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South Korean teenager visting family in NJ drowns

There are 15 comments on the Daily Record story from Jul 16, 2008, titled South Korean teenager visting family in NJ drowns. In it, Daily Record reports that:

RIDGEWOOD -- Police say a 14-year-old boy has drowned in a Ridgewood municipal pool.

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Ridgewoodmom27

Newark, NJ

#1 Jul 16, 2008
Okay - so now what? I know that the pain, hurt and questions are still so close, but what can we as a community do for this family? Can we start a collection - not that money will help their loss - but perhaps since they are from South Korea they do not have medical insurance that will cover Valley's bill. Perhaps they need psychological intervention right now - is anyone qualified who can offer themselves? What about their other children - is anyone qualified as a child psychologist? Are there any Korean speaking Ridgewood residents who can help with translation?

How can we help the lifeguards to feel safe and supported. Many of them, young adults who had to work today and were still crying an unable to function. Are they getting counseling? How can we as a community help?

Can we:

-write a letter of support to them and drop it off at Graydon.
-start a donation box.
-decide to become a volunteer to make the human chain in the future. From what I witnessed yesterday, they could have used many more people to help ease the burden of the large areas.

How can we support our community and turn this tragedy into a force of love and peace?

My children decided today they wanted to support the life guards and so we dropped something off. As a mature adult, shame on me for not thinking of it first - yet god bless the innocence and love in our children's hearts. I'd like to do more and I am soliciting help from our community.

Any other ideas?
Ridgewoodkid

Brooklyn, NY

#2 Jul 16, 2008
What was the kids name? I can think of multiple 14-year-old koreans that i know. If this boy could have relations to any of them, i wna to to know.
Ridgewoodresiden t10

Central Islip, NY

#3 Jul 17, 2008
To Ridgewoodmom27-
I witnessed this devastating event and my heart truly does go out to the family. As well as the lifeguards and emergency personal who did everything they could to save this young boys life. They are all in my thoughts and prayers.
I believe this is not the time to point fingers at anyone but come together as a community and I believe you have come up with some wonderful ideas to help the family and others who have been affected by this tragedy. I would love to develop some sort of donation box or collection for the family, they need as much love and support from our community as we can pass around. I am just not sure where to begin, any ideas?
Ridgewoodmom27

AOL

#4 Jul 17, 2008
To: Ridgewoodresident10:
Thanks for responding. I am a new resident and am so unsure of where to start. Perhaps there are local businesses or places of worship, who have the exposure and can offer some advice? I know that there can be ridiculous laws against this sort of thing, so I'd like to get it done right.

Any Ridgewood local business people out there or church staff who can aid in our discussion? I can make and print flyers, once we have a direction and a green light.
anonymous

Newark, NJ

#5 Jul 17, 2008
How about a candlelight vigil?
Longtimeresident

Plainfield, NJ

#6 Jul 19, 2008
This was a terrible tragedy.

But there's no way the excellent lifeguards at Graydon can check every teenager's wrist band or discern which swimmers are qualified to swim under the ropes from the shallow to the deep side of the pool. Kids do that all the time.

Let's give the lifeguards our support as they return to their job of watching carefully over Graydon swimmers. The drowning wasn't their fault.

As for preventing reoccurence of such dangers in the future, those overseeing entrance to the pool should check the wristbands and refuse admittance to non-swimmers unless they are unaccompanied by a responsible adult.

In this case, the victim's family was at the pool, but apparently its members were unaware of Graydon's depth configuration. To them, our deepest sympathies.
Longtimeresident

Plainfield, NJ

#7 Jul 19, 2008
correction to above: "unless they are accompanied by a responsible adult."
Redskin

Dallas, TX

#8 Jul 19, 2008
was probably thrown off the pier in concrete boots.
anonymous

Newark, NJ

#9 Jul 19, 2008
Friends were visiting from new york. One was remembering how the captain of the ethical culture fieldston swimteam got a cramp and went straight down in the deep end. He was an unbelievable swimmer. But he got a cramp in both legs and down he went.
Fortunately, he was saved because members of his team saw him go down -- and the water was clear.
This is not about the life guards. It's not their fault.
This is about a murky pond where children share the water with geese and their output. Major infectious diseases there. and now a terrible drowning.
The pool should have never opened again.
It is tremendously dangerous whether one can swim or not.
Wrist-bands? Deep-water tests? Enough already.
This poor family lost a child. And the life guards are traumatized.
It's simply a terrible situation.
Tammy

Uniontown, PA

#10 Jul 19, 2008
Sure that wasnt a in side job just like 9-11.A lot of so called accidents our do to drownings.
Ms Behave

AOL

#11 Jul 21, 2008
I personally refuse to visit Graydon Pool; just driving by it makes me wonder how any parent would let thier child swim in such filth. My child has been there with friends a couple times and told me how, "cool" it is to fall into a sink hole. Apparently the sand moves under the water in such a way that causes inconsistancies in the depth. A child gan go from sure footed wading to having water cover their heads in one step.
I wonder if they will release the child's cause of death. Perhaps he dove into a part that he percieved to be deep but had a shallow depth due to the sand collecting in that area.
Everyone always says, "Oh, it's safe...no one has ever drowned there!" Well, it only takes one. That one could have been any of our children.
Angelle

AOL

#12 Oct 9, 2008
Yes, i know what we can do. Everyone complains about the water, it's so dark and murky, that contributed to the boy drowning because no body could see him. Well, guess what...he was the third person to die in the pool in 30 years! 3 people too many when there are hundreds of people swimming and sitting and dozens of lifeguards on duty. If the water was the only excuse, it needs to be changed so there can't be another excuse or another death. If the town could raise enough money and new and cleaner pool could be made by next summer! I am willing to help with that so parents dont have to worry about it theyll see their child in the water or not. I wouldnt bring my kids there until its changed!
Dom Nizza

Newark, NJ

#13 Oct 9, 2008
Angelle wrote:
Yes, i know what we can do. Everyone complains about the water, it's so dark and murky, that contributed to the boy drowning because no body could see him. Well, guess what...he was the third person to die in the pool in 30 years! 3 people too many when there are hundreds of people swimming and sitting and dozens of lifeguards on duty. If the water was the only excuse, it needs to be changed so there can't be another excuse or another death. If the town could raise enough money and new and cleaner pool could be made by next summer! I am willing to help with that so parents dont have to worry about it theyll see their child in the water or not. I wouldnt bring my kids there until its changed!
We may have some design planning soon.. look for a report of a Graydon Modernization presentation made by this writer. Lots of photos design possibilities and a little of history on Graydon going back to 1978... there were a some surprised people there. The Ridgewood News hopefully, will have a story this Friday. The meeting was covered by a reporter.

2009 will be the year.... The Village Council must be the ones NOW to make a decision. Just give them a little encouragement. OK?
...
Jessup

Shelter Island, NY

#14 Oct 9, 2008
Meeting was a complete waste of time. No funding was identified nor is any available to do any work.

No concrete reasons were provided to support the changes Dom is suggesting.

With this obvious lack of funding and poor reasons why changes are needed this project is all but dead.
Enough Already

Shelter Island, NY

#15 Oct 9, 2008
Well said Jessup. Without funding of somed kind no work is possible. But more importantly no sound reason have been given as to why we need to spend money renovating Graydon.

Change just for the sake of change is foolish.

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