Body identified as daughter of County Board member

Full story: St. Louis Post-Dispatch

BROOKLYN The body of a woman found Saturday along some railroad tracks has been identified as that of Amber McCarter, 21, a daughter of St.
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Linda Kreitner

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Jun 28, 2006
 
I would like to know if any funeral arrangements have been made for Amber. I am a friend of the McCarter family. I am so grieved to hear of this news.
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Anonymous

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Jun 30, 2006
 
Linda Kreitner wrote:
I would like to know if any funeral arrangements have been made for Amber. I am a friend of the McCarter family. I am so grieved to hear of this news.
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Funeral is on Saturday July 1st and 9 am at Faces Family Church (???) until 11 for the service. The address is 704 N. Greenmount
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Jun 30, 2006
 
i am so sorry to hear about amber this so devastating. my deppest spmpathy goes out to the family
MsJanet

Chesterfield, MO

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Jul 4, 2006
 
Am sorry to hear about Amber.I rember when she was a little girl going to Twin Echo School sweet thing.My deppest spmpathy goes out to your family.
Elliot

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Jul 4, 2006
 

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Ambers death was truly in vain and I deeply hope that the cowards who allowed this beautiful girl to die instead of taking her to the hospital are caught......However, people should know the real cause of this girls death and it wasnt anything recent. The cause of her death was started when she was just a teen still in high school seeking the attention and love of her parents, instead of love she got Christian Right bullshit and was shipped off to a boarding school known for brainwashing and physical abuse simply because her parents found out she was having sex at the time. When she was 18 and living on her own instead of her parents helping her like they are supposed to they cast her aside because she was living with someone before she was married. On and On this ignorance went until finally when her problems were so severe they finally tried to help but it was far too late. We can only imagine where Amber would be now if her parents gave her even half the love she sought. In the end the drugs racing through her veigns is was killed her, but its not what caused her death.

So before we start praying for her family lets bear in mind that her parents had a hand in her demise.

And by the way AMBER always said she NEVER wanted to be cremated but even in death Amber couldnt get her way because her parents wanted to take the easy way out.
Tim

Edwardsville, IL

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Jul 4, 2006
 
Elliot wrote:
Ambers death was truly in vain and I deeply hope that the cowards who allowed this beautiful girl to die instead of taking her to the hospital are caught......However, people should know the real cause of this girls death and it wasnt anything recent. The cause of her death was started when she was just a teen still in high school seeking the attention and love of her parents, instead of love she got Christian Right bullshit and was shipped off to a boarding school known for brainwashing and physical abuse simply because her parents found out she was having sex at the time. When she was 18 and living on her own instead of her parents helping her like they are supposed to they cast her aside because she was living with someone before she was married. On and On this ignorance went until finally when her problems were so severe they finally tried to help but it was far too late. We can only imagine where Amber would be now if her parents gave her even half the love she sought. In the end the drugs racing through her veigns is was killed her, but its not what caused her death.
So before we start praying for her family lets bear in mind that her parents had a hand in her demise.
And by the way AMBER always said she NEVER wanted to be cremated but even in death Amber couldnt get her way because her parents wanted to take the easy way out.
I can't begin to express my sadness and anger to this post. Bear in mind that every story has two sides to tell... You my friend might not even know the half of it. I've known this family for over 25 years and you know not what you speak of. I pray that you yourself would find more mercy and grace God forbid you ever find yourself in a similar situation.
John Michael Charlton

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Sep 4, 2006
 

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I hope that Amber may rest in piece. Although I wasn't by her side when she died, I know that for a fact I was in her heart. I spoke to Amber quite often and in fact I talked to her just a week before she passed. I have read all of the post and i don't quite think that anyone has her correct. Amber was a beautiful, full of life women. She was smart, and cared for everyone. I was there the day she was sent to boarding school. I was there the day she got back. I was one of the reasons she went to the boarding school and no it wasn't all her parents fault. Vikki and Kyle are very determined parents who love all three of their children. Both Amber and her parents saw eye to eye on literally nothing. Im not saying either was wrong but no one was right. I loved that girl. I know for a fact that she loved me. I received plenty of letters, phone calls, and frequent visits over the last 6 years that most people don't realize. She has seen me at my worst and I almost have seen her at her worst. Amber Lea was my babygurl....No it's not misspelled that is how she signed every letter i ever received. If no one has figured it out yet I was not her parents favorite by a long shot. I was Amber's Boyfriend for a long time. I dated her in Highschool when she left and we picked right back up when she got back. She gave me a life when I had nothing at one point. I am eternally grateful.

