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Mar 7, 2013
 
Can anyone tell me how to cope with death? I lost both my parents, one a few weeks ago unexpectedly and the other one last year?:( any helpful support would be appreciated.:(

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Can anyone tell me how to cope with death? I lost both my parents, one a few weeks ago unexpectedly and the other one last year?:( any helpful support would be appreciated.:(
How old are you? Doesn't really matter, Losing one, let alone both parents in that short time is devastating. And an unexpected death is very difficult to absorb. Very.

I wish I could tell you it gets better. And it does, but you never get over it. I don't think we're supposed to deep down.

Just don't expect too much of yourself. Grieve all you want. If you want to talk about them, do it. Do you have siblings? I know it sounds crazy, but talk to strangers. You'll be able to sense which ones will be understanding.

If you have to dispose of their things and property, take your time. I took 18 months before I moved a thing in my mom's house.

Understand nothing material can love you back, but there are still things you'll want to hold onto because it makes you feel better.

Understand that you will see them again if you have a grain of faith. That's all it takes. My mother told me (and she knew) that when a person dies and assends to heaven, their body goes back to the physical prime of their life. So they are not suffering anymore. The are completely at peace, and would not come back, even if they could. They have endless energy and time to do what they love. Their family was there to greet them. All of their pain of every kind is over.

Be generous to yourself and conduct your life in a way that would make them proud. Do not have regrets. If our parents lived to be 200 and we spent every minute with them, there would still be things left unsaid and undone. Good luck.

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