'I will never be the same'

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A former teacher who took months to ''brainwash'' a student to make her a sexual tool was sentenced to 15 to 30 years in prison Friday by a Northampton County judge who said it was the worst case of abuse she's ...
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savymama

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#48
Oct 13, 2008
 
ho my god wrote:
<quoted text>Ask savymama she knows the family
it is not about money, it is about stopping these things from happening in the future. legitimate questions were brought to the school's attention and no action was taken. tragedy followed. in our society, the courts award money to plaintiff's who are are harmed by the negligence of the defendant. if the award could be a magical spell to remove the pain and suffering of the victim, the family would gladly take that instead.
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#49
Oct 13, 2008
 
Child molesters don't pick any kid as their victim - they pick the kid who's already having trouble with his/her family because they're easier to isolate. They're not going to waste their time with well-adjusted kids if they can find one who's having difficulties. Now that the teacher has provided a common enemy, the parents are just one united couple fighting for their daughter and blame the teacher. They forget what it was that drew their daughter to the teacher's friendship in the first place.

It is possible that the teacher did something wrong and then the parents blew it way out of proportion out of revenge for their kid's gaining independence from them. The lawsuit could also provide them with a focus away from the mess of their life.

The teacher has repeatedly denied the most serious allegations. It's also not clear why the girl was suddenly put on suicide watch when the relationship was discovered. Either she was suicidal before and the parents should have noticed something was wrong, or she became suicidal when the parents put an end to the friendship. We've never seen the evidence in this case.

To the girl - hang in there. You can overcome all this. It might take years, but don't give up.
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Oct 13, 2008
 
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Yes, I was in the courtroom. Yes, I do know the family. Yes I was privy to prior records and testimony. And it kills me to read the cruel and untrue statements people are making, people who know nothing about this family. They are not, and never have been, people for whom money rules their lives. They enjoy simply being at home with their kids. Their daughter was raped, for god's sake, and people are talking as if this was a ploy to gain money to shop at neiman marcus (as one blogger so cruelly wrote!). Have you seen grown men sob? Have you seen siblings want to die in pain for the suffering of their sister? Have you stood by on suicide watch fearing that the child victim is so distraught that she wants to die? I hope you never see or experience these things. But the family here has suffered through this and far more.
the teacher is going to jail, why sue? because they want to profit off of the childs misfortune.
Whitehall PA

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#51
Oct 15, 2008
 
Further more, the parents are sueing the school distict that is "CRAP". If her own parents and you the close friends did not see the signs. How in the hell do you expect the school too? The school has hundreds of childern to look after. You and her parents only have a few. Get a clue! If they win this law suit there is something seriously wrong with our society. Is money really going to take the pain away, the horrible memories? NO, this girl needs to have intense counseling which I agree should be paid for by the teacher not the school district. You said "They enjoy simply being at home with their kids." If that is so true WHY & HOW did they not see the signs?
savymama

Hackettstown, NJ

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Oct 15, 2008
 
Whitehall PA wrote:
<quoted text>Ok so you are close with the family, then why didn’t you see the signs of abuse? Again there is NO REASON for a 12 year old to be out until 4am with anyone! If this girl was so disturbed why didn't the parents see this? I'm 29 years old and I can call my mother and she can just tell by the tone in my voice something is wrong. Why weren't they searching her room maybe they would have found the cell phone? I hear the parents were in the process of a divorce; how funny they’re all one big happy family when there is a law suit now! It's seems like money can bring family's back together look at the Jackson’s. So how much are you going to benefit from this lawsuit? Are you writing the book?(The untold story by the clueless friend) Who is going to play you in the movie?(Glen Close) Again I do feel bad for this poor girl, I just have no sympathy for the parents. Again this comes back to "Parenting" or lack there of. If her parents were so good and involved with her life they would have seen this happening. Yes I have been there my niece was molested and all of us knew right away just by her change in attitude and actions.
I only knew the family from seeing them around the school and through various town events. Had not ever met the daughter prior to this case, so there is your answer to why I didn't see signs of abuse. But I reached out to them, since I did know them well enough to say hi, and their youngest child had some classes with one of mine. But i HAVE gotten to know them well these last few month, and I can assure you that they DID notice changes in their daughter. But remember, the child was at that age when most kids begin to act odd or withdraw. Anyone who has raised kids know this. Teens go into dark moods and avoid their parents. But this family DID confront the child and DID go to the school about the issues. Nothing ever turned up to indicate something so heinous was going on. Do not judge people simply by what you read in the paper.
As what I will gain????? Absolutely nothing, other than knowing I stood up for justice and offered comfort to someone in need. No book is being written. This is a sad story that needs to be put to rest so a child can heal. Please do not insult me. I stepped in to listen and to be supportive. I always stand up for the underdog, and that is why I can't let people state things that are not true in these blogs. As to the divorce issue, I have never heard that the marriage was ever in trouble, have always seen the parents together in public, seeming to be loving with one another and with their children. This is a small community and people do talk. There was never any such talk in my presence.
savymama

