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Teens and Sex: How to Help Your Kids Dodge Pregnancy and STDs

There are 403 comments on the US News & World Report story from Dec 10, 2008, titled Teens and Sex: How to Help Your Kids Dodge Pregnancy and STDs. In it, US News & World Report reports that:

There's no denying it. Teens are doing the deed. About 70 percent of teenagers have had sex by their 19th birthdays, and about 14 percent lose their virginity before turning 15, surveys suggest.

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“Sally!!”

Since: Dec 08

PoCo

#47 Dec 13, 2008
I come from a very wealthy family thank-you. I work as a co-op student for a local law office. Yes, I am a teen mother but I have stayed in school. I'm 16 and in tenth grade...I go to Gatton Academy full time and I'm also gaining 60 hours of college credit. Thanks for your tax money but your not helping me. I'm engaged to my boyfriend that I've been with for over a year. We have a beautiful baby girl together so if you think for one minute that I'm on welfare then you dead wrong because I'm not.

“I'm not of this generation”

Since: Dec 08

Spotsylvania

#48 Dec 13, 2008
NewObsession wrote:
I come from a very wealthy family thank-you. I work as a co-op student for a local law office. Yes, I am a teen mother but I have stayed in school. I'm 16 and in tenth grade...I go to Gatton Academy full time and I'm also gaining 60 hours of college credit. Thanks for your tax money but your not helping me. I'm engaged to my boyfriend that I've been with for over a year. We have a beautiful baby girl together so if you think for one minute that I'm on welfare then you dead wrong because I'm not.
Good for you and congradulations NewObsession! I wish your little family all the happiness in the world. >]

“Sally!!”

Since: Dec 08

PoCo

#49 Dec 13, 2008
Thank-you. I really don't like the way they put us teen mothers down. I mean is anyone really ready for a child? I love my baby girl and I don't think that an age should judge how good of a parent you are. I have a friend that is 15 and she's the best mother I know. My mom was atleast 20 when her and my father had me and they were not very good parents. I have 10 brothers and sisters and not one of us lives with our biological parents except for the youngest and he lives with my ex-step father.

Since: Oct 08

(originally - Queens, New York

#50 Dec 13, 2008
Many people have never experienced enthusiastic loving parents who were willing to go beyond good wishes and actually protect their children from themselves. Others have. Take it from them (and me). It is possible to parent children, and to help them avoid premature sexuality.

“I'm not of this generation”

Since: Dec 08

Spotsylvania

#51 Dec 13, 2008
NewObsession wrote:
Thank-you. I really don't like the way they put us teen mothers down. I mean is anyone really ready for a child? I love my baby girl and I don't think that an age should judge how good of a parent you are. I have a friend that is 15 and she's the best mother I know. My mom was atleast 20 when her and my father had me and they were not very good parents. I have 10 brothers and sisters and not one of us lives with our biological parents except for the youngest and he lives with my ex-step father.
Exactly! I have a friend that works her ass off everyday and is doing a fantastic job with her daughter and she just turned 18. I was 15 when I got pregnant and I had my daughter when I was 17. I look at my surrounding and my daughter and what I have instore for my future and I'm a damn good mother. I provide for my baby girl and I'm teaching her and watching her learn and grow everyday. I love every minute of it and I hope I can teach her how to be a good mother too. Wether she's married with a career, or has a slip when she's 16 just like I did.

“I'm not of this generation”

Since: Dec 08

Spotsylvania

#52 Dec 13, 2008
typo! I was 16 when I got pregnant.

“Sally!!”

Since: Dec 08

PoCo

#53 Dec 13, 2008
Lol I was 15 when I got pregnant and I just now turned 16 so yea. Lol My baby is beautiful and I really dislike how they judge us because of our age. Yes, there are teens moms who do give up their children and then they may get adopted so see it this way...I was adopted at 3 and my little brother and sister we're also adopted and we made my parents very happy. So thats the way I look at it.

