Really

Columbus, OH

#1920 Apr 7, 2014
Josie Betts wrote:
actually...he did EVERYTHING that was mentioned.
If Bennett was convicted to the full extent of the law and shamed in a media circus...
Trust me... It would not make any of you feel better for the years of abuse and manipulation.
I have been vindicated in the past after being thrown under the bus by a leader... It does not take away the pain.
Get a Good Christian Counselor, and process through the grieving process.
The first step of Forgiveness is realizing the FULL extent you were wronged. You cannot forgive w/o knowing what you are forgiving.
Recommendations:
1) Read up on Narcissistic personality disorder bit.ly/1hHxvBt
2) View these resources: http://www.healingspiritualabuse.com/
3) Go to a church that offers a peer counseling ministry and has transparent leaders (wounded healers)
i.e. Vineyard Church Deleware County http://www.vineyardcdc.org/
Heritage Christian Church http://www.heritagecc.org/
Vineyard Columbus www.vineyardcolumbus.org
Northside Fellowship
etc.
(Make sure the Pastor does not live like a Hollywood Millionaire, I can vouch for the above pastors)
I question whether one should stay at TCAP- being that many who enabled Bennett over the years are still on staff. Also- that building was a context of abuse, and may complicate your healing process.
Forgiving Bennett is giving his offenses to Christ, so HE can deal with Bennet. God is Grace, and God is Just.
Bitterness over Bennett will consume you. DO NOT let the madness of Bennet further destroy you. That is Satan's Plan. Bennett is out of the picture...do not Give the Devil or Bennett any more power to screw up your life.
To many people gravitate towards power roles because they felt insignificant or were abused or abandoned... I can imagine that this might be the case with Bennett. Don't perpetuate the cycle by not forgiving and pursuing healing.
I met Bennett several years ago and he struck me as a Bully with Daddy issues that was trying to build a big church for all the wrong reasons.
Forgive Bennett, Engage Jesus.
Great Counseling Practices: Directions on High Street, Wellspring is great too!
Lord Bless you guys. I would love to see this forum become a discussion group on healing and forgiveness. Grow beyond Bennett and become like Jesus
you are so misguided. No one wants to see Bennett pay for what he's done, they want him to stop abusing innocent people and children. I would be happy if he went to prison because then he can beat up the biggest guy in there instead of little boys and girls because their mother is too stupid to stop him. I am not Sean but know enough first hand from the Smith children abuse and his current victims to not stick my head in the sand.
Josie Betts

Columbus, OH

#1921 Apr 8, 2014
misguided about everything I wrote, or just a part. Please clarify.

Gather some people, hire a PI- and get some leverage...

What about all that I wrote.
k_thanks

Columbus, OH

#1922 Apr 8, 2014
Josie Betts wrote:
misguided about everything I wrote, or just a part. Please clarify.
Gather some people, hire a PI- and get some leverage...
What about all that I wrote.
k_thanks
Addie

Columbus, OH

#1923 Apr 8, 2014
Josie Betts wrote:
misguided about everything I wrote, or just a part. Please clarify.
Gather some people, hire a PI- and get some leverage...
What about all that I wrote.
I think what people on here are trying to say is It is not about forgiveness. He is hurting people and is still harassing members of the congregation. I think that many of us are tired of being told to forgive and move on. That is not the issue. He needs to be stopped. He is still in an active fight to get the Church back. He is hurting four innocent kids that have nothing to do with this mess. I have heard enough that I cannot listen to another thing without being ill. He is a monster and that is that. People should pray for the the kids caught in the crossfire of all of this. There are so many different people on this site that were hurt by this man. If they want to vent, let them. My heart aches for the kids, all of them.
Josie Betts

Columbus, OH

#1924 Apr 8, 2014
Is he really going to get the church back? Frankly- I don't know how the church as a 5013c is not being investigated in the wake of Bennett's personal enriching/embezzelment.

The "church" is people, not a building. How many People still remain at TCAP?

Also- their is no problem with venting... But people need next actions towards healing that don't depend on either (1) Bennett getting his come-uppance or (2) any kind of legal victory.

Also- everyone Bennet is intimidating should file for a restraining order. Perhaps everyone should also contact his employers. Who wants a sales rep who is an abusive stalker.

Jesus can heal whether or not Bennett ever repents or is imprisoned.
Reality

Columbus, OH

#1925 Apr 8, 2014
Everyone at TCAP is delusional, the fact you think that you can be a legitimate church after all of this is insane. You're a joke? So compromised by everything and his brother.
hello

Columbia Station, OH

#1926 Apr 8, 2014
Reality wrote:
Everyone at TCAP is delusional, the fact you think that you can be a legitimate church after all of this is insane. You're a joke? So compromised by everything and his brother.
Hello Bennifer
LiesandConfusion

Pickerington, OH

#1927 Apr 8, 2014
I just wanna see the Facebook back, BS "married to JS" and so forth...
Be a MAN... reactivate your FB and own up to who and what you are, and the choices that have lead you to this moment.
mikeM

Akron, OH

#1928 Apr 9, 2014
When will people understand that just becasue someone says they are a Christian doesn't mean they are. In fact, the more loudly someone claims they are a Christian, the less likely they are. Remember what Jesus said about the hypocrites who pray on the street corners (which describes most of todays so-called Christians). I call them CHINOS (Christians in name only). I would also suggest that any church that is so large that the pastor does not know each and every member is too large. Like Parsleys World Harvest Church (he is simply "harvesting" money from the members and using it for his own personal pleasure (like a private jet for him and his wife).
Big Boy 2