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Oct 15, 2008
 
Whitehall PA wrote:
Further more, the parents are sueing the school distict that is "CRAP". If her own parents and you the close friends did not see the signs. How in the hell do you expect the school too? The school has hundreds of childern to look after. You and her parents only have a few. Get a clue! If they win this law suit there is something seriously wrong with our society. Is money really going to take the pain away, the horrible memories? NO, this girl needs to have intense counseling which I agree should be paid for by the teacher not the school district. You said "They enjoy simply being at home with their kids." If that is so
true WHY & HOW did they not see the signs?
this has nothing to do with the school seeing the signs in the student. she was not even a student there when the physical abuse took place. the school was questioned, by the parents, about the teacher. the parents were concerned that the teacher seemed too friendly with young girls. they wanted reassurance that there was not something off or wrong with this teacher. they were told she was fine, wouldn't not harm a child. now do you get it??????
savymama

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Oct 15, 2008
 
PATRON wrote:
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the teacher is going to jail, why sue? because they want to profit off of the childs misfortune.

Very sad to me that you are so jaded and see this as a means to profit. The school should have investigated the teacher when questions were brought to them by this family. There is more too, but I do not feel the need to discuss any further details. No money will erase what happened, but it may defer the huge costs of 2 adults losing week of wages, having to install a sophisticated alarm system, having to pay therapists, attornies, etc. No one seems to be considering the many thousands of dollars all these things costs, things necessitated by this teacher's raping of a child! The school was alerted to some issues and didn't think there was a problem. That turned out to be a big problem for this child!
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Oct 15, 2008
 
Whitehall PA wrote:
Further more, the parents are sueing the school distict that is "CRAP". If her own parents and you the close friends did not see the signs. How in the hell do you expect the school too? The school has hundreds of childern to look after. You and her parents only have a few. Get a clue! If they win this law suit there is something seriously wrong with our society. Is money really going to take the pain away, the horrible memories? NO, this girl needs to have intense counseling which I agree should be paid for by the teacher not the school district. You said "They enjoy simply being at home with their kids." If that is so true WHY & HOW did they not see the signs?
AMEN YOU ARE MY HERO
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#56
Oct 16, 2008
 
Ms. Breckne was wrongfully judged and profiled
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#57
Oct 16, 2008
 
Lady, people lie. Of course the parents are going to lie to cover their "image." Of course they are going to coach the girl on what to say in court. Do you really think they would let the girl say in court, "yes I enjoyed spending time with Kari, that's why I snuck out of the house and lied to my parents. I liked the attention because I wasn't getting any at home." The girl is just as guilty. She lied on several occasions to protect Kari. She called Kari right away after the parents found the "secret phone" to warn her. What does that tell you?!!?!?!?!
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The phone was hidden!!!!! They were always aware and concerned for their child's whereabout. You need to study up on brainwashing, read the transcripts of the hearings and not judge the parents, who could not work for months, as they had to watch their daughter 24/7 when the case first broke. They feared for her life! And they have had to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on a security system for their home (Brekne was out on bail for months and they all feared she would abduct one of their children!), plus there are so many out of pocket expenses for doctors, therapists, lawyers, etc. They are generous, upstanding members of this community, not people looking to make money on their child's suffering. I can only hope you are speaking from ingorance and are not as mean as you sound. Unless you know the facts, attended the hearings, have access to the reports submitted to the court, please do not question the motivation of the family.
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#58
Oct 16, 2008
 
The girl is the one who was obsessed and has issues. The school has record of the girl acting strangely and obsessive to another female, young teacher. It's NOT all Kari's fault. They BOTH ARE GUILTY. The girl has serious issues and i'm sure was coached to lie in court. Unfortunately only one side of the story was heard in court.
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First, she isn't 12. She is now 15 and was 14 at the time. Second, 90% of what her and her parents claim happened is lies. The teacher is wrong for what she did, but it was started by the student who had an obsession and her parents who are witless losers who were about to get divorced before all this happened. Now they are money hungry and after the school district. Teacher should be serving a much shorter sentence. The judge proved herself a big fool.
Whitehall PA

