Denver youth-facility staffer charged...

Denver youth-facility staffer charged with abuse

There are 182 comments on the Denver Post story from Jun 26, 2009, titled Denver youth-facility staffer charged with abuse. In it, Denver Post reports that:

Matthew Crum was working at a Denver treatment center for youths. A residential treatment center staff member has been charged with sexually assaulting a 16-year-old client.

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“Who likes shots & has 2 thumbs”

Level 1

Since: Jul 07

BOULDER

#110 Dec 29, 2009
Every person God gives us, Every expierience he gives us, is the perfect preparation for the future, which only he can see.

-Corey Ten Boom

(might not be exact....)

=)
anonymous

Littleton, CO

#111 Dec 30, 2009
I watched him get sentanced on the 18th, he got three years for the felony but yes they are running them concurrent, so he's done with the misdemeanor charge. He'll now serve the time for the felony. My guess is they most likely haven't updated the page due to the type of case.
Nice girl

Aurora, CO

#112 Dec 30, 2009
I stand corrected. He was just updated on the DOC. He got 3 years. Estimated release date 05/06/12. Can be parolled by 11/06/10.
Nice girl

Aurora, CO

#113 Dec 30, 2009
Stacked wrote:
<quoted text>Don't think he took anything from you....think of what you have gained from it. confidence, many lessons...
I could've done without this particular lesson. But thank you for making me feel better.:)

“Who likes shots & has 2 thumbs”

Level 1

Since: Jul 07

BOULDER

#114 Dec 31, 2009
Nice girl wrote:
<quoted text>
I could've done without this particular lesson. But thank you for making me feel better.:)
You never know what could have been next if you had not though... you know...

I don't know what you went through but you know it could have been worse... in all aspects. Emotionally, physically, monitarily... you know..

It will never happen again and in the long run I know it will make you exactly who need to be in one point or another that will change your life in such a positive way that you may not even realize it...
oneloveoneheart8 05

United States

#115 Jan 3, 2010
okay 3 years prison time makes me feel a lot better... For choosing to be involved in any way with a minor; for all that he has taken from me, along with all the other women out there that were involved with him. may not sound like much to some, but 2 of my childdbearing years along with a lot of money, the slow re-build of dignity, self esteem and ability to trust are a pretty big deal and hit me as a huge loss that had to be made up for. this is one situation that I know has a slow turnaround time for me, and I know its been very tough on a few of the other women as well, as we talk regularly and all have similar issues now with our efforts to be free of this completely...the want to date and do it right and be able to open up to and trust men in the process, etc... He burned us pretty severly, and it takes a while to re-grow our skin.

BIG HUGS and LOTS OF LOVE to all of you ladies that had the misfortune of matt crum in your life. Happy new year, I hope 2010 brings you all much love and joy that will be very tangible in your lives. Remember that HE was the bad guy, and you didn't do anything wrong or anything to deserve what happened, it's good to forgive yourself if you are harbouring any guilt over letting him happen to you...I don't know if the residuals of the whole situation wille ver completely dissapear, but I do know that they subside little by little over time.
Be strong and remember that there are many, many more good people out there in the world than there are bad ones, but keep your pretty eyes wide open just the same. Better Days are coming, so smile and look forward to them.
Very Sincerely~
A
oneloveoneheart8 05

United States

#116 Jan 4, 2010
PS. I just had to look up tthe DOC page...Picure of Matt in the orange prison jumpsuit is priceless.

“Who likes shots & has 2 thumbs”

Level 1

Since: Jul 07

BOULDER

#117 Jan 4, 2010
oneloveoneheart805 wrote:
okay 3 years prison time makes me feel a lot better... For choosing to be involved in any way with a minor; for all that he has taken from me, along with all the other women out there that were involved with him. may not sound like much to some, but 2 of my childdbearing years along with a lot of money, the slow re-build of dignity, self esteem and ability to trust are a pretty big deal and hit me as a huge loss that had to be made up for. this is one situation that I know has a slow turnaround time for me, and I know its been very tough on a few of the other women as well, as we talk regularly and all have similar issues now with our efforts to be free of this completely...the want to date and do it right and be able to open up to and trust men in the process, etc... He burned us pretty severly, and it takes a while to re-grow our skin.
BIG HUGS and LOTS OF LOVE to all of you ladies that had the misfortune of matt crum in your life. Happy new year, I hope 2010 brings you all much love and joy that will be very tangible in your lives. Remember that HE was the bad guy, and you didn't do anything wrong or anything to deserve what happened, it's good to forgive yourself if you are harbouring any guilt over letting him happen to you...I don't know if the residuals of the whole situation wille ver completely dissapear, but I do know that they subside little by little over time.
Be strong and remember that there are many, many more good people out there in the world than there are bad ones, but keep your pretty eyes wide open just the same. Better Days are coming, so smile and look forward to them.
Very Sincerely~
A
I had nothing to do with this guy but still wanted to add something to the women that had crossed his path and were hurt...

