Sex On A First Date

Apr 25, 2012 | Posted by: roboblogger | Full story: 3D Gamers

It's a question on many men's minds as they sit in a candlelit restaurant on a first date: Will I get laid tonight? Or will she make me wait? Of course, plenty of men are thinking about more important issues, like whether their date might be good wife material, but suffice it to say, men like sex, so wondering about the probability of a ... (more)

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Apr 25, 2012
 
In my experience (I'm a gay male), sex on a first date was expected. On the very few occasions where there was no sex on a first date, it was also the last date.
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Apr 25, 2012
 
I have not had many first dates that weren't essentially hooking up. Those relationships that didn't start with sex usually involved some form of foreplay. Then again, I almost never dated women I hadn't already gotten to know first.

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Apr 25, 2012
 
Well, personally I think it's too dangerous nowadays to have sex what with hiv, HPV, and a myriad of ther diseases.
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Apr 25, 2012
 
Wrap it or fap it, I always say.

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Apr 25, 2012
 
well, with the crowds I hung out with over the years, there was an informal understanding that sex was expected by both parties on a first date UNLESS EXPLICITLY AGREED TO OTHERWISE.

And in my experiences, it was pretty rare if there was no sex on a first date.

And btw, not everybody is good at sex !

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(I'm wonderful at it !:))
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Apr 25, 2012
 
For me, I would try to get to know a girl before I wanted to date her. Then on a first date we'd coyly talk about sex, so I usually no what I was in for. But yes, not everyone is great at sex. Had a gf that could get off fast and many times, but couldn't really do the same for me. Shame.

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Apr 26, 2012
 
Fuckles wrote:
For me, I would try to get to know a girl before I wanted to date her. Then on a first date we'd coyly talk about sex, so I usually no what I was in for. But yes, not everyone is great at sex. Had a gf that could get off fast and many times, but couldn't really do the same for me. Shame.
One of the most disappointing guys in bed I ever went out with (a few times) was also one of the BEST LOOKING guys I ever went out with.:(
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Apr 26, 2012
 
Yeah, I have had a similar problem before. I think people who look that good get it so easily that it can kinda turn them into lazy lovers.
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Apr 26, 2012
 
Fuckles wrote:
Yeah, I have had a similar problem before. I think people who look that good get it so easily that it can kinda turn them into lazy lovers.
Oh, I've been out with some incredibly great-looking people, and he was certainly the exception to the rule.

The vast majority of people I had sex with were good in bed, and a few were INCREDIBLY GREAT in bed. The bad expereinces were the exception.
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Apr 26, 2012
 
Lucky you.
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Apr 27, 2012
 
hi i love sex

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Apr 27, 2012
 
"Sex on the first date" and sex before marriage in general is completely wrong for a number of reasons.(I'm an atheist so yea...)

The first is that waiting for marriage shows to your partner how committed you are to them in that you've waited your whole life for her/him and only her/him. It shows that you're more interested in them as a person rather than just your own sexual pleasure.

Then its something special to share with your spouse that the two of you have only shared with each other. It brings added value to the act of sex by the two of you learning on your journey of sexual intimacy together. Assuming that both of you love one another then this adds another dimension to your marriage.

The third has to do with chemical and psychological bonding as a result of sexual intercourse. When you have sex with someone whom you are attracted to (more than just lust) a bond develops to because what naturally comes after sex is pregnancy which leads to birth. So if a bond did not develop then what would keep the father there to defend the pregnant mother then later the mother and child later on? For those who have had sex this is why perhaps breakups are hard and take a long time to get over.

Now naturally also you will probably remember your first sexual encounter with great clarity and she/he plus future partners will always be a part of you. So wouldn't you rather wait to have sex with the woman or man who you love and are married to so that as you look back in the future they're the only one? This would place her/his in a special place in your heart and likewise you'll have a special place in her/his heart as well.

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Apr 27, 2012
 
Edward_Dziedzic wrote:
"Sex on the first date" and sex before marriage in general is completely wrong for a number of reasons.(I'm an atheist so yea...)
The first is that waiting for marriage shows to your partner how committed you are to them in that you've waited your whole life for her/him and only her/him. It shows that you're more interested in them as a person rather than just your own sexual pleasure.
Then its something special to share with your spouse that the two of you have only shared with each other. It brings added value to the act of sex by the two of you learning on your journey of sexual intimacy together. Assuming that both of you love one another then this adds another dimension to your marriage.
The third has to do with chemical and psychological bonding as a result of sexual intercourse. When you have sex with someone whom you are attracted to (more than just lust) a bond develops to because what naturally comes after sex is pregnancy which leads to birth. So if a bond did not develop then what would keep the father there to defend the pregnant mother then later the mother and child later on? For those who have had sex this is why perhaps breakups are hard and take a long time to get over.
Now naturally also you will probably remember your first sexual encounter with great clarity and she/he plus future partners will always be a part of you. So wouldn't you rather wait to have sex with the woman or man who you love and are married to so that as you look back in the future they're the only one? This would place her/his in a special place in your heart and likewise you'll have a special place in her/his heart as well.
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Suppose you're in love with someone, have been togerth for years,have been faithful, but it's not legal to marry where you live ?(And you're not strong enough to swim across the Hudson River)

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Apr 27, 2012
 
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Suppose you're in love with someone, have been togerth for years,have been faithful, but it's not legal to marry where you live ?(And you're not strong enough to swim across the Hudson River)
Then I would say that as long as you're committed to each other than it's fine.

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Edward_Dziedzic wrote:
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Then I would say that as long as you're committed to each other than it's fine.
So sex before marriage IS ok according to you then !

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So sex before marriage IS ok according to you then !
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In your case yes as you can't really get married.

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Apr 27, 2012
 
Edward_Dziedzic wrote:
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In your case yes as you can't really get married.
But you said that sex outside of marriage is "completely wrong".

Are you know saying that you were wrong in saying that ?

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FaFoxy wrote:
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But you said that sex outside of marriage is "completely wrong".
Are you know saying that you were wrong in saying that ?
For M/F yes it is wrong because they have the option of getting married. Same sex partnerships don't have the same opportunities so it would apply more loosely seeing that if you can't get married then not having sex ever wouldn't be that great.

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