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The Family Table Is Not Always Safe for GLBT People

There are 21 comments on the www.womanist-musings.com story from Apr 10, 2012, titled The Family Table Is Not Always Safe for GLBT People. In it, www.womanist-musings.com reports that:

So another holiday in which I largely avoided family. Well, there was an awkward awkward dinner involving Beloved’s parents, a sadly overcooked piece of lamb and all the pre-bought things that I normally shun. But I was polite and they were polite and it was such a very polite affair. Like the kind of dinner one would expect to have if, say, you invited your boss round one day albeit without the creeping and brown nosing.

I did spend some time on the phone with my brother again, this is getting more frequent, it suggests he’s going to drop in at some point, he usually does *is prepared for Hun invasion*. However, I did point out that I had bought mother an Easter egg and he had forgotten which officially made me the Good One (one of the eternal elements of familial politics is how quickly family favour can shift in the grand scheme of things and how the coveted title of “Good One” also conveys the passive aggressive dig of “Bad One who doesn’t care and is his arm broken because he never picks up a phone!” Which goes to show that our family is never happy without feuds, snarks and sulks) Brother mine pointed out that I could never be the good one until I started dating women.

Which, well, hmmm… that rather upped that ante in a manner that was inappropriate for the discussion, as I would have thought would be rather obvious. He still doesn’t get why he crossed a line that didn’t need to be crossed and I just don’t have the energy to walk him through it.

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“Love thy neighbor!”

Since: Dec 06

Westland , MI

#1 Apr 10, 2012
I got lucky, I worked a 12 hour shift this holiday, and also volunteered on Thanksgiving and Christmas. I spend my REAL holiday with my partner and children and grandchildren at another time, avoiding the "Church of Christ" family of my partner. It works for us. Yes, I am a coward, but we are ALL much happier.

“Luke laughs at hypocrites!”

Since: Sep 10

Palm Springs, California

#2 Apr 10, 2012
Gay Mom wrote:
I got lucky, I worked a 12 hour shift this holiday, and also volunteered on Thanksgiving and Christmas. I spend my REAL holiday with my partner and children and grandchildren at another time, avoiding the "Church of Christ" family of my partner. It works for us. Yes, I am a coward, but we are ALL much happier.
When I was still working I used to always volunteer to work holidays...I worked in TV. No one else wanted those days, and it paid me double time and a half overtime. I would use the money from Thanksgiving and Christmas and New Year's day over time for a nice trip to Hawaii with the hubby in January...plus it got me out of those dreadful family forced get together days. Happily, now we are retired, living in this resort town and my family is far far away. My chosen family is here and holidays are a joy now.
Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#3 Apr 10, 2012
When holidays become open warfare it is time to pass them on to the family's spawns

“Headed toward the cliff”

Since: Nov 07

Tawas City, Michigan

#4 Apr 10, 2012
I got to spend the weekend with my in-laws in Ohio. At least I got to pay less than $4 for gas while there!
Nathan

Netherlands

#5 Apr 10, 2012
Is it worth shunning family just so you may live a life of sexual perversion?

“Equality marches on! ”

Since: Apr 08

Location hidden

#6 Apr 10, 2012
Nathan wrote:
Is it worth shunning family just so you may live a life of sexual perversion?
What would you know about family, R1? You spent all yesterday (Easter) posting here on the gay threads. Some family interaction you must have shared!

“Headed toward the cliff”

Since: Nov 07

Tawas City, Michigan

#7 Apr 10, 2012
Nathan wrote:
Is it worth shunning family just so you may live a life of sexual perversion?
Oh we'll probably let the heterosexuals come in spite of their sexual perversions!
Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#8 Apr 10, 2012
WeTheSheeple wrote:
I got to spend the weekend with my in-laws in Ohio. At least I got to pay less than $4 for gas while there!
Obama's first term brought us ObamaCare to punish crooked insurance companies (fundamentally; every one of them)
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Lets hope his second term brings us ObamaGas:: 5 gallons of free gas per week for each American Citizen holding a valid driver's license who is the registered one-car owner of a running motor vehicle of 100% American manufacture
Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#9 Apr 10, 2012
Nathan wrote:
Is it worth shunning family just so you may live a life of sexual perversion?
That decision is up to you
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So you should ask yourself this question:
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"Whose life is it anyway?"
Hoodathunkit

