Ambien Rape

[Seth]

LET'S BE CLEAR.

Some people like Ambien Sex.

Some people don't.

The issue is not, "is Ambien sex okay?" because obviously it is some cases.

The issue is, "If my wife tells me not to have sex with her in an altered state, will I do it anyway?"

The issue is not drugged sex, it is CONSENT to drugged sex.

If she says no, it's rape, because she doesn't want it. She doesn't want it in her normal, unaltered state. If she starts anyway after taking ambien or ANY OTHER SLEEPING PILL, you may have to put your little friend back in your boxers - surely a fate worse than death, but the reality is, she doesn't know what is happening. It's like having sex with a girl who is drunk when you're sober, which is date rape, for the record. She could be doing it to anybody. For most of us, it bothers us when our wife wants to have sex with a man rather than make love to her husband as an individual.

And to everyone who says that these women should get off ambien, they were prescribed it for a reason. It's not perfect, I know ambien users - men and women - who find out they've been sleepwalking, sleepsexing, etc. But when your ambien friend is sleepwalking, you don't let him roam the streets, you lead him back to bed so that he can get BACK TO SLEEP. Just like when your wife is getting frisky on ambien you have to help her get back to sleep, or there's no point in taking the sleeping pills.

If you can't get her back to sleep, you two need to see a doctor about getting a different prescription.

Just because she is your wife does not mean she automatically consents to every kind of sex.

That is the most important thing I have to say.

[Tennessee]

Why don't you ask the 16 yr old girl that was raped by her best friend dad because he was taking Ambien.

[ambienhateranon]

I find it to be pretty insulting that individuals have the gusto to tell others what is or is not ok within the confines of marriage! Every marriage is different and its 'do's and do nots' should be established only by the couple! I wad assaulted and the vehicle for my date rape was Ambien. This drug is so dangerous and it infuriates me that it is legally prescribed and easily available online for purchase! I met a guy, who actually was in government/militarily. He seemed nice, honest, smart and trustworthy. Because of his job and the fact that we had hung out before without incident, I trusted him. He drugged and raped me. I came to and fought him and he kicked me out of his house and I drove impaired, not knowing what was/had happened to me. Fortunately, I realized something was wrong, and thanks to good medical care and swift tox results and police work, he will likely go to prison, where he belongs! There is absolutely nothing sexy, harmless, or comical about being taken advantage of while on this horrible drug. No matter the context of abuse, husband, boyfriend, creep in a bar, the feeling of embarrassment and violation, at not having control over your own body and/or mind and memory is the exact same! It is rape! And its disgusting! I'm not a crying in this forum, I'm far to strong to let that scumbag ruin me or my spirit/pride, but there are people who could have their lives destroyed or taken by being drugged with Ambien, for their sakes let's not trivialize sexual assault or this use of this Ambien garage!!

[Adam]

Posted earlier. My wife and I have "ambien" dates schduled. Sometimes she just sleeps, but usually we have hou sex for a whild and she gets horny and asks for others to join. I'm going to grant her wish tomorrow, if possible. I've fantisied about it for years and hear her moaning for it many times. She's going to have the pleasure of being serviced by another total stranger, and won't even remember any of it. I'll report back how it went.

[Wilfred]

My wife takes ambien every night. On the nights that we have sex, after she has taken the medication, we have the most intense sex. Husbands should try this. Video tape it too. It's fun

[Shootermcgavin]

I completely agree! What they fail to address is that unless they are abusing the Ambien taking it with Alcohol before bed then they would be essentially completely coherent at the supposed time of the sex. My wife tried that bullshit with me so with her permission I video'd us. I had look at the camera and explain that she was fine and was just as willing as I was.

[anne]

Bad Boy wrote:

My wife takes ambien and if she has a couple of glasses of wine loses all inhibitions but has no memory the morning after.
Does this count as rape?

if you have to ask here, then you probably didn't ask her, in which case YES!

[is it OK]

If it happens tell her. If she is OK with it its fine. If she isn't and u keep doing it then I don't think it is.

[Rob]

My wife has had similar instances with Ambien, although they're not consistent. We had what was probably the best sex of our life one night, but then the following morning, she didn't remember it. That erased all the good.