“Ma0 BaMa THE GREAT DECEIVER”

Since: Mar 08

somewhere i BELONG

#54 Dec 13, 2008
NewObsession wrote:
Lol I was 15 when I got pregnant and I just now turned 16 so yea. Lol My baby is beautiful and I really dislike how they judge us because of our age. Yes, there are teens moms who do give up their children and then they may get adopted so see it this way...I was adopted at 3 and my little brother and sister we're also adopted and we made my parents very happy. So thats the way I look at it.
wow 16 and have a kid, hope things work out for you. some advice? you are going to have alot of hard times, you are going to have alot of good times. lets hope there are more good times than bad.

only you have the control of your own destiny.

Since: Dec 07

the woods, Pa

#55 Dec 13, 2008
ayekaekae wrote:
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No person is EVER ready to be a parent until they are one, despite age. You can babysit, handle children, etc all you want. But nothing comes to being prepared to be a parent until you actually are one. I wasn't saying she was ready, I'm saying if she feels she's a good parent and she is proud of herself for being one, and proud of her child then Good for her!
People SHOULDN'T be haveing children in high school, but sh*t happends. So they should make the best of it and do what they can with their lives and their childs.
Yes I pay the "extra" food bill, insurance, rent, and baby supplies. I have a job. Anymore questions?
Yes, wheres daddy, whats your gpa, plans out of high school, what grade are you in, when will you be moving out of the house, and where do you work?

Since: Dec 07

the woods, Pa

#56 Dec 13, 2008
NewObsession wrote:
Lol I was 15 when I got pregnant and I just now turned 16 so yea. Lol My baby is beautiful and I really dislike how they judge us because of our age. Yes, there are teens moms who do give up their children and then they may get adopted so see it this way...I was adopted at 3 and my little brother and sister we're also adopted and we made my parents very happy. So thats the way I look at it.
Yes theyre going to judge you. Being pregnant at 15 isnt the norm, and is wrong in societies eyes. You can argue this all you want, but instead of pretending you could be a great parent, you should have kept your legs closed. THAT is why you get judged, and people have a damn good right to do so. TIP: Dont walk into a public place naked and wonder why people stare at you...

Since: Dec 07

the woods, Pa

#57 Dec 13, 2008
NewObsession wrote:
Thank-you. I really don't like the way they put us teen mothers down. I mean is anyone really ready for a child? I love my baby girl and I don't think that an age should judge how good of a parent you are.
Psychopaths dont think its really wrong to kill people either, but that doesnt make it right...

Since: Dec 07

the woods, Pa

#58 Dec 13, 2008
NewObsession wrote:
I come from a very wealthy family thank-you. I work as a co-op student for a local law office. Yes, I am a teen mother but I have stayed in school. I'm 16 and in tenth grade...I go to Gatton Academy full time and I'm also gaining 60 hours of college credit. Thanks for your tax money but your not helping me. I'm engaged to my boyfriend that I've been with for over a year. We have a beautiful baby girl together so if you think for one minute that I'm on welfare then you dead wrong because I'm not.
One good egg wont cover for the rest of your type. Youre still going to get judged, sorry...fact of life.

“Hi! I'm no longer here. ”

Since: Feb 08

Location hidden

#59 Dec 13, 2008
Tell-It wrote:
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Hate to stereotype, and Im aware accidents happen among all financial brackets, but lets face something: a GOOD percentage of pregnant teenagers are from low-income families, usually living in low-income homes. And if she is living at home, she is probably not really paying for anything "herself" which is why I asked where she works. And there are other ways taxpayers can pick up the bill for a teenage pregnancy, besides welfare. Programs that give discounts to mothers on baby formula and diapers are usually subsidised by the taxpayer.
Again, I understand mistakes happen, but I will certainly not sit here and congratulate a 15 or 16 year old mother, especially one who seems proud, or thinks she is just as ready to be a parent as anyone else. If you disagree, well thats just fine.
I think you would be surprised at how many affluent teen girls get pregnant and have secret abortions or are sent off to Uncle Ray's for the summer to have a child and put it up for adoption. At least where I live, I don't see any difference in the number of teens who become pregnant in relation to their families economic status. I just seems to me that people with more money have more options to deal with it.

