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There are 20 comments on the 10TV WBNS story from May 11, 2010, titled Many Foster Children 'Age Out' Of Program Before Adoption | WBNS-10.... In it, 10TV WBNS reports that:

Foster children face a problem as they get older, because they risk "aging out" of the program.

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distressed

Pulaski, TN

#1 May 11, 2010
I have two beautiful grandchildren in foster care now,I can offer than more love than they would ever need or want be because i dont have alot of money i cannt get them, i moved to a better envirorment, living with family, i cannt have them because they think i dont make enough money since im with someone else on the contrary it makes things better, Franklin county has to many kids in there dont need to be in there, and others that does....
Marlis E Johnson

Columbus, OH

#2 May 11, 2010
I think it would be wise to assign mentors to each foster child in the system as a way to integrate them into adult life.
Faithful

Athens, GA

#3 May 11, 2010
This is for: Distressed...don't give up and keep on trying until it happens. GOD has a plan for all of us and the children too. Eventually they will see that you are more concerned with the children than the money they may think you're after. I will keep you and the children in my prayers and when they come home to you...hit me back!
CPS

Houston, TX

#4 May 11, 2010
CPS is a very imperfect system. As a foster parent I know this first hand. Kids that should be left where they are get taken away, kids that need taken away are overlooked. Foster parents willing to adopt, aren't always granted permission, and it's all about the money. It never has made sense to me that they are willing to pay perfect strangers (foster parents) to care for these kids, but yet in many cases the birth families could benefit from those payments & actually be able to provide a better environment for their children. I would be in support of that if the parents agreed to training classes that I take as a foster parent & possily give these families mentors to help improve their situation. I've met many foster parents that provide worse conditions than the birth family. The caseworkers are a JOKE! Most of them don't even have kids of their own. Believe me they do not have these kids best interest in mind. They pass them from home to home, the kids become angry, sad, numb, and pumped full of drugs to keep them like zombies. They have labels for them, ADHD, ADD, RAD, Bipolar 1&2, MRDD, FAS, & the list goes on & on. You know they have payment levels for the kids. The higher the level, the more money for the foster parents! Soon they forget they are kids that need a forever family, they are just a bunch of letters with a case#. I've adopted some of these letters & case#'s & I am proud of the "children" they are. My opinion is that CPS is completely to blame for the "unadoptables". CPS bullies families they know can't fight back. At the end of the day God will judge them. My prayers are with every child that enters our foster care system.
Guido

Columbus, OH

#5 May 12, 2010
These are no ones children. They are not the blond haired blue eyed kids you see on tv. They are from disfunctional homes. They have many problems of their own and lots of baggage. No one wants the hassle. It's sad but true and much of it stems from irresponsible parents in a welfare cycle. These kids need hope and a society to invest in them. Don't expect a government agency to solve anything. It takes a will to get of welfare, get work and raise a family. Until this is solved the problem and these kids are going to continue to come. The great society...what a joke.
Columbus girl

Columbus, OH

#6 May 12, 2010
Guido wrote:
These are no ones children. They are not the blond haired blue eyed kids you see on tv. They are from disfunctional homes. They have many problems of their own and lots of baggage. No one wants the hassle. It's sad but true and much of it stems from irresponsible parents in a welfare cycle. These kids need hope and a society to invest in them. Don't expect a government agency to solve anything. It takes a will to get of welfare, get work and raise a family. Until this is solved the problem and these kids are going to continue to come. The great society...what a joke.
I hate to tell you this buddy, but not all foster children came from a family that was once on welfare. People like you are so judgmental and it kills me, because you have no idea what you are talking about half the time. There are plenty of foster children that came from "well off" families, where the dad is violent or the moms an addict or an alcoholic, or something like that. You never know what the situation may be, so don't stereotype.
just me

Columbus, OH

#7 May 12, 2010
Yes FCCS does have problems, I have been involved with them for decades as an independent guardian. I for one think this program is wonderful and i'am so thankful that there is a system that helps the kids that age out become successful adults.
Wonderful, congratulations FCCS this is one you got right.
graylorn

Columbus, OH

#8 May 12, 2010
So I'm confused. Once a kid turns 18 they are thrown out of the foster family they are living with? Why can't they just stay there without state support if the kid and the foster family are in agreement? I'd think if you fostered a child for a while they would become like your own children and you would have an emotional interest in continuing to raise them.

