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Teens and Sex: How to Help Your Kids Dodge Pregnancy and STDs

There are 403 comments on the US News & World Report story from Dec 10, 2008, titled Teens and Sex: How to Help Your Kids Dodge Pregnancy and STDs. In it, US News & World Report reports that:

There's no denying it. Teens are doing the deed. About 70 percent of teenagers have had sex by their 19th birthdays, and about 14 percent lose their virginity before turning 15, surveys suggest.

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“I'm not of this generation”

Since: Dec 08

Spotsylvania

#1 Dec 11, 2008
I agree with talking to your kids about sex, I know I will when my daughter gets older, as often as she'll let me. But some teens are just hard headed and will do what they want, reguardless of your advice, opinions, etc. Take it from a teen mother..at the end of the day we're gonna do whatever the hell we want.

I know some parents are dead set against teen sex. But once they've started, it's quite hard to make them stop. And the more you try to sheild them from it, the more they're going to want to rebel and go do random with people. Again, take it from a teen mother.

In my opinion, your best bet is to talk to your children about sex as much as they'll let you. Let them know you're there for them, love them, and will do anything to protect them. If your teen is haveing sex, or is thinking about it. Don't freak out and force them to stay within eye contact. Chances are they're just going to "Stay after school" or "spend the night at Betsy's house" and do it anyway. Perhaps you could talk to them about birth control? Take your daughters to get on the pill if she's haveing sex. Buy your son a box of condoms, they aren't too expensive.

If that seems too hard to handle, think of it this way. Would you rather know your kid is on the pill, or know you're about to become a 40 year old grandmother that watches a baby while your 15 yearold heads off to the 10th grade every morning?
Oops

Atlanta, GA

#2 Dec 11, 2008
Does anyone have Sarah Palin's e-mail address?
Christopher

Grand Rapids, MI

#3 Dec 11, 2008
Here is how you 'dodge' your children get pregnant.

Step one: instruct them in what sex is, what it is for (pleasure and procreation) from an early age. I did this starting at 2 for the basics, and at 7 for the everything under the sun for my children.
Step two: get them on birth control as soon as your doctor will allow you to. Best thing to do in our society: mandate birth control for girls at the age of 7 or whenever they get their first period, whichever is sooner.
Step three: don't expect or try to force your children to be celibate, regardless of their age. Allow your children to be honest with you about who they are having sex with, when they are doing it, and get to know the people who they are making love with (another child or adult).
Step four: stop with the persecution of pedosexuals. Children are just as interested in sex with adults as some adults are in sex with children, and they do NOT need your protection as much (or at all) as you would like to believe they do. They are VERY able to tell on someone if they are truly being forced into sex, even if it's mommy or daddy doing that, IF they have been taught the right thing: that their body is their own, that no one (not even doctors) have the right to touch their bodies anywhere without their permission, and if someone does (after they tell them not to do it again [first tap free rule]), they should report that person.

Since: Dec 07

the woods, Pa

#5 Dec 11, 2008
Christopher wrote:
Here is how you 'dodge' your children get pregnant.
Step one: instruct them in what sex is, what it is for (pleasure and procreation) from an early age. I did this starting at 2 for the basics, and at 7 for the everything under the sun for my children.
Step two: get them on birth control as soon as your doctor will allow you to. Best thing to do in our society: mandate birth control for girls at the age of 7 or whenever they get their first period, whichever is sooner.
Step three: don't expect or try to force your children to be celibate, regardless of their age. Allow your children to be honest with you about who they are having sex with, when they are doing it, and get to know the people who they are making love with (another child or adult).
Step four: stop with the persecution of pedosexuals. Children are just as interested in sex with adults as some adults are in sex with children, and they do NOT need your protection as much (or at all) as you would like to believe they do. They are VERY able to tell on someone if they are truly being forced into sex, even if it's mommy or daddy doing that, IF they have been taught the right thing: that their body is their own, that no one (not even doctors) have the right to touch their bodies anywhere without their permission, and if someone does (after they tell them not to do it again [first tap free rule]), they should report that person.
You nudist liberal wierdo petofiles creep me the hell out! You remind me of a guy that drives a white van and parks at playgrounds and schools. I do agree with some of your views, but legalise petifilia? Comon! I dont know of any 14 year olds that wanna "do" 45 year olds...
Cutie

Seattle, WA

#6 Dec 11, 2008
Scumbag Millionaire wrote:
Teach kids the joys of anal sex and the pregnancy rate will go down. When teens started the trend of blowing their classmates and boyfriends instead of regular sex a few years back, the pregnancy rate went down. I had a teacher in high school who would let me cornhole her in the auditorium A/V room every Thursday. She taught me alot about sex.
Almost all of the teen girls I know give BJs and do anal now to keep the boys dicks happy and stop from getting pregnant.

“Nemo ante mortem beatus!”

Since: Nov 08

Small Town USA

#8 Dec 11, 2008
Christopher wrote:
Here is how you 'dodge' your children get pregnant.
Step one: instruct them in what sex is, what it is for (pleasure and procreation) from an early age. I did this starting at 2 for the basics, and at 7 for the everything under the sun for my children.
Step two: get them on birth control as soon as your doctor will allow you to. Best thing to do in our society: mandate birth control for girls at the age of 7 or whenever they get their first period, whichever is sooner.
Step three: don't expect or try to force your children to be celibate, regardless of their age. Allow your children to be honest with you about who they are having sex with, when they are doing it, and get to know the people who they are making love with (another child or adult).
Step four: stop with the persecution of pedosexuals. Children are just as interested in sex with adults as some adults are in sex with children, and they do NOT need your protection as much (or at all) as you would like to believe they do. They are VERY able to tell on someone if they are truly being forced into sex, even if it's mommy or daddy doing that, IF they have been taught the right thing: that their body is their own, that no one (not even doctors) have the right to touch their bodies anywhere without their permission, and if someone does (after they tell them not to do it again [first tap free rule]), they should report that person.
I hope you don't have any kids!

