This Shouldn't Be Normal

Jun 26, 2012 Full story: www.womanist-musings.com

There are places in my home city I know not to go at certain times. Or some not to go alone. I know where fool straight folk gather when they’ve had too much to drink, looking for a victim. I know a local park where the police will assume I’m cruising. I know to avoid these places.

At work, I know that at least once a week, one of three people will say something offensive. I know that, at least 4 times a week, annoying secretary will flirtingly joke about “changing me” or “what a shame it is you’re gay” or some such. I know that I need to check my email religiously or have the extra, over-scheduled work dumped on me because it’s assumed I have no family and no plans. I know I have to book holidays well in advance and fight for them in case they’re moved in favour of those who “have family and partners to be accommodated”. I know that my most senior partner still doesn’t understand why I’m pissed at him for throwing cases of gay-bashers at me and why I don’t want to be in a small room alone with such people to interview them. I know that, in some family and criminal cases, he will act like I’m a woman or use my being gay as some kind of selling point. I’ve worked out ways around these problems, things I can’t say, things I have to grit my teeth and ignore, ways I have to react and steps I have to take to avoid shouldering the firm’s grunt work.

These are just a few items on my list of things that have become normal for me. I’m not even talking microagressions like gross heteronormativity, erasure, or far too many damn people using homophobic hate speech, or even big massive things like the current marriage equality debate and everyone showing their scabby, homophobic arses over it. I’m not even talking about my annoyingly homophobic family trying to drag me back to them over the bridges they burned. I mean all the things, all the shit, every day in our lives that are specifically unacceptable yet have become normal to us.

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Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#1 Jun 26, 2012
lolol
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none of that depressing 'normal' sh!t for me
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I'm glad I was born fabulous!
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-54_DrYDb1b4/TjwBKaj...
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Thank you, God
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;o))
david traversa

Argentina

#2 Jun 26, 2012
Consider the source.. think how lucky we are and pity them.. It works wonders..

Since: Dec 08

Toronto, ON, Canada

#3 Jun 26, 2012
I must say, living in two countries I have had none of the problems in either that this bloke has in his. Remind me not to move to Oz; it's full of louts.
Warren Redman-Gress

Charleston, SC

#4 Jun 27, 2012
we've begun a new campaign in SC, calling on people to speak out when that "normal bigotry" rises up.
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