And for Tim, the person right above this, I realize that you have known the parents for 25 years. However I knew Amber more then anyone else on the planet. I know that Elliot, the one you put down also dated Amber, probably knows her a lil more then you do. Nobody deserves what they went through in that household... I was there on more then a few occasions. I also heard the conversations on the phone. You should take your own advice and realize that there are 2 sides to every story.

By the way Elliot was right, Amber never wanted to be creamated. I know exactly what she wanted and it's a shame that no one else gets it... I pray for all your souls...haha

JMC
Tim

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Sep 8, 2006
 
I knew both sides. Better than a biased person, I never took sides in this. I knew some of both sides. I didn't know Amber as well as you did. I'll admit that's true, but I knew her all her life. I knew more of a balanced view of the story. I knew that despite what anyone told me that there was love there, that Kyle and Vicotria loved Amber and she them. Not to say that there were not disagreements, hurts, hurtful things said.

I guess at this point... none of if really matters.
Amber is missed, and will be missed. I forever have the sound of her laugh in my head, and the memories of her in my heart. And that is better than having nothing at all.

And frankly, who cares what happens to a body when they die? Once I'm gone you can do with me as you please. I won't be here to watch or to care.
John Michael Charlton

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Sep 12, 2006
 
I understand that there is an underlying love for any child and parent and no one could ever take that away. I also thank you for realizing that I do know Amber best.

I realize that to you, you don't care where your body ends up but to her she did. She touched so many lives that didn't get a chance to say good bye to her. I know that it has been months and no one, I repeat no one misses her more then I. Closer is one of the hardest things for people, especially when they have no sense of it. I have had Amber forced away from me before so I know that I will be able to move on.

I don't exactly know where her ern is going to be placed but I do know that come December 2nd I will be looking for a place to rest some flowers and a small token from our relationship. That was my point as to her not wanting to be creamated. She wanted to be buried where people could come pay there respect to her. Like I said we talked more then most couples, I literally know everything about that sweet innocent little girl. From her hair style, favorite shows, Hopes, and Dreams everything.

I know she loved her parents in public but Love is also a loaded word. If you Love someone you can trust them. You can put faith in them. I know that she loved me I just dont think Amber loved her parents the way everyone thinks she did. I know, I know, I know let the past be the past, but truth can only be hidden as well as the lies hide it.
Marie

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Sep 13, 2006
 
Did Amber have life insurance. hummm
Tim

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Sep 21, 2006
 
Marie,
You are an _________. fill it in for me. think of anything that you wouldn't normally want to be called and just toss it in there. At least the guys are speaking from thier experiences, from their hearts. I can respect that.
Tim

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Sep 21, 2006
 
John,
I am truly sorry for your loss and I hope that you do find closure. I've dealt with enough death in my life to know it's not easy. You have my prayers if you want them.
Tim
John Michael Charlton

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Oct 10, 2006
 
No prayer in the world is going to bring back her life. I have excepted it. Have you?
White from E St Louis

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Oct 22, 2006
 
Tim...Do you claim to know what will happen when you draw your last breath?..You don't have any idea...I don't know anyone who knows !!!
Tim wrote:
I knew both sides. Better than a biased person, I never took sides in this. I knew some of both sides. I didn't know Amber as well as you did. I'll admit that's true, but I knew her all her life. I knew more of a balanced view of the story. I knew that despite what anyone told me that there was love there, that Kyle and Vicotria loved Amber and she them. Not to say that there were not disagreements, hurts, hurtful things said.
I guess at this point... none of if really matters.
Amber is missed, and will be missed. I forever have the sound of her laugh in my head, and the memories of her in my heart. And that is better than having nothing at all.
And frankly, who cares what happens to a body when they die? Once I'm gone you can do with me as you please. I won't be here to watch or to care.
Kelly

