I feel for you. I see kids like that every day. Where are their parents? Do you have custody? If not, then make their parents raise them. If you do have custody, and they are as out of control as you say, I would turn them over to the courts. I hate to see grandparents raising grandkids. I think once you have raised yours, you should get a break.I'm sorry, but I agree that this man should have never been arrested!
If she repeatedly skipped school, and for some time now, the courts should have placed her in a junvenile center until she did the work she needed to get her diploma. If she didn't get up after being told too, then it really is her fault, not his. She has a child? Well, at least her parents didn't let her quit at 16....
At her age, she should take responsibility for her actions. Then again, too many times these kids think they know it all, and feel as if they don't even need school.
I've been having trouble with my twin grandsons. They are 14 1/2. I have told them that if they don't straighten up, I'll have to give them up to the courts. They told me, good, then they won't have to hear me nag. I told them if they would just do what they know they have too, I wouldn't be a nag'n. They lied all the time. One of them has been caught stealing from family members.
They think that they are invincible, and that laws don't apply to them. One told me that if he ever has to go before the judge that he'd tell him to f*** himself. That's another thing I have a problem with, the language! They watched those cartoons (South Park, Family Guy, Simpsons, and American Dad, even when they were told not too) that has kids cussing and they think they can too.
I'll be 56 tomorrow, and my heart is bad. I just don't know what to do. They both are bigger than me, and have treat'n me. I know if I give them up, they won't be in my family anymore, and that's the only reason I have put up with it for the last 6 months. I've tried time out, standing at the wall, and I even made them stay in their room, but nothing works. And suggestions?
Hope everything turns out ok.