Punishment: Is hitting children ever good?

Jul 17, 2007 | Posted by: roboblogger | Full story: The Clarion-Ledger

“I'd go a few rounds with anyone that laid a hand on my kid . . .”

Is there ever a good time to hit kids? This is a question that Jacksonians may have to answer, if Jackson Public Schools decides to reinstate corporal punishment. via The Clarion-Ledger

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Jul 18, 2007
 
Corporal punishment must be administeered carefully.There are accedents that can cause serious injuries in both boys and girls. I am a member of the Mississippi Club who grew up in Ms.
I remember a girl who was beaten so severly during her period that she had to go to the hospital for treatment.Her parents were compensated but that never took away the trauma. She says that she reached under the teacher's desk for her pencil. Yhe teacher yelled that she was trying to steal from her purse. She tried to tell that her pencil rolled under the desk.
So, be careful before you hit somebody's child. If you have a parent come in and do it,that's o.k.
If you hit my child, who is in JPS, you will get hit back, by me. Oh,I don't care about arrest. I care about an unjust punishment by some frustrated teacher.
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Aug 24, 2007
 
You know I have 5 kids. My boys become violent alot with one another. My oldest son has Bipolar so when he is in a violent state then why hit him by spanking. I am trying to teach them no to hit so why would I hit him. I do not like to spank any of my kids. My kids are getting to old for it anyways. So I try other punishments.
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I DO BELIEVE IN BEATING THE HELL OUT OF BAD CHILDREN, THAT WAS THE WAY WE CAME UP YEARS AGO AND WE WERE NOT MENTALLY SCARRED BY IT WE JUST HAVE WEAK CHILDREN NOW A DAYS
keyona

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i think that you should not put hands on your child because the fact that it is not help anything

“Not to be taken lightly”

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The children of today are on another level. I mean they learn so much so fast. I am 24, and I have 3 children. I do believe in laying on of hands on that but. My mom whopped my tail and I will not spare the rod on any of my children. I do not believe in putting my hands on others people's children. I have no authority to discipline someone else's child. I would talk to the parents. The generation of today needs discipline. If I dont discipline my child, the police will, so i'd rather do my job, and train up my child in the ways of the bible, and trust God that my child will not depart.
Mak Lisa

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Well i cant really say because sometimes you have to put your hands on them to get them to understand what you mean. i would not if it was a mistake or something then i woul not beat them. I think those who beat their children they need a good reason for beating on them.

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parishama wrote:
I DO BELIEVE IN BEATING THE HELL OUT OF BAD CHILDREN, THAT WAS THE WAY WE CAME UP YEARS AGO AND WE WERE NOT MENTALLY SCARRED BY IT WE JUST HAVE WEAK CHILDREN NOW A DAYS
thats horrible, dont you think it would make them worse
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parishama wrote:
I DO BELIEVE IN BEATING THE HELL OUT OF BAD CHILDREN, THAT WAS THE WAY WE CAME UP YEARS AGO AND WE WERE NOT MENTALLY SCARRED BY IT WE JUST HAVE WEAK CHILDREN NOW A DAYS
I was hit so much as a child i've lost count. When an adult hits a child its because the adult gets angry and can't handle the situation not to teach the child a lesson. You my friend sound like you had very angry parents and so have turnd out to be angry . Im pretty sure most people on this forum would agree with that. As for children being weaker thats just a way of making you feel better about being hit as a child.
How many adults have you hit in your life.......... I though so adults hit much harder than children. Nothing but a coward.

