a VERY good article. Better than I expected from "savage".
I think the Dad has a great opportunity here to help his son. I agree with the author the same rule should apply whether the son is gay or straight.

As you may remember, after I moved in with Paul my Dad decided he didn't want us to sleep in the same room if we visited. Fortunately my Mom reminded him that separate bedrooms never stopped me from fooling around with guys in our basement I'd fixed up after we bought the pool table.

Dad changed his tune pretty quickly.

But as I was saying, if dad suspects his son is gay then this is a good way for him to re-assure his son he loves him no matter what and that won't change. He should simply begin by reminding the boy about their previous sex talk and then point out that even if his son was gay he still expects him to follow the rule about sex in the house and closed doors.

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#32 Feb 14, 2013
Harold wrote:
Should I Let My (Maybe) Gay Teenage Son Have Sleepovers With Boys?
I'd like to punch this queer right in the face!
And I'd like my nieces and nephews back in Wilmington DE to face off with you. Any one of them, male or female would mop the floor with you. So would my very straight little brother and his wife. And my sisters? Wow they'd be merciless!

Wimps like you forget gays like me often have strong family ties and I enjoy the support of most of the people I went to High school with as well.

Now, you've had your chance to pretend how macho you are. Brush your teeth and put on your Bart Simpson jammies. It's WAY past your bedtime. Oh and say your prayers too. You'll need all of God's strength and mercy to get you through Junior High.

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#33 Feb 14, 2013
The Kisser wrote:
Links FaFoxy. Facts. Not assertions. There are many in this world that engage in homosexual/bisexual acts that do not identify as gay.
Some would argue that gay is more of a tendency than anything. Some women in the porn industry state this fact that they are 'less inclined' to be involved with a woman. Therefore they have a less 'tendency' to sleep with a woman and act not upon said tendencies. So even if you are born with such a tendency does not make it right, natural, or normal because nature in the human form tells us that it is a defect.
Free will. Vice. Desires. Passions. Frailties.
Nobody's perfect but it doesn't hurt to honor your own father and mother's original intentions.
The regressive liberal party promotes failure and expects others to pay for it. This can only go on for so long FaFoxy. The breaking point is near.
Allow me:
http://scitechdaily.com/homosexuality-might-d...

http://www.topix.com/forum/news/gay/T9CAIBKJ4...

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#34 Feb 14, 2013
The Kisser wrote:
Somewhere near the equivilant to sleeping with your sister.
CHA-CHING!
Links please

BAZINGA!

LMAO!

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#35 Feb 14, 2013
Doncha all just love these torpedoes WBL/Lipstick tries to use?

Every one simply loops back and damages his already sinking ship. But maybe he'll develop gills before drowning in his own shit.
Cats Paw

Amherst, MA

#36 Feb 15, 2013
DNF wrote:
Doncha all just love these torpedoes WBL/Lipstick tries to use?
Every one simply loops back and damages his already sinking ship. But maybe he'll develop gills before drowning in his own shit.
As I state repeatedly. You cannot nor have even attempted to refute my ss assertion lil boi. That is to say that two 'heterosexual' men should NEVER be afforded the oppurtunity to raise a child for this scenario 'denies a child's basic human right' to 'halve' a 'male' father and 'female' mother to ensure proper balance in the child's most indelible years of their lives.
But because of votes, vice, money, and perversions, such virtues are abrogated by our highly yewish influenced pig headed govt.

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#37 Feb 15, 2013
Cats Paw wrote:
<quoted text>
As I state repeatedly. You cannot nor have even attempted to refute my ss assertion lil boi. That is to say that two 'heterosexual' men should NEVER be afforded the oppurtunity to raise a child for this scenario 'denies a child's basic human right' to 'halve' a 'male' father and 'female' mother to ensure proper balance in the child's most indelible years of their lives.
But because of votes, vice, money, and perversions, such virtues are abrogated by our highly yewish influenced pig headed govt.
You all act like every child grows up in a vacuum and would never be exposed to male and female role models outside of Mom and Dad. As I have repeatedly asked you and every other LOON who claims SSM denies a child of their "human right to a mother and father" HOW DID THE CHILD GET BORN WITHOUT A MOTHER AND FATHER?

Stop dodging the question! Either admit your claim is full of shit or answer that question.