[Jeanine]

I've been taking ambien on and off for about a year. My boyfriend and I have crazy sex when I take it. I'm the one to initiate it. As long as he tells me about it I don't see the big deal. If he tells me how I act and I continue to take it then I don't think I can get mad for him not turning me down when I jump all over him. Just saying...

[sad dad]

What a mature, independent and well thought out way to put it!

Jeanine wrote:

I've been taking ambien on and off for about a year. My boyfriend and I have crazy sex when I take it. I'm the one to initiate it. As long as he tells me about it I don't see the big deal. If he tells me how I act and I continue to take it then I don't think I can get mad for him not turning me down when I jump all over him. Just saying...

[iloveweddings]

Reading about husbands violating their wives while on ambien is downright wrong! A person who you trust and you think would protect you does that. Sick.

Women, you need to think about your safety. Don't do ambien for recreation. Don't take it when there is a chance someone could take advantage of you.
This includes your husband, boyfriend, friend or family member.

[bigbilly34]

so ive read everyone's post and just have a few things to say.

1)as has already been said.....ladies even as sick as you may find it, with him drugging you for wild sex. think about it......he is doing freaky sexual activities with his Bride , the woman He loves. the women that promised to take care of him and his needs.The alternative here, is that he could be out bonking some more than willing area slut.Maybe its wrong to drug you for sex.But maybe it saving your marriage?

My wife and I have been married for 15 years,over the years ous sex life went WAAAAAAAY south- starting the day we concieved on our honeymoon. After our child was born I figured it get better after the healing time. Unfortunately, it didnt. So jokingly, I suggested I drug her and have my way with her. Between her work and school responsibilities and helping raise our kides, etc etc, it has presently 4 months since we had "awake" sex. She never has time for it. So with her knowledge, I began experimenting with ambien until i found the correct dose and now I have all night to enjoy and pleasure(yes she reacts to all the stimulus) my beautiful bride. Its been wonderful for both of us. I get the hot, steamy, kinky sex I like, she enjoys the sex but doesnt complain about anything we did, and I dont have to wait 4-6 months to make love with my wife and not a "touch me not".I for one love my wife and if ambien didnt work id just do without sex for the rest of my life (im 43)as i would never have sex with ANYONE but her..........awake or asleeo.

[Charles]

bigbilly34 wrote:

so ive read everyone's post and just have a few things to say.
1)as has already been said.....ladies even as sick as you may find it, with him drugging you for wild sex. think about it......he is doing freaky sexual activities with his Bride , the woman He loves. the women that promised to take care of him and his needs.The alternative here, is that he could be out bonking some more than willing area slut.Maybe its wrong to drug you for sex.But maybe it saving your marriage?
My wife and I have been married for 15 years,over the years ous sex life went WAAAAAAAY south- starting the day we concieved on our honeymoon. After our child was born I figured it get better after the healing time. Unfortunately, it didnt. So jokingly, I suggested I drug her and have my way with her. Between her work and school responsibilities and helping raise our kides, etc etc, it has presently 4 months since we had "awake" sex. She never has time for it. So with her knowledge, I began experimenting with ambien until i found the correct dose and now I have all night to enjoy and pleasure(yes she reacts to all the stimulus) my beautiful bride. Its been wonderful for both of us. I get the hot, steamy, kinky sex I like, she enjoys the sex but doesnt complain about anything we did, and I dont have to wait 4-6 months to make love with my wife and not a "touch me not".I for one love my wife and if ambien didnt work id just do without sex for the rest of my life (im 43)as i would never have sex with ANYONE but her..........awake or asleeo.

Good for you dude. As long as she has consented then everything is a go. My wife & I are in a similar situation. She has alot of anxiety and stress that interes and doesn't allow her to relax enough to get into it. We stumbled into the magical benefits of ambien a couple of years ago after a few late night sessions that were"off the freaking chart" wet & wild.