Saint Louis, MO

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Jan 12, 2007
 
I couldn't believe when I heard the news. I knew Amber in grade school, and hadn't seen her since. It's hard to believe my friend in fifth grade cheerleading is gone. My deepest sympathies.
TLP

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Mar 19, 2007
 
My prayers are with the McCarter family. My heart is so very heavy.
Amanda

Clarksville, TN

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May 4, 2007
 
I knew Amber from FF Church many years ago. We spent alot of time in the youth group and we got along. I remember her joking all the time, and i can barely remember a time when she didnt smile. i know that Amber really wanted to be accepted and that was the same issue i was dealing with then and i believe that is why we got along well. I attended her wake and to this day i am deeply sadenned when i think of her, however i believe that Amber is in a better place now and knows that many of us here love and miss her and will see her again. Regardless of what people above say, i have struggled with my parents and family in similar ways and i know that Vicki and Kyle wanted to help Amber and they did that the best way they knew how even if it may not have been the way that worked or benefited Amber. Amanda
Elliot

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Sep 17, 2007
 
I find some joy and some sadness reading through these messages here. Speaking of the other who dated her knowing her as I did, I truly think that very few people knew Amber for all she was I think in order to do that you had to be a part of her life as a love or a best friend.

Its clear her parents never understood her and even now they use her death for political gain and to gain recognition in the religious community, a community I might ad Amber was never all that into.

Truth be told this beautiful girls life was taken because when she needed it most no one was there to save her.

I tried, she called me when she was so deep into the drugs she had no way out and I came to her aid and befriended the worthless man she was dating at the time. The man who literally stuck the needle into her arm, and that night I did everything I could to get her out aside from dragging her out by her hair, but I couldnt she wanted me to one second and the next didnt want to leave and unfortunately I wasnt strong enough to get her out.

To this day I in part blame her death on that but I still will never doubt that what led hear down that dark and curving path was parents who cared more for her brothers, and for their own gain then the amazing daughter they had.

Amber was full of life and smiles and for those of you that understand the posts of myself and John you will know not only was her death in vain but thanks to her parents selfishness many of us will never have closure. I wanted to see her one last time, to place a rose in her hands and kiss her cheeks before they closed a casket only to come to a memorial of an earn that was more a christian rock concert then a memorial.

Amber im sorry for not being strong enough to save you when I had the chance. I am also sorry for all the pain you endured through your life and I hope now at least you can find the love you always craved.
DaTroot

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Nov 3, 2010
 
Congratulations, former boyfriends popping up to attack the parents. YOU didn't help her get off the hard drugs, did you? You didn't pay for a private school. You just got your jollies off with a girl whose brain was drug-addled. You weren't around to feed and clothe and raise her, you weren't around to discourage her drug use, and you weren't around to call 911 when she died. But, you have popped up here to troll her parents as if you made any sacrifices at all for the girl. You should be ashamed of yourself, you spineless little creeps.

And for those of you who think "amber didn't want to be cremated", piss up a rope. Amber did what she wanted to do (including hard drugs and sleeping with whiny little enablers) and she died doing it. Her parents can bury her any way they see fit. It's their daughter's corpse to dispose of with as much respect as they can muster.
Rachel Anson

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Dec 17, 2010
 
Amber was a great, beautiful, amazing friend. She was always there for everyone and was the best friend a person could ask for. She wasn't perfect but she loved her family. I was lucky enough to see her the week before she died. Amber couldn't stop talking about how she was so proud of her two brothers Zach and Austin. She also talked aobut how she loved her parents and admired her parents. I loved Amber she was the best friend I ever had.

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