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Mar 21, 2008
 
JJJ wrote:
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I was hit so much as a child i've lost count. When an adult hits a child its because the adult gets angry and can't handle the situation not to teach the child a lesson. You my friend sound like you had very angry parents and so have turnd out to be angry . Im pretty sure most people on this forum would agree with that. As for children being weaker thats just a way of making you feel better about being hit as a child.
How many adults have you hit in your life.......... I though so adults hit much harder than children. Nothing but a coward.
Do you have any children JJJ? I mean I dont know how ya'll do it in the Uk, but here in the U.S. you have to be strict on your children times have changed, and this generation is totally different than when I came up in the 90's.
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Mak Lisa wrote:
Well i cant really say because sometimes you have to put your hands on them to get them to understand what you mean. i would not if it was a mistake or something then i woul not beat them. I think those who beat their children they need a good reason for beating on them.
YOU give me ONE..JUST ONE..good reason to BEAT a child..god gave us children to love & teach to love..i think " parents" that beat their children should be thrown in the pits of hell! there's too much hate in this world.
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I have children. I would NEVER EVER hit them. I dicipline them in a positive way with respect. the reason kids are different in this generation is because times are different. just because people used to be physiacal then doesnt mean it was ok and it was never and isnt ok now! people who use yelling, threaths and hitting need to learn parenting skills! If you want to have a relationship with your child when they are older, it starts from the day they are born. hitting and yelling only makes u far apart. and actually doesnt teach them anything besides for the fact that when one is very angry it is ok to hit or yell at someone weaker then you. that is a horrible message for a kid to learn! remember: kids are people too and everyone deserves to be treated with respect!!! kids are a gift from G-d. Take good care of them!!!!!
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reasons not to hit:
1. kids learn from example. hitting teachers kids to hit. kids need to learn good examples of how to act from parents.

3. Punishment distracts the child from learning how to resolve conflict in an effective and humane way. As the educator John Holt wrote, "When we make a child afraid, we stop learning dead in its tracks." A punished child becomes preoccupied with feelings of anger and fantasies of revenge, and is thus deprived of the opportunity to learn more effective methods of solving the problem at hand. Thus, a punished child learns little about how to handle or prevent similar situations in the future.
5. Punishment interferes with the bond between parent and child, as it is not human nature to feel loving toward someone who hurts us. The true spirit of cooperation which every parent desires can arise only through a strong bond based on mutual feelings of love and respect. Punishment, even when it appears to work, can produce only superficially good behavior based on fear, which can only take place until the child is old enough to resist. In contrast, cooperation based on respect will last permanently, bringing many years of mutual happiness as the child and parent grow older.
angry teenagers dont fall from the sky. hitting cause resentment and anger and kids want to take revenge.
Even relatively moderate spanking can be physically dangerous. Blows to the lower end of the spinal column send shock waves along the length of the spine, and may injure the child. The prevalence of lower back pain among adults in our society may well have its origins in childhood punishment. Some children have become paralyzed through nerve damage from spanking, and some have died after mild paddlings, due to undiagnosed medical complications.
9. Physical punishment gives the dangerous and unfair message that "might makes right", that it is permissible to hurt someone else, provided they are smaller and less powerful than you are. The child then concludes that it is permissible to mistreat younger or smaller children. When he becomes an adult, he can feel little compassion for those less fortunate than he is, and fears those who are more powerful. This will hinder the establishment of meaningful relationships so essential to an emotionally fulfilling life.
10. Because children learn through parental modeling, physical punishment gives the message that hitting is an appropriate way to express feelings and to solve problems. If a child does not observe a parent solving problems in a creative and humane way, it can be difficult for him to learn to do this himself. For this reason, unskilled parenting often continues into the next generation.
Gentle instruction, supported by a strong foundation of love and respect, is the only truly effective way to bring about commendable behavior
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Ya know... the kindest generation is the generation that was brought up with the threat of the woodshed.