[montee]

lisa wrote:

Ambien is a real problem, my husband had sex with my daughter (Step). Good thing I had nanny cams all over the house that no one knew about. My daughter did it so she could blackmail him into giving her money, and buying a car. My husband has a lot of nightmares after returning from afghanistan, and of course sleeping problems

WOW! This story is unbelievably similar to what has happened to a great friend of mine. The difference is that the daughter in this story is his biological daughter. It starts out by the 14 yr old and a friend putting porn pics on the web of themselves. But when she was caught, she talked her mom and dad into just keeping it between them and her friend's parents. Then it happens again! By this time, mom and dad are divorced and vistation is set up with his 2 daughters coming to spend a week, every other week.

Between the divorce and now problems with the 14yr old, the doc puts dad on ambien to help him sleep. To make things worse, the doc gives him antidepressants! The first night he takes the ambien and starts getting ready for bed. But friends unexpectantly drop by. Since he's under the impression that it's 'just a SLEEPING pill, how bad can it be? He figures he will just get tired. Since he's single now, friends dropping by is common. He begins hearing stories about him doing somewhat bizarre behavior that his friends witnessed. Harmless things, but still, not himself and whats worse, he doesnt recall doing anything out of character. Although he usally didnt plan to have friends there when he had the girls, it's something that isnt always in his control so the girls saw some of his odd behavior.

His 14 yr old begins to periodically say,'dad, did you take your sleeping pill? I'll get it for you." She did this more and more while there for their visitation week. Unfortunately, he just thought it was harmless, maybe her way of helping him out. He had no idea that anything else might be going on. They had been getting along ok so why should he think otherwise?

Then one day he comes home and finds his 14 yr old with the boy and they are in a compromising position. He losses it and sends the boy packing and tells his daughter that she will not be able to see the boy again but also that she's lost all of her priveledges until he can figure out what to do. Of course an arguement ensues and she is threatening him that she will do whatever she wants and he can't stop her! Each day they battled until the end of the week came and he took her back home to her mom. That was on a Friday. On Sat afternoon he hears a knock on the door. He looks out and sees it's the police but since he hasnt anything to worry about, he answers the door. They proceed to arrest him for sexual assault against his 14 yr old daughter!

He has lost everything, job as an architect, his home, land, all personal property and worst of all, his daughters! He sits in prison today. He does not recall ever doing anything inappropriate to her. They claim there are pics. However, he was shown 1 pic and he said it clearly is not him. He has begged to see the police report, the pictures or anything that will give him more information. But he gets nothing! All he can go by are the things he was told by his friends when they visited and when he was on Ambien, doing things that were totally out of character for him. To make matters worse, he spent 55k on a lawyer who was later found to be friends with his ex. Since he had no prior experience with the law, he had no choice but to trust his lawyer. What a mistake!

While he sits in prison, the 14 yr old is living a pleasant life doing anything she wants. Her mom doesnt put any restraints on her activities so she is very happy! She has her dad out of her life the way she wanted! Meanwhile, his life is ruined! But the worst part is that he is being tore apart inside because he doesnt even know if he did it! PLEASE~DON'T TAKE THIS DRUG! This could EASILY HAPPEN TO YOU!

[Berlin]

Something like this happened to me. I began living with a new boyfriend that I had actually known for many years before we got together. My father had died not long before I moved in with him and I had decided to start taking ambien to help me on my sleepless nights...well...I would wake up to this feeling that I had sex...soreness and wetness between my legs. I would ask my boyfriend if we had sex and he would always say no....but he had this horrible look on his face that made me think he might possibly be lying to me and that felt awful. So after waking up to this feeling and to him denying anything happened several more times I decided to pretend I had taken it to see what he was really doing. Not an hour had gone by after I said I took it tghat I felt him nudging and shaking me and asking if I was awake. I did not respond and then he proceeded to insert his fingers into me and then his genitals into my mouth and then vagina and have very aggressive sex with me while I layed there seemigly asleep. After I just cried and he asked what was wrong qand I told him I had pretended the entire time. He had a look of terror on his face. Previous to this we had an amazing sex life and after I could barely look at him let alone have sex with him. I don't know if I should trust this person or if he's a sicko or if this is considered him raping me. I'm so sad and confused and I don't know what to do about it. Has anyone been through this or know what I should do?

