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The Pastor wrote:
What was the reason ?
I just got back and I'm on my way out again. High school soccer season keeps me busy so I will be really quick.
Two of the kids were brothers the mother was in the truth the dad not as they became older they felt like they were treated differently at the KH. Especially when the Elders asked them to keep their hair cut short above the ears.
Well they would not cut it and they were not baptised but the Elders kept at the two brother and then they wanted to talk with them in the back room and they said they would take action if they did not cut it. I guess they wanted to mark them as not being good association and make sure they had no privilages as they did the mikes. They basicaly made the kids feel like worthless human beings by the time they were done like they could not do anything right.
The boys were made to feel their own father was not a good father because he was not a JW. The haircut they had was not long by the way it just was not above the ears not up to the JW standard.
The third kid was a Elders son and this Elder rode that kid so hard.
I remember seeing him just chewing the kid out at the end of one of our smaller assemblies and I thought what did he do. It was imbarrassing to watch how harsh the dad was being to the kid.
The dad was so inappropriate and out there everyone was staring which then had the dad getting imbarassed and even more upset witht the poor kid.
The kids got sick of trying to be perfect too and all three of them got together and it was just a bad situation. They took out their frustraitions on the cars and it was quite a few. They were like most kids who do not have a fully developed mature brain not thinking about who it would hurt.
I know all three of these now young men and all of them were very good kids at that time but if you push kids with negative reniforcement this is what you end up getting kids needing to vent their feelings and in most cases it is in a very negative way.
My husband recently had seen the parents of all three boys when my husband was at his fathers' funeral.
The two brother are not JW but are married with wonderful familys of their own they did not stay in the "truth" they said the pressure to be perfect was to great.
The mother still a JW she regrets letting the Elders take over what was her role as a parent she feels it has completely pushed her sons away from all religon.
As for the Elder and his son that Elder said he wished he had not been so harsh with his son trying to make him the perfect JW because the son has nothing to do with the father and he misses his son. I will say he is a nice guy and his wife too I feel sorry for them all.