Also, you teach our own kids how to become adults - this article implies that isn't happening in the foster homes. Why is that? Why aren't the foster parents teaching the kids how prepare for adulthood?
graylorn

Columbus, OH

#9 May 12, 2010
I have a friend in another state who has a foster daughter. They sent that girl to college and even though she is a foster child, she is part of the family, they treat her no differently in terms of support that they give their birth children.

My understanding is that the foster payments are pretty modest, just to help out, no one can get rich off them, so you must have some other motivations for fostering than money. Why aren't the Columbus foster children being raised by foster families to become responsible adults?
Opinionated Ma

Columbus, OH

#10 May 12, 2010
CPS wrote:
CPS is a very imperfect system. As a foster parent I know this first hand. Kids that should be left where they are get taken away, kids that need taken away are overlooked. Foster parents willing to adopt, aren't always granted permission, and it's all about the money. It never has made sense to me that they are willing to pay perfect strangers (foster parents) to care for these kids, but yet in many cases the birth families could benefit from those payments & actually be able to provide a better environment for their children. I would be in support of that if the parents agreed to training classes that I take as a foster parent & possily give these families mentors to help improve their situation. I've met many foster parents that provide worse conditions than the birth family. The caseworkers are a JOKE! Most of them don't even have kids of their own. Believe me they do not have these kids best interest in mind. They pass them from home to home, the kids become angry, sad, numb, and pumped full of drugs to keep them like zombies. They have labels for them, ADHD, ADD, RAD, Bipolar 1&2, MRDD, FAS, & the list goes on & on. You know they have payment levels for the kids. The higher the level, the more money for the foster parents! Soon they forget they are kids that need a forever family, they are just a bunch of letters with a case#. I've adopted some of these letters & case#'s & I am proud of the "children" they are. My opinion is that CPS is completely to blame for the "unadoptables". CPS bullies families they know can't fight back. At the end of the day God will judge them. My prayers are with every child that enters our foster care system.
Thanks for speaking the truth. So many of our legal systems could use a jolt back to reality. Fix systems and fix families!
If they have a extended family member who could take the child offer them some assistance and bill the darn parent who caused it!

Protect kids.
Just my 2 Cents

Dublin, OH

#11 May 12, 2010
CPS wrote:
CPS is a very imperfect system. As a foster parent I know this first hand. Kids that should be left where they are get taken away, kids that need taken away are overlooked. Foster parents willing to adopt, aren't always granted permission, and it's all about the money. It never has made sense to me that they are willing to pay perfect strangers (foster parents) to care for these kids, but yet in many cases the birth families could benefit from those payments & actually be able to provide a better environment for their children. I would be in support of that if the parents agreed to training classes that I take as a foster parent & possily give these families mentors to help improve their situation. I've met many foster parents that provide worse conditions than the birth family. The caseworkers are a JOKE! Most of them don't even have kids of their own. Believe me they do not have these kids best interest in mind. They pass them from home to home, the kids become angry, sad, numb, and pumped full of drugs to keep them like zombies. They have labels for them, ADHD, ADD, RAD, Bipolar 1&2, MRDD, FAS, & the list goes on & on. You know they have payment levels for the kids. The higher the level, the more money for the foster parents! Soon they forget they are kids that need a forever family, they are just a bunch of letters with a case#. I've adopted some of these letters & case#'s & I am proud of the "children" they are. My opinion is that CPS is completely to blame for the "unadoptables". CPS bullies families they know can't fight back. At the end of the day God will judge them. My prayers are with every child that enters our foster care system.
I coming from the CPS system must concur with the above statements. This is a over looked system and most of the case workers are in for the paycheck. We should be concerned as citizens because this is part of 'our' future.
CPS

Houston, TX

#12 May 12, 2010
graylorn wrote:
So I'm confused. Once a kid turns 18 they are thrown out of the foster family they are living with? Why can't they just stay there without state support if the kid and the foster family are in agreement? I'd think if you fostered a child for a while they would become like your own children and you would have an emotional interest in continuing to raise them.
Also, you teach our own kids how to become adults - this article implies that isn't happening in the foster homes. Why is that? Why aren't the foster parents teaching the kids how prepare for adulthood?
There are those foster parents that do teach their foster children the skills to live as independent adults, but they are few are far between, & yes these kids could continue to live & receive the support they deserve from these families, but that usually doesn't happen. Foster parents need them to get out & make that bed available for the next foster kid (their is a limit you can take at one time). Although payments might be minimal they do add up when adding up several foster kids in one home, especially if they use a private agency. Generally the public agency minimum is $15 a day per child and goes up from there. A private agency minimum is about $30/day per kid and goes up from there. Many kids are labeled & on meds, so they easily up their rates. If a foster parent keeps a minimum of 5 foster kids at the minimum rate per day, that's $4500 a month (with private agency/half with public)! If they max out their home with 10 kids, that of course doubles. Don't forget the counties provide clothing vouchers (which, in all fairness do not amount to much), but does help. Many of the foster families only provide the bare neccessities for these kids. Many families clearly treat their birth children better than their foster children, and state that these kids have to learn to accept it as a part of their life and their circumstances. Not to mention, foster families earn respite days so they can take a break from the kids & yet still get paid for those days. Absolutely no birth parent earns respite, let alone gets paid to send the kids to the sitter.
Right Wing Lunatic

