Pastor's Kids Syndrome?

Pastor's Kids Syndrome?

There are 165 comments on the www.revmagazine.com story from Feb 4, 2008, titled Pastor's Kids Syndrome?. In it, www.revmagazine.com reports that:

Being a pastor's kid has its unique challenges. Families of pastors have unique pressures, blessings, and problems. Learn from other pastors what you can do to help your kids survive the journey.

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Maggie

Madison, WI

#169 Mar 28, 2013
I've been a pk all my life. I'm glad that I found this site; I was thinking that I was the only one who had questions and doubts. I now consider it a curse to be born into a christian family, just because of the pressure, the ridiculous (and unreal) expectations of being "the perfect daughter" and the adjustments to bouncing from place to place. I was resentful as a kid from being torn away from the only friends that I had, in elementary school, and thrown into a mixture of kids who despised me, and a whole new environment. It's like a huge burden that you can't get rid of, now matter how hard you try. It weighs you down, and puts you "in a box," that others (who know you're a pk) are constantly watching, waiting for you to srew up so they can shame you and judge you for it. There are so many "rules" to live by, and you're forced to "conform" to them weather you like it or not, which made me resentful. So resentful, that I've dropped out of church, and don't want to have much to do with God. I hate that I was forced to attend church, despite my protests. I ask myself why couldn't I have been born into a "normal" family. Everybody expected us to be a perfect family, and me to be a "goody-twoshoes" and not mess up, or else!
Maggie

Madison, WI

#170 Mar 28, 2013
Sam0420:
I know what you mean. Although my parents did not shove us to the side, I never felt like I could talk to my parents about anything. I never felt close enough to them for that. I've always felt "watched", like others have, and judged by everything that I did. I, like you, now don't have a high opinion of church and christians in general. I've realized how hypocritical they are, judgemental, close-minded, narrow minded, and think that they're blameless, and everyone else is evil, or bad. This, I think, is the general attitude, of christians and the church (specifically baptists.)
kita

Khon Kaen, Thailand

#171 Sep 14, 2013
wow...well said! like it!
I'm a pk+mk whatever name it!
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kita

Khon Kaen, Thailand

#172 Sep 14, 2013
Sam0420 wrote:
I have been a preachers daughter for 28 years. I've seen more hate and ugliness in the church than in the bars. My parents always shoved us to the side. The church always came first. I started having a drug problem. Swept that under the rug. Never talked about it to me. And everything that didnt look good for the family was treated that way. Now I can't walk in the church. I have such strong hate for church and it's members.
I once feel the way you feel. After I move to another country (to study) for 5 years. Being away from my parents, the church, the members, and every other hatred that comes along with it starts to go away. Healing comes. Sometimes members or even our parents could be real abusive and that's when we have to get ourselves out and away from it. Find our own place and to be who we are in Christ. "til then we might able to go back and face the challenges of being PK again in a new fresh perspective. God bless you heart. I love you and will pray for you as sister in Christ.
Salezi

UK

#173 Jan 27, 2014
Well,almost every one is complaining about being a p.k. I'm from S.A nd iv been a p.k since birth. Do not care what others say just live for yo God. There will be challenges but we are in our families to be a blessing 2 others nd be careful of who u date,others just wanna take advantage of you.xoxo

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