[sad dad]

He is too stupid to be with. Leave him
Here is why:
A woman on ambien is hot and responsive and wants the sex per just about everyone I know that has experience of this kind. So this particular time you say you pretended you were asleep and you indicate that you were not responsive, however, this knucklehead cannot tell the difference between when you are really taking the ambien or not? I don't think so. If this really happened then he is a stupid man.
As well, if he was having his way with an unresponsive woman then it is time to move on for that reason too.
Sorry this happened to you!

[shafer]

Martha J wrote:

Okay, you guys. You just confirmed what I suspected my ex-husband of doing -- slipping Ambien to me so we could have wild and crazy sex that I wouldn't remember, to satisfy his selfish sexual needs.
Don't get me wrong, I loved making love with my husband. But, when I found out that he was having sex with me while I wasn't able to remember was a severe blow to the trust in our marriage. Even when I explained this to me that I felt violated, he continued to do so.
I did have a prescription for Ambien and the first time he told me about us having sex that I didn't remember, I told him that I felt cheated and disrepected. I requested that he be the "Ambien Police," meaning that if he knew I took Ambien to not allow us to have sex together. I would tell him each night when I was taking my Ambien. I found out that he was still proceeding to have sex with me while in my Ambien state. I took to sleeping in another bedroom.
The sad part is that this pretty much destroyed our marriage. I learned to not trust him even when I stopped taking the Ambien myself so as to have total control over my body 24/7.
Abusing Ambien so you can have wild and crazy sex with your wife is totally wrong!!! It's called marital rape. It is also called dispect for your wife. It is also called not loving your wife. You are more in love with sex than you are with your wife.
Perhaps if you loved your wife, she would have wild and crazy sex with you without being doped up. Did you ever think that by disrespecting her and raping her would lead to her not wanting to have sex with you? Duh!!!!
Stop it already and show your wife how much you love and respect her by not abusing her via drugs for your own sexual pleasure.

MARTHA
I totally understand what you are saying. I take Ambien, I initiated the sex because I was on Ambien. Was it wrong that my husband continued to have sex with me knowing I was on this and would not remember? After two hours he knew. I feel violated

[SMH]

Martha J wrote:

Okay, you guys. You just confirmed what I suspected my ex-husband of doing -- slipping Ambien to me so we could have wild and crazy sex that I wouldn't remember, to satisfy his selfish sexual needs.
Don't get me wrong, I loved making love with my husband. But, when I found out that he was having sex with me while I wasn't able to remember was a severe blow to the trust in our marriage. Even when I explained this to me that I felt violated, he continued to do so.
I did have a prescription for Ambien and the first time he told me about us having sex that I didn't remember, I told him that I felt cheated and disrepected. I requested that he be the "Ambien Police," meaning that if he knew I took Ambien to not allow us to have sex together. I would tell him each night when I was taking my Ambien. I found out that he was still proceeding to have sex with me while in my Ambien state. I took to sleeping in another bedroom.
The sad part is that this pretty much destroyed our marriage. I learned to not trust him even when I stopped taking the Ambien myself so as to have total control over my body 24/7.
Abusing Ambien so you can have wild and crazy sex with your wife is totally wrong!!! It's called marital rape. It is also called dispect for your wife. It is also called not loving your wife. You are more in love with sex than you are with your wife.
Perhaps if you loved your wife, she would have wild and crazy sex with you without being doped up. Did you ever think that by disrespecting her and raping her would lead to her not wanting to have sex with you? Duh!!!!
Stop it already and show your wife how much you love and respect her by not abusing her via drugs for your own sexual pleasure.

Going through this and am so ready to leave. Ive been married 21 yrs and he has done things to me I would never agree to. Ive "woken" up while he is doing things to me and it has destroyed my trust in him.

[michael beaver]

Kll wrote:

My friend has! We are trying to figure out how to prove this. Because she has a prescription for Ambien, no one is really paying too much attention to her. We truly feel he is taping the encounters and doing something with the videos. He is a porn addict. Do you have any suggestions?

yeah i do stop talking out of your ass dude LOLOL