“I'm not of this generation”

Since: Dec 08

Spotsylvania

#10 Dec 11, 2008
Point blank: teens are gonna do whatever the hell they want to do. Get them some birth control and pray they make the right decision. And that they have, or don't have, sex on their own terms. Not their lovers.

“Be American Buy American”

Since: Apr 08

Big Rock Candy Mtn.

#11 Dec 11, 2008
Bring back the chasity belt.
Mercy

Milpitas, CA

#12 Dec 12, 2008
Our society mentally molests kids from birth from TV, internet and parents/friends, etc .,, and we are surprised by this?
Mercy

Milpitas, CA

#13 Dec 12, 2008
whatever happened to cuddling with those we love, why get drastic with sex?

“Be American Buy American”

Since: Apr 08

Big Rock Candy Mtn.

#15 Dec 12, 2008
I still like my idea.

Since: Dec 07

the woods, Pa

#16 Dec 12, 2008
Crazy Uncle wrote:
Bring back the chasity belt.
They start at $199 on eBay. No thank you!:]
Leigh Ann

Cartersville, VA

#17 Dec 12, 2008
Christopher wrote:
Here is how you 'dodge' your children get pregnant.
Step one: instruct them in what sex is, what it is for (pleasure and procreation) from an early age. I did this starting at 2 for the basics, and at 7 for the everything under the sun for my children.
Step two: get them on birth control as soon as your doctor will allow you to. Best thing to do in our society: mandate birth control for girls at the age of 7 or whenever they get their first period, whichever is sooner.
Step three: don't expect or try to force your children to be celibate, regardless of their age. Allow your children to be honest with you about who they are having sex with, when they are doing it, and get to know the people who they are making love with (another child or adult).
Step four: stop with the persecution of pedosexuals. Children are just as interested in sex with adults as some adults are in sex with children, and they do NOT need your protection as much (or at all) as you would like to believe they do. They are VERY able to tell on someone if they are truly being forced into sex, even if it's mommy or daddy doing that, IF they have been taught the right thing: that their body is their own, that no one (not even doctors) have the right to touch their bodies anywhere without their permission, and if someone does (after they tell them not to do it again [first tap free rule]), they should report that person.
Who in the h3ck would allow their child at age 7 to get on birth control? If birth control have side effects on an adult, grown or almost, what effects would it have on a child?
I do agree with talking to your kids and getting them to understand the purpose of sex. If you talk to them and they are comfortable talking to you then they would tell you when they needed birth control, right?
Yikes

Atlanta, GA

#18 Dec 12, 2008
Crazy Uncle wrote:
Bring back the chasity belt.
A photo of Chastity Bono is cheaper and just as effective.
Rebecca

Manchester, UK

#19 Dec 12, 2008
yes
That girl

Valley Head, WV

#20 Dec 12, 2008
I think that a child shouldnt be allowed to go out on dates until they are old enough to know right from wrong.....atleast 16 or 17! And then start them off with the date coming to your house, you meeting them....and give them both a talk! Let them know little things like...you can get prego from pre-cum....and about sexually transmitted diseases....they need to know these thing s before its too late! Some kids are just gonna be wild no matter what the parents do, but atleast they know the will be there for them! If your kid knows you will be there...and they can talk to to... 9 times out of 10 they will come and say..."Mom. or Dad...can I go get put on birth control...or sumthin....I mean, they just need to know you'll be there.....lol...
Renee

Medina, OH

#21 Dec 12, 2008
My dad pretty much said what the consequences would be if I became a little harlot.:)
I also was parented by my parents, not a babysitter, not the school, not a daycare. I thank God, he blessed me with caring parents and they made sure I had morals. They taught by example. I'm sure it isn't foolproof, kids these days are so gutsy and cocky that it's sad.
yah

Cordova, TN

#22 Dec 12, 2008
i had a freind but she kept saying she wanted to have sex with ppl so quit being her friend

“I'm not of this generation”

Since: Dec 08

Spotsylvania

#23 Dec 12, 2008
yah wrote:
i had a freind but she kept saying she wanted to have sex with ppl so quit being her friend
Why would you let a friends sex life jeapordize your friendship?

“I'm not of this generation”

Since: Dec 08

Spotsylvania

#24 Dec 12, 2008
That girl wrote:
I think that a child shouldnt be allowed to go out on dates until they are old enough to know right from wrong.....atleast 16 or 17! And then start them off with the date coming to your house, you meeting them....and give them both a talk! Let them know little things like...you can get prego from pre-cum....and about sexually transmitted diseases....
Most kids aren't even going on "dates" when they say they're dateing. They're usually holding hands in the halls at school and calling eachother til midnight, saying I love you a week after they were "Asked out." And even if they are, you reall think on their first date the boy/girl should come over and hear a grown up they've never met talk to them about sex with their son/daughter? That would just freak me out!

Besides, wether or not kids are aloud to date won't neccesarily justify wether or not they are anyway, or wether or not they're haveing sex. I wasn't allowed to have boyfriends either, so I was going to my "friend Krystal's house" for sleep overs alot. Now I have a daughter, lol. So wether or not they have set rules on dateing, they're gonna do what they want.

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