Akron, OH

#1929 Apr 9, 2014
It's called being a sociopath. No true remorse. Anything they do is OK as long as it benefits them. Very charming and can talk a leopard out of it's spots. Beware. There are many, many of them around. Sad but true that it's not wise to put blind trust and faith in someone. It wouldn't be a surprise if he has talked some of the members into sexual affairs with him. Happens all of the time. I would urge those victim to come forward also. Anonymously if necessary. Be a warning lesson to other victims or possible victims of other sociopaths. If there is any suspicion, investigate. No one is above reproach. It is unusual that a sociopath is prosecuted and jailed for their reprehensible actions. They can usually talk their way out of trouble. In fact they count on it.
Truth

Columbus, OH

#1930 Apr 9, 2014
Time line

October -- Kim kicks Bennett out

November-- Bennett moves in with Jennifer Young

November -- Bennett claims on Face book he spent Thanksgiving alone and gets sympathy from moron supporters, even those he has hurt in the past (goes to show his sociopath behavior and ability) Yet he spent it with Jennifer Young's family

December--Bennett spends Christmas with Jennifer Young

January-- Bennett posts top things about him and humiliates his wife and children

February-- Bennett still claims he is just the nanny and not having an affair

March--- He begs Kim back and threatens her with divorce

April --- Kim and Bennett get a divorce (good job Kim)

April (one week later) Bennett and Jennifer young get married! Day prior, Bennett still claims he is NOT having an affair.

April --- Bennett --YOU LOSE
prove it

Akron, OH

#1931 Apr 9, 2014
Truth wrote:
Time line
October -- Kim kicks Bennett out
November-- Bennett moves in with Jennifer Young
November -- Bennett claims on Face book he spent Thanksgiving alone and gets sympathy from moron supporters, even those he has hurt in the past (goes to show his sociopath behavior and ability) Yet he spent it with Jennifer Young's family
December--Bennett spends Christmas with Jennifer Young
January-- Bennett posts top things about him and humiliates his wife and children
February-- Bennett still claims he is just the nanny and not having an affair
March--- He begs Kim back and threatens her with divorce
April --- Kim and Bennett get a divorce (good job Kim)
April (one week later) Bennett and Jennifer young get married! Day prior, Bennett still claims he is NOT having an affair.
April --- Bennett --YOU LOSE
Prove it!
No need

Portsmouth, OH

#1932 Apr 9, 2014
prove it wrote:
<quoted text>
Prove it!
No need to prove it. Our Lord and Savior sees all. I pray for the sake of both your soul, and Jennifer's, that you both repent soon. Those who wait till the 11th hour....
2-sides

Akron, OH

#1933 Apr 9, 2014
Truth wrote:
Time line
October -- Kim kicks Bennett out
November-- Bennett moves in with Jennifer Young
November -- Bennett claims on Face book he spent Thanksgiving alone and gets sympathy from moron supporters, even those he has hurt in the past (goes to show his sociopath behavior and ability) Yet he spent it with Jennifer Young's family
December--Bennett spends Christmas with Jennifer Young
January-- Bennett posts top things about him and humiliates his wife and children
February-- Bennett still claims he is just the nanny and not having an affair
March--- He begs Kim back and threatens her with divorce
April --- Kim and Bennett get a divorce (good job Kim)
April (one week later) Bennett and Jennifer young get married! Day prior, Bennett still claims he is NOT having an affair.
April --- Bennett --YOU LOSE
You people are so mean. You needs to spends some quality time with Bennett and let him explains his two sides of the story. It is quite remarkable.
The Nanny

Columbus, OH

#1934 Apr 9, 2014
anonymous

Akron, OH

#1935 Apr 9, 2014
The Nanny wrote:
http://everydayheterosexism.bl ogspot.com/2013/07/the-nanny-a nd-naked-man-on-horse.html
What?

Since: Nov 13

Columbus, OH

#1936 Apr 9, 2014
Bennett will never get TCAP back! It is bigger and better than ever! He ran The Bennett Smith Show into the ground ! He is a loser with a capital "L" and everyone knows it! Selling used cars is a perfect job for him because all they do is speak and sell bullsh-t. He is fantastic at that! Who cares if he and Jennifer are married. He will scam her just like he did Kim and his own kids!
2-sides

Akron, OH

#1937 Apr 9, 2014
Kidsrn wrote:
Bennett will never get TCAP back! It is bigger and better than ever! He ran The Bennett Smith Show into the ground ! He is a loser with a capital "L" and everyone knows it! Selling used cars is a perfect job for him because all they do is speak and sell bullsh-t. He is fantastic at that! Who cares if he and Jennifer are married. He will scam her just like he did Kim and his own kids!
Please get Bennett's 2 sides of this story and report back. You will see it is a giant misunderstanding. Free the pastor now. Satan is trying to take us out and bennett is the only one who can save us, just ask him for a detailed explanation. Clear your calendar for 8 hours and take your meds if you easily get car sick. Because he will take you down the rabbit hole that leads to Alice in Wonderland and you will meet us with the crew from the wizard of oz for bible study and when you get back you will understand how jeun and bennett are the victims in mess. Prepare your apologies.
ExcuseMe

Columbus, OH

#1939 Apr 10, 2014
I agreed with Kidsrn is right about TCAP is getting much better than before. Someone told me - PROOF!
Mike Tyson

United States

#1940 Apr 10, 2014
Just curious. How can someone have two sides to a story???

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