New Hyde Park, NY

#13 May 12, 2010
It's so wrong how the foster care system treats those kids like throw-aways once they turn 18.
glib

Richwood, OH

#14 May 12, 2010
I think that the foster system is breaking down. There are some great families out there but unfortunately they are few and far between. I think it is time to bring back orphanages. At least there are three shifts of caregivers and some oversight and accountability. There could be trained counselors assigned to living areas and well trained caring staff. There would be comprehensive, yearly background checks and a system of checks and balances. Parents could be supervised for visits and have trained personnel monitoring them.
My Thought

Houston, TX

#15 May 12, 2010
CPS workers are worthless and should be ashamed of the decisions they make. If they really cared about these kids, they would do more to ensure they don't "age out". CPS workers are too busy playing the victim that "can't work miracles", rather than doing all they can to help the real victims. FYI- anyone can be a guardian, check with your local family court. You take some required classes,etc. and then you are qualified to help oversee these foster kids and the decisions the "professionals" are making. I would encourage more people to apply to be a guardian at litem. You will be able to attend the court hearings and give your two cents when it really counts. Keep in mind these are kids that have been through a lot, not just another file number.
Rogio

Marysville, OH

#16 May 12, 2010
This is a sad story and what makes it more sad is that everyday a celebrity or the filthy rich chooses to adopt a child from a foriegn country. We have plenty of American children right here at home that need to be adopted. I think it comes down to a fashion statement or attention getter: Look what I did I have a foreign child I adopted, aren't I something. Meanwhile our children at home long for a family life they can't have.

Since: Feb 10

Witness Protection Program

#17 May 12, 2010
More than 70 percent of the children in the emancipation program go on to college. I think this is a great attribute to this program.
zeebo

Lexington, KY

#18 May 12, 2010
CPS wrote:
They have labels for them, ADHD, ADD, RAD, Bipolar 1&2, MRDD, FAS, & the list goes on & on. You know they have payment levels for the kids. The higher the level, the more money for the foster parents!.
This is really sad, a few years ago I wanted to adopt and checked out the kids on the website for the age group I wanted which was 8-12 years old. 99% of them had some medical condition. I don't have extra $$ to raise a sick child so I stopped looking.
I didn't realize that foster parents got a bonus if the child had issues.
prairie fire

Columbus, OH

#19 May 12, 2010
just because a child and I say that nicely... ages out.a ghetto term ofcourse..I hear the welfare workers use it..its derogortory... what of some who are on hausing programs and have eighteens year olds THAT do NOT run the streets trynig to gang in or get pregnant? the projects workers all dont care that once a child turns eighteen they are old enuff to be on theior own... WRONG! theres tons of young kids out here that are still CLEAN... YOU street ppl shud know what that means.. yet the welfare workers and hausing projects say they have to move out..WHY? what if the students are soo good that they are finishing high school and have to hide in different districts to get by on? thats welfare fruads. and I think turning them out at eighteen is reprehensible.!
just me

Columbus, OH

#20 May 12, 2010
zeebo wrote:
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This is really sad, a few years ago I wanted to adopt and checked out the kids on the website for the age group I wanted which was 8-12 years old. 99% of them had some medical condition. I don't have extra $$ to raise a sick child so I stopped looking.
I didn't realize that foster parents got a bonus if the child had issues.
No one informed you that FCCS will help with medical issues even if you adopt. Some cases they will even help financially so the kids can have a home. Don't be impressed that they give you more $ for problem kids. The minute you get a license the whole system treats you like you are a no good gold digger and they are never there when you need them, your case workers treat you like dirt, and as though you are bothering them when you contact them. Most foster parents quit after a year of putting up with the system and the terrible way they treat Foster Parents. That is what I did.

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