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#1 Apr 3, 2010

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#2 Apr 3, 2010
Love the Skin Youíre In
By Chandra ChaVi, Call & Post
February 24, 2010, 3:48PM
I was unaware that people still have color complexes. Iím shocked that I continue to encounter individuals who think that light-skinned black folks are more attractive and acceptable than darker-skinned black folks. But it just tells me that we really need to embrace who we are and love the skin weíre in as a whole.

Thereís a brotha that I know of a beautiful mocha brown shade who always makes comments about light skin being more acceptable. First of all I think heís too old to still have that type of perception about us. Secondly, I realized that he was insecure with himself and may even have had issues with his self-esteem. Perhaps he was ridiculed and picked on as a child and carried the negative connotations that were affiliated with his complexion into his adult years. I found that to be sad and disturbing. Itís sad because we tease and scorn one another being totally unaware of the depth of the effect that it may have on us in the future. And itís disturbing because of the simple fact we make fun of our beautiful brown skin.

Iíve heard the endless jokes growing up as a child. The darker your skin you were humorously said to be from Africa. Well, what the heck is funny about that? That should be celebrated! And just sitting here reflecting back on those days, I canít recall light-skinned brothas and sistas being picked on like the darker skinned ones were. The act continues to be recycled and we need to teach our kids that itís unacceptable to talk about one another in that way as well as make them aware of the short and possible long-term damage that it may cause. They still believe in good and bad hair, pretty eyes (the lighter the prettier), etc. In addition to that, Iíve also heard of brothas and sistas intentionally reproducing with people of another race so that their offspring will have ďgoodĒ hair and the like. So again, what message is that sending to us as a people? That we have to alter our bloodline in order to be attractive? Unbelievable!

Another thing that has come to my mind is the fact that we get upset when brothas and date outside of our race yet weíre not accepting those within our race! What will it take for us to embrace and celebrate those in the image of ourselves? Must we really await television and movies to tell us how attractive that we are? I donít recall brown skin being desirable until Taye Diggs, Morris Chestnut, and Idris Alba made appearances on screen. Yes, these brothas are truly gorgeous men, but why is it brothas of their complexion werenít given the time of day until Hollywood indicated that it was okay to do so? This is why I think so highly of Gabourey Sidibe (of ĎPreciousí). She embraced her beauty when no one else did and teaches her siblings to do the same.

Love the skin weíre in. There shouldnít be a moment that passes by when we donít acknowledge a beautiful physical attribute about a brotha or sista. Thereís nothing wrong with stroking egos and making someone feel good every so often. I do it on a regular. Stop making fun of people and try making them feel good about themselves!

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#3 Apr 3, 2010
www.conversation-peace.net/chavis-cipher.html Chandra ChaVi is not light skin.

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#4 Apr 4, 2010
light skin blacks are not more attractive than darker blacks
DowntownShaun

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#5 Apr 25, 2010
I'm a light-skinned brotha, and I'm from the "hood". I like to believe that I'm successful, and a lot of my friends believe my success came from me being light-skinned. I grew up poor just like everybody else that I