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Oct 16, 2008
 
In a resent statement to me you said “Yes, I do know the family.”“They are not, and never have been, people for whom money rules their lives. They enjoy simply being at home with their kids.” But then the next day you commented back to me “I only knew the family from seeing them around the school and through various town events. Had not ever met the daughter prior to this case, so there is your answer to why I didn't see signs of abuse. But I reached out to them, since I did know them well enough to say hi, and their youngest child had some classes with one of mine.” Hell I say hi to the Walmart greater, it doesn’t mean I’m going to get involved with their life.“I stepped in to listen and to be supportive. I always stand up for the underdog,” So you’re a media junky really are you sure you just don’t want your 15 minutes of fame. About divorce issue,“I have never heard that the marriage was ever in trouble, have always seen the parents together in public, seeming to be loving with one another and with their children. This is a small community and people do talk. There was never any such talk in my presence.” Again this comes back to how many times did you really see the parents while knowing them to notice they were so loving; a lot of people put on airs in public to save face. As for your statement “the school was questioned, by the parents, about the teacher. the parents were concerned that the teacher seemed too friendly with young girls. they wanted reassurance that there was not something off or wrong with this teacher. they were told she was fine, wouldn't not harm a child.” If they didn’t like that answer and were really concerned why didn’t they go to the board of education or get a lawyer involved then. Why didn’t they take it further???
savymama

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Oct 18, 2008
 
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The girl is the one who was obsessed and has issues. The school has record of the girl acting strangely and obsessive to another female, young teacher. It's NOT all Kari's fault. They BOTH ARE GUILTY. The girl has serious issues and i'm sure was coached to lie in court. Unfortunately only one side of the story was heard in court.
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LIES! The truth was heard in court. Both sides had the opportunity to speak. Keri made a very weak, non heartfelt apology. Neither the judge nor the people in the courtroom, other than the handful of people there for keri, believed a word of it. The child was liked and respected by all her teachers. She has always been an excellent student and respected as well as respectful. You are really trying to create something here that doesn't exist. Brekne is sitting in jail, where she belings. The truth prevailed and justice was served.
savymama

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Oct 18, 2008
 
duh wrote:
Lady, people lie. Of course the parents are going to lie to cover their "image." Of course they are going to coach the girl on what to say in court. Do you really think they would let the girl say in court, "yes I enjoyed spending time with Kari, that's why I snuck out of the house and lied to my parents. I liked the attention because I wasn't getting any at home." The girl is just as guilty. She lied on several occasions to protect Kari. She called Kari right away after the parents found the "secret phone" to warn her. What does that tell you?!!?!?!?!
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You are misinformed. She did NOT call KERI (not it is NOT kari, as you wrote) to inform her of anything. Brekne was trying to call the girl and when she couldn't reach her she called the child's friends who mentioned the child was not in school and they didn't know why. Keri put 2 and 2 together, freaked out, and knew she was about to be caught and thrown into jail. THAT is how it played out!
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Oct 18, 2008
 
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Ms. Breckne was wrongfully judged and profiled
Are you nuts???? She pleaded GUILTY on NUMEROUS charges of child molestation and other sex crimes in TWO STATES!!!!! Even at her sentencing hearing, she admitted to molesting the girl, claiming her emotions got the better of her. She is a sick woman who needs a lot of help. She sees nothing wrong in molesting a kid.
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Oct 19, 2008
 
savymama wrote:
<quoted text> LIES! The truth was heard in court. Both sides had the opportunity to speak. Keri made a very weak, non heartfelt apology. Neither the judge nor the people in the courtroom, other than the handful of people there for keri, believed a word of it. The child was liked and respected by all her teachers. She has always been an excellent student and respected as well as respectful. You are really trying to create something here that doesn't exist. Brekne is sitting in jail, where she belongs. The truth prevailed and justice was served.
respectful but got home at 4:00 am and didn't listen to her parents okay if this make sense to you Im happy for you ????
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Jul 24, 2011
 
savymama wrote:
<quoted text> Are you nuts???? She pleaded GUILTY on NUMEROUS charges of child molestation and other sex crimes in TWO STATES!!!!! Even at her sentencing hearing, she admitted to molesting the girl, claiming her emotions got the better of her. She is a sick woman who needs a lot of help. She sees nothing wrong in molesting a kid.
I just want to say that I respect greatly your staying with this and explaining the points that have been brought up, without lashing out at the child's "detractors"(sp?). Having been molested myself at 10 I know well the "deer in the headlights" reaction that can paralyze a child with fear. Fear and shame that if I had been more aggressive, street wise, whatever I may have prevented (at 10) the heartbreak about to descend on my family. It was my grandfather, and being in the early 60's I was NOT a street-wise early-sexualized child and I will never forget the confusion at the time from the way he manipulated me and acted like he was my special mentor.

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