De Graff, OH

#10 Apr 10, 2012
Rainbow Kid wrote:
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Obama's first term brought us ObamaCare to punish crooked insurance companies (fundamentally; every one of them)
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Lets hope his second term brings us ObamaGas:: 5 gallons of free gas per week for each American Citizen holding a valid driver's license who is the registered one-car owner of a running motor vehicle of 100% American manufacture
The only vehicles that are 100% American manufacture are so old that it's nearly impossible to buy parts for them. For more than 30 years, American vehicles have been a mix of American and foreign made parts.
Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#11 Apr 10, 2012
Hoodathunkit wrote:
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The only vehicles that are 100% American manufacture are so old that it's nearly impossible to buy parts for them. For more than 30 years, American vehicles have been a mix of American and foreign made parts.
That is exactly the point (you're smarter than the average bear)
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Unemployment would cease to exist as American workers scramble to build 100% American cars to meet the demand

“Love thy neighbor!”

Since: Dec 06

Westland , MI

#12 Apr 10, 2012
Rainbow Kid wrote:
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That is exactly the point (you're smarter than the average bear)
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Unemployment would cease to exist as American workers scramble to build 100% American cars to meet the demand
But how much will they cost????

“Headed toward the cliff”

Since: Nov 07

Tawas City, Michigan

#13 Apr 10, 2012
Gay Mom wrote:
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But how much will they cost????
And will they be worth buying?
Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#14 Apr 10, 2012
Gay Mom wrote:
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But how much will they cost????
Indubitably they would be expensive in the beginning; but free market competition and volume volume volume would bring the prices down
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Obama already has a car named after him; so a few shifts to American suppliers and we're rollin'
http://www.caradvice.com.au/136864/iraqis-lov...
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Its time for an Obama LGBT in our carriage house ;o))

“Child of the Universe”

Since: Aug 09

Toronto, Ontario, Canada

#15 Apr 10, 2012
Nathan wrote:
Is it worth shunning family just so you may live a life of sexual perversion?
Isn't there a marijuana bar you should be frequenting in Amsterdam a little more often? It would do WONDERS for your outlook...

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#16 Apr 10, 2012
Nathan wrote:
Is it worth shunning family just so you may live a life of sexual perversion?
"GAY" -- the freedom to actually CHOOSE your family.

“Luke laughs at hypocrites!”

Since: Sep 10

Palm Springs, California

#17 Apr 10, 2012
NE Jade wrote:
<quoted text>What would you know about family, R1? You spent all yesterday (Easter) posting here on the gay threads. Some family interaction you must have shared!
He was with his family. He was in his mother's basement, on his dead grandmother's dial up computer using Windows '95, where he is the oldest virgin alive, sniffing and slobbering over gay forums night and day.
Dale

Germany

#19 Apr 10, 2012
snyper wrote:
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"GAY" -- the freedom to actually CHOOSE your family.
And your BUTTHOLE !!!

“Love thy neighbor!”

Since: Dec 06

Westland , MI

#20 Apr 10, 2012
Dale wrote:
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And your BUTTHOLE !!!
We are talking about families and you are throwing in third grade potty words. What does that say about you???

“Luke laughs at hypocrites!”

Since: Sep 10

Palm Springs, California

#21 Apr 10, 2012
Dale wrote:
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And your BUTTHOLE !!!
Oh, Peaches, Peaches, Peaches, when will your LIES and FAKE personalities end? Will you NEVER tire of false names and making up new sex roles for yourself? You are fooling no one, idiot.

No one has such horrid grammar as you do. Your mangling and torture of the poor English language shines though in your wretched posts as if it is under a spot light. You fool NO one but yourself, liar.

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