Trust me, the "pressure" was for her to date an Asian, preferably Chinese, guy, not to go out and find a white guy. Her family was less than fully on board with the "white guy" son in law, at first.<quoted text>
Its not a gun, but there is social pressure for Asian women to date white guys, and for white women to not date Asian guys.
My friend married a Korean guy. She tells me that white guys always say to her " Why an Asian guy?" as if she did something wrong.
Its an attitude that has to change.
I wonder if she would have dated you without that social pressure. Doesn't seem like love to me...
She chose me, despite her parents protestations (might be the only time in her life she has ever stood up to her father) because we are just super compatible- she'd never found that in any of the other guys she'd dated.
The problem, if it exists, is in Asian cultures where they tend to let other people do their thinking for them. They do things based on what their parents or society thinks they should do, not based on what they think they should do.
Here's the deal. You are in the USA now. You are an adult. In this country, you are free to make your own choices. Don't choose your date based on who your parents think is "best for you"- that will only lead to a lifetime of misery.