“Be American Buy American”

Since: Apr 08

Big Rock Candy Mtn.

#62 Dec 14, 2008
NewObsession wrote:
Lol I was 15 when I got pregnant and I just now turned 16 so yea. Lol My baby is beautiful and I really dislike how they judge us because of our age. Yes, there are teens moms who do give up their children and then they may get adopted so see it this way...I was adopted at 3 and my little brother and sister we're also adopted and we made my parents very happy. So thats the way I look at it.
Who's footing the expences for this kid? How much does a condom cost? If you're not mature enough to avoid pregnancy in the first place, you're not mature enough to be a parent. So, that's the way I look at it.
jim

Ponte Vedra Beach, FL

#63 Dec 14, 2008
the kids of caring parents get pg. also

Since: Dec 08

West Monroe, LA

#64 Dec 14, 2008
to avoid pregnancy especially when blacks are having coitus with whites give all the white studs head gasgets for their little hot rods! Splooge buckets will help!
Rose

Winchester, MA

#65 Dec 14, 2008
I was 17 when I got pregnant. My babies daddy and I have been married 39 yrs this Dec. and my baby will be 39 in March. It is not easy and we never know it all. It can be done. I know as a teen listening to anyone over 20 is lame cause you know it all. And some of you are smarter and more capable then a lot of older people. But life is a lesson you never stop learning even if you are old and gray. Don't fight advice, process it. I didn't have babysitters till my youngest turned 7 I probably got out without him no more then 5 times a year. After he turned 7 we got out maybe once every 2 weeks, rarely more and sometimes less. I can't imagine what my life would have been like if his daddy wasn't commited to me and our son. He didn't go out either unless we were with him.

Being a parent is like being grounded for 18 yrs. It is not your life anymore, never forget that. Everything you do is for your child. Every decesion you make is for your children. From now on it is will never be "me" it will be "me and my baby".

Since: May 07

Indianapolis

#66 Dec 14, 2008
IMO every parent should be allowed a prescription for a big jar of morning after pills to be kept in the refrigerator just in case.
Also every teen age girl needs to be reminded frequently that Mom and Dad are not going to be built in baby sitters.
Everyn teen age boy needs to be reminded frequently what child support implies. It means you quit school and go to work at the car wash or Taco Bell. It wouldn't hurt for him to have a supply of those pills too.

“I'm not of this generation”

Since: Dec 08

Spotsylvania

#67 Dec 14, 2008
Tell-It wrote:
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Yes, wheres daddy, whats your gpa, plans out of high school, what grade are you in, when will you be moving out of the house, and where do you work?
Idk where Daddy is and I don't care. He's worthless and we're better off without him dragging us down.

I'm going to school online after I graduate to be a Medical Transcriptionist.

I'm a senior and my GPA is 2.9 It's lower then it should be because of my poor grades from 9-10 grade. Recall from my first post that I didn't really care about school at the time and was going to drop out.

My cousin and I are going to get an apartment together after graduation since she's really eager to get out of her house.[not the greatest homelife for her.]

I work at an inhome daycare takeing care of kids with disabilities and handicaps.

“I'm not of this generation”

Since: Dec 08

Spotsylvania

#68 Dec 14, 2008
velogeezer wrote:
IMO every parent should be allowed a prescription for a big jar of morning after pills to be kept in the refrigerator just in case.
Also every teen age girl needs to be reminded frequently that Mom and Dad are not going to be built in baby sitters.
Everyn teen age boy needs to be reminded frequently what child support implies. It means you quit school and go to work at the car wash or Taco Bell. It wouldn't hurt for him to have a supply of those pills too.
Just because a guy gets a girl pregnant doesn't mean he has to drop out to pay child support. Hello, after school job? I'm a single teen Mom and I have an after school job and it supplies me with money for rent, insurance money, food/diapers/formula/etc., and I've still managed to get Christmas taken care of for my friends and family this year.

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