Don't be afraid of the next guy, don't look for ways they are similiar.... don't let him ruin more of your time then he already has... Don't be scared to let go and love again. It will be worth it. If you don't then he will win again and again and again.
oneloveoneheart8 05

United States

#118 Jan 4, 2010
Oh Stacked! You have just been the best through this whole thread!!! Thanks so much for all of your kind words and encouragement. I hope that 2010 is absolutely amazing for you!

“Who likes shots & has 2 thumbs”

Level 1

Since: Jul 07

BOULDER

#119 Jan 4, 2010
oneloveoneheart805 wrote:
Oh Stacked! You have just been the best through this whole thread!!! Thanks so much for all of your kind words and encouragement. I hope that 2010 is absolutely amazing for you!
I know it is easier said then done... I just know you are worth it.

Thanks, I am planning on 2010 being my year.....I am willing to share but not just yet!!! Hahha.

I hope your New Year is full of all things wonderous.

Hope, life, love to you and yours...
Retarded Woman

Aurora, CO

#121 Jan 8, 2010
oneloveoneheart805 wrote:
PS. I just had to look up tthe DOC page...Picure of Matt in the orange prison jumpsuit is priceless.
This I have got to see... Is there a link of some sort??
InShock

United States

#122 Jan 8, 2010
I'm late to jump on this bandwagon as I just found out about this story this evening. However, it could have happened yesterday and I'd still be just as appalled.

You see, as ashamed as I am to admit it, I used to date Matt. He pursued me and even with all the warning signs, I fell for him hard and fast. As the story goes, once he got what he wanted, he turned the other cheek. Little did I know, he had a "girlfriend" the whole time. Who knows though, she could have been in the same boat as I. It didn't take me long to realize what a manipulative person he is. However, that didn't make getting over him any easier. Although scorned, I craved some sort of closure and have ever since. That is, until tonight.

In my quest for reasons of failed "relationships," I always knew that I would someday find out why it didn't work and what went wrong. Well TODAY IS THAT DAY!!!

I thank God every day for the current, long-term, and loving relationship I am in now. Our milestones together have only made us stronger and better people. Getting though something like sexual abuse....well, thankfully I never had to nor will ever see that day! This just proves to me what an amazing force I have looking out for me. I have always believed that everything happens for a reason and this is just another instance where it's been proven to me. I tell ya, I have dated some real losers, but WOW!

I'm not going to sit here and trash talk Matt because it's not going to do any good. Just seeing the mug shot is good enough for me! When I think about the path his life is on now, I wonder, who should be in the "treatment center" now?
InShock

United States

#123 Jan 8, 2010
This has been a real eye-opening experience for me...reading what everyone else has to say. This is all so bittersweet for me. After years of wondering what had gone wrong, I feel like I finally know the whole story. It's bittersweet in the sense that out of something so bad, I feel we are all finding our closure.

To you onelove, I know who you are. Not personally but I know of you and now your experiences. You were his public and I was his private. I must say, I am in awe of your intellectual and retrospective analysis of the situation. I've never met you but I have a great deal of respect for you.

It's not my intention to waste my energy on something or someone that hasn't been a part of my life for years now but seeing all the support here is such a positive outcome in all this ugliness.

I can say one thing for him, he really knew how to pick 'em! We are all amazing and our paths are brighter now.
InShock

United States

#124 Jan 8, 2010

“Hey what's up”

Since: Jul 09

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#125 Jan 9, 2010
Matt don't look to happy guess his new roomies must be really hard on him.
Looks like he is really enjoying his extra super happy showertime.
third way girl

