I have tons of stories I could tell. What more do you want to know? And my best advice to you is make it very clear from the get go that you are on a path at school and work and there is no negotiating in that path. Now this will more than likely lead to some tension, they will make condescending comments like "well as long as you are doing it to glorify God" or "as long as you are doing it to help your relationship with God."@ Former Member,
I never heard of stories like that, not only getting kicked out of home group, but having your 'dirty laundry' presented to everyone in the open. I'm sorry that your house church humiliated you like that.
Now that you mention it, they do have a tendency to persuade people to stay instate to work with the church. Not any church, but Xenos in particular. I'm a materials engineering major currently at OSU, and they tried to convince me to cut down my coursework so I can donate more time to the church. The fact that this happened during a point in time in my life where I was wondering what I was doing with my life didn't really help. I'm still not sure if Xenos is a cult, per se, but your story is starting to confirm some gut feelings I've had recently about things under the cover that need addressing.
Are there any other stories about Xenos that I should consider? I've heard stories about things going on in ministry houses that can be quite cultic in nature, but I don't know if they're true or not.
One story that could help you is this...
When I first began attending the church regularly I informed our group leader that as an aspiring musician it was my dream to go to the Berklee College of Music. When I told them it was in Boston they immediately flipped a switch saying "it sounds to me like you want to do that because its what you want to do; not what god wants you to do." Then I made the point that I truly felt that I have a talent for music that came from God. I raised the question that "if I were to ignore this God given talent wouldn't I be doing God a disservice?" And they responded, "it would be a bigger disservice to walk away from God." As if God can only be in one place; Xenos. My best advice for you is to be careful and not emotionally tie yourself to this group. It led to a very dark and confusing time for me in my life.