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#38 Feb 15, 2013
Cats Paw wrote:
<quoted text>
As I state repeatedly. You cannot nor have even attempted to refute my ss assertion lil boi. That is to say that two 'heterosexual' men should NEVER be afforded the oppurtunity to raise a child for this scenario 'denies a child's basic human right' to 'halve' a 'male' father and 'female' mother to ensure proper balance in the child's most indelible years of their lives.
But because of votes, vice, money, and perversions, such virtues are abrogated by our highly yewish influenced pig headed govt.
You can state it repeatedly just like David Moore tries to do. It doesn't mean a damn thing. It's your opinion and it's a stupid one.

You ignore the fact that most children of Same Sex couples also have grandparents and many other male/female models that they are exposed to. Their friends' families for example can provide the balance you insist they are being denied. That happens with a lot of children of heterosexuals couples btw, not just those from single parent homes. Many people had friends through school and they looked at those friends parents as second Moms and Dads.

Your theory and idea is so full of holes if you tried to feed it to a mouse the poor thing would starve!
Lady Evil

Amherst, MA

#39 Feb 15, 2013
DNF wrote:
<quoted text>You all act like every child grows up in a vacuum and would never be exposed to male and female role models outside of Mom and Dad. As I have repeatedly asked you and every other LOON who claims SSM denies a child of their "human right to a mother and father" HOW DID THE CHILD GET BORN WITHOUT A MOTHER AND FATHER?
Stop dodging the question! Either admit your claim is full of shit or answer that question.
I'm speaking of state placement by dss-dcf. Court ordered.
I'm not speaking of "Outside of mom and dad" either
I'm speaking of the natural order of the family structure. Male and female. Something gays 'forfeited' entirely yet wish to redefine.
The dead branch theory.
That's you!

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#40 Feb 15, 2013
Cats Paw wrote:
<quoted text>
As I state repeatedly. You cannot nor have even attempted to refute my ss assertion lil boi.
I've refuted it dozens of times. You never answer me when I ask you to explain how a child can be born and not have a Mom and Dad.

You ask others for links, well how about links that prove your theory. I have about 7 already lined up that will refute any claim you can dream up, even if you go to NARTH and NOM websites.
Lady Evil

Amherst, MA

#42 Feb 15, 2013
It's a valid fact that nobody can refute that's what it is. You're a fraud, a defect, vice, and should never be allowed to parent since you cannot champion what brought you into this world. Everyone talks about duty and honor of military and country. Well, you can't have that until you have duty and honor for your family gay or straight. If you choose such a preposterous notion against then maybe you should have your mouth stitched shut.
Deny your maker will ya?!

“Headed toward the cliff”

Since: Nov 07

Tawas City, Michigan

#43 Feb 15, 2013
Cats Paw wrote:
<quoted text>
As I state repeatedly. You cannot nor have even attempted to refute my ss assertion lil boi. That is to say that two 'heterosexual' men should NEVER be afforded the oppurtunity to raise a child for this scenario 'denies a child's basic human right' to 'halve' a 'male' father and 'female' mother to ensure proper balance in the child's most indelible years of their lives.
But because of votes, vice, money, and perversions, such virtues are abrogated by our highly yewish influenced pig headed govt.
Hmmmmmm, funny how that "right" to a mother & father doesn't show up anywhere in the constitution.

I guess we'll just keep having kids while you keep whining about it.

“Headed toward the cliff”

Since: Nov 07

Tawas City, Michigan

#44 Feb 15, 2013
Lady Evil wrote:
<quoted text>
I'm speaking of state placement by dss-dcf. Court ordered.
I'm not speaking of "Outside of mom and dad" either
I'm speaking of the natural order of the family structure. Male and female. Something gays 'forfeited' entirely yet wish to redefine.
The dead branch theory.
That's you!
You'll just have to get over it or die; your choice.

“Headed toward the cliff”

Since: Nov 07

Tawas City, Michigan

#45 Feb 15, 2013
Lady Evil wrote:
It's a valid fact that nobody can refute that's what it is. You're a fraud, a defect, vice, and should never be allowed to parent since you cannot champion what brought you into this world. Everyone talks about duty and honor of military and country. Well, you can't have that until you have duty and honor for your family gay or straight. If you choose such a preposterous notion against then maybe you should have your mouth stitched shut.
Deny your maker will ya?!
The only fact is we'll keep having kids and you'll keep whining about it.
Popers39

Haslet, TX

#46 Feb 15, 2013
Did you think about how the blacks were thought of all those years ago? How they were treated as dirt, and beat just for being black. Yet eventually everyone got over the fact that they are equal. Why can gays be the same?

Another thing: so if your born gay, your a defect and shouldn't be given the right of parentage? That's like a guy born with an extra arm and saying "your a defect, you can't play any sports or get a job your whole life" doesn't make since. I say calm your asses down and just let things go. The way we eventually did with the blacks.
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