Parker, CO

#126 Mar 29, 2010
look ppl im gonna tell u a lil sum!!! i was a resident at third way n fact i spent almost two years wit this man!!!! matt is a very nice man on da outside.......he sumtimez let da rule book fly out da window whn he saw that us girls needed a extra smoke break or a few more min. on da phone.....bt at the same time matt was matt....i had an extreamly close relationship with matt.....nt the kind of relationship that he had with the other girls!!! bt matt could understan sum of us n a way that sum of the other staff couldnt!! i am friends with one of the girls that mat had a "relationship" or whtever u want to call it!! and she knw what she was doing with him.....bt also mat has a responcibility to us whn he walks in that front door!! n that is to protect us from harm!! n he did the tottal opposite!! what really makes me mad is that he should have learned the first time whn sumone told him to stop with the girl that i knw!! he was moved to another third way facility n did the same thing!!!! i am very hurt and sad at wht he has done matt was once my favorite staff n now i cnt stand the sight of him!!! matt worked with us girls n our children.....nw to think that matt would touch one of the babies n the house....no i dnt think so bt to think that he would have a relationship with a young girl whn he was tryn to start a family with his wife is wrong!!!!! i hope matt gets wht is coming to him n jail.....men like that our nasty n untrustworthie!!!!!!! i am very upset with all this n i hope that his wife is doing well...n to comment on sum other postings.....yes he is innocent untill proven guilty bt if u really knew wht the case was he is guilty!! he was moved from "the mom's house" as we use to call one of thirdways group homes to another third way center group home for the same thing!!! like i said he should have learned his lesson the first time!!!!
third way girl

Parker, CO

#127 Mar 29, 2010
i as a x third way resident, am very hurt by the comment left by raysmom2!!! u have no idea wht is is like to live at third way!!!!!!!!! n u have no fuckn idea how the staff run the program!!! look hear lady...i and many other third way residents are overly greatful for wht the staff at third way have done for me.......the support that third ways gives u while u are there and the support that they give u when u leave.....my name is well knw around the third way building!! i can call third way at anytime of the day or nite or i can even stop by when ever n there is always a staff there to talk to and lend u a sholder to cry on!! even the school teachers!! i graduated from third way a year earlyer than i would have if i was a t a public school....third way is a great place full of wonderful residents and staff.....so plz watch what u say because nt everyone at third way is bad!

“Who likes shots & has 2 thumbs”

Level 1

Since: Jul 07

BOULDER

#128 Mar 30, 2010
third way girl wrote:
i as a x third way resident, am very hurt by the comment left by raysmom2!!! u have no idea wht is is like to live at third way!!!!!!!!! n u have no fuckn idea how the staff run the program!!! look hear lady...i and many other third way residents are overly greatful for wht the staff at third way have done for me.......the support that third ways gives u while u are there and the support that they give u when u leave.....my name is well knw around the third way building!! i can call third way at anytime of the day or nite or i can even stop by when ever n there is always a staff there to talk to and lend u a sholder to cry on!! even the school teachers!! i graduated from third way a year earlyer than i would have if i was a t a public school....third way is a great place full of wonderful residents and staff.....so plz watch what u say because nt everyone at third way is bad!
What was freaking taught???? Sheesh....
whitecrayon

Englewood, CO

#129 May 4, 2010
I am shocked to hear about this. I too was involved with Matt for over a year. I am just now learning about all of this. He just disappearead out of my life, Now I know why. I have to agree with the other women. I always new there had to be someone else. I just couldn't prove it. He had away of making me question myself for accussing him. Oh wells live and learn.
LeavingLasWestmi nster

York, PA

#130 May 5, 2010
I have checked these posts from afar since they began...I never put in my 2 cents, nor did I judge anyone else's. But after finally seeing what has come of the situation, I just needed to vent about it. You see, I grew up with Matt, was very close with him throughout middle school, high school, and up until 2001/2 when he moved to CO. As kids, there were years we were friends, there were times I had a crush on him, times he had a crush on me, but for over 10 years...strictly friends. Some life struggles brought me "home" in my early 20's and that's when I got reinvolved with him...my mother always loved him as much as I did and was so happy we had reconnected. But after a week or 2, things got crazy...30 phone calls a day, stopping by the house if I didn't answer, complete smothering to a point I almost filed a restraining order. It crushed me to finally see that someone I had cared about for so many years and thought the world of, was actually just a wolf in sheep's clothing. He moved to CO...in his words "because he couldn't have me and he needed to get away"...and just as irony would have it, I reached out to him in May of 2009 to see how he was. He confessed he had been going through some tough times but hadn't elaborated. It wasn't until a mutual friend of our's told me about what was going on that I found out.
I must say, it sickens me to know he did these things and that he hurt so many people out there. It sickens me more to know that I cared so much about someone that never really existed.
I hope everyone has gotten some closure.

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