Parents today are stupid.
Not one parent in this thread made a good case against NOT spanking.
I've seen your unruly kids in the stores, malls... movie theaters, parks.....
LMBO... you all should be ashamed of your kids.
They are rotten to the core.
No wonder you need to medicate them. You can't "control them" any other way!!!
hanna

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Apr 13, 2008
 
the reason why kids are "bad" is beacuse they watch adults in their lives treat them badly like hitting for ex and are not taught in a kid loving how to to deal with situations. They grow up to be angry which leads them to do all sorts of "bad"things. Kids are not born knowing what to do we need to teach them in a kind way. Just like we tell kids to use their words not their bodies adults need to do the same. for parents who are sayng beat the hell out of your kids.. wow i feel for your kids.. please go to therapy because your kids are not ok if thats your approach.

How dare anyone hurt thier child? I NEVER ever hit or will ever hit my kids . I lovingly teach them how to behave and they respond and are well behaved and well mannered because kids learn by example not by force. force may stop the behavior for the moment but does not teach them the right thing to do.

people who hit or yell at their kids have an emorional hole that they are expecting their kids to fill. parents who were treated like that for ex and enever dealt with the abuse are letting out their rage on their kids..

why have kids if you hate them and if youll beat the heell out of them?? i dont get it!!
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Apr 13, 2008
 
Wally wrote:
Ya know... the kindest generation is the generation that was brought up with the threat of the woodshed.
Parents today are stupid.
Not one parent in this thread made a good case against NOT spanking.
I've seen your unruly kids in the stores, malls... movie theaters, parks.....
LMBO... you all should be ashamed of your kids.
They are rotten to the core.
No wonder you need to medicate them. You can't "control them" any other way!!!
if you want to know how to control your kids and teach them good manners, show them by example. hitting is not an example! hitting shows them that when they are upset at somone they should deal with it by hitting!! that is a very good reason not to hit. because these kids are being hit and yelled at thats why you are seeing them act the way they act.

of course there needs to be consequenses when kids misbehave but in a dignified humane way! Not in a disgusting- abusive way that teaches them to hurt others.

i hope you dont have kids because seems t me you really done understan them or know how to bring out the best in them. I dont mean to be rude, i just see that some people dont get kids.. and if they arent willing to learn how to bring out the best in them and how to treat them kindly, then please please dont ever bring them into the world.
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Lying, or being a Smart-A*s, only things gets you smacked across side of head, in my house.
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I was spanked as a child, and I knew when I got a woopin it was because I was bad and my parents wouldn't tolerate my behavior.

The problem is not whether or not spanking is effective; any kid who's got a parent that will woop them knows that it's effective. Out of all of the punishments you fear the most, it's on the top of the list. The real issue is why a bunch of liberal idiots who have turned this country into an example of what not to do, tell us how to raise our kids.

All kids aren't the same; some don't require regulr spankings, but the number one reason kids grow up to be violent isn't the result of getting a good spanking, it's because they were never taught what it's like to be the recipient of a good ass woopin, instead of being the aggressor.

You have to teach kids respect before the pass their developmental stage. If you don't, they'll make society suffer, they'll suffer, and our youth will end up worse than they are now (hard as that is to believe).
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Jul 10, 2008
 
Keep hitting kids, it's good for my business. I can guarentee you that the causes of depression, anxiety, drug/alcohol and relationship problems begin with parents who are so out of control that they need to hit their children rather than showing them love and teaching them right from wrong using words and consequences rather than violence. No kids benefit from physical violence. If you feel you need to hit your children, then you would benefit from professional help or parenting classes.

http://cheercounseling.com
a teenager who gets hit

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Nov 10, 2008
 
Ive been hit plenty of times by my parents when i was younger and im now 17, and in my opinion spankings actually helped me now, i am very respectful towarads others wen i have to be, you can ask anyone of my teachers, and honestly i turned out perfectly fine, so shove all that "i dont hit my kids" shit up your ass b/c its your kids that are the disruptive brats who get away with everything.
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Nov 10, 2008
 
When they are very young spankings can be beneificial. It helps clen\se the child of guilty feelings. But it should never be done at discovery and you should alkways hold and love the child afterwards. By age 7 or so spankings do more harm then good and other ways of punishment are more effective.

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