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What's with the explanation point? Is that equivalent to murder and I don't understand that?
The point is, is the story even true? How do we know the widow found boxes of cash after her husband's death and who or why she told about it? And was it tens of thousands? Hundreds of thousands? Or $2,500.00?
Also, they were married 35 years, not 35 months. Now something she did during those 35 years helped him acquire that wealth. Wasn't it 'theirs?'
It's almost impossible that his first marriage was that long. Who knows if the deceased even saw the children from his first marriage? They may have hated him.
Who knows if she had children before she married him that lived with him for 35 years and 'became' his children?
Did they have children together?
Unless you are a multi-millionaire, why should children inherit when the father dies if it leaves his wife of 35 years without financial support?
If you really want to ruin a child, tell them they have an inheritance in their future. Kill their need to do anything on their own. Let them reach 50 years old and looking at their watch waiting for you to die so they can begin to 'live.'
What it boils down to, for me, is who took care of and was most attentive to the deceased other than their spouse?
We came into this world with nothing and we will all take nothing with us. You want to leave something behind, teach morals, values and self-reliance. Tell them stories about your youth, family, your parents and grandparents.
Live it up and spend your money on yourself. In most cases, money not earned is spent frivously anyway.....might as well do it yourself. Leave your money to a charity.
The exception, for me, would be land. I believe land/real property, which might be a house, if it meant something to the deceased, should be cared for and tended to by their decendents. If the decendents have other plans for it, and it's known, The owner is better off preserving it into whatever easement they like and leaving it to whoever will follow their wishes. And an airtight preservation will do that.
Money is not evil. The love of money is.
1. Schottenstein is an unfamiliar name to you ... but you should be readily acquainted with Big Lots, Value City, American Signature Furniture, Safe Auto Insurance, DSW Shoe Warehouse and American Eagle Outfitters ... those are (except Big Lots) all Schottenstein companies and it all started with their broken down liquidation store on Parsons Ave. Wise American is correct, I remember going down there as a kid and it was common to see a couple of the Schottensteins yelling at each other on the sales floor. The stories told here do seem to ring true.
2. Inheritance is a touchy issue. Many people make it on their own, but the real wealth is cultivated over generations. Schottenstein being one example, several local car dealership groups over 60 and even 100 years in the business. Farm families operate the same way as do construction and real estate companies.
Not saying pulling yourself up by the bootstraps is a bad thing, and you can become prosperous that way, but it's largely a myth. The easier way is to make big money is to grow what's already there. A successful family business is a great vehicle as a starting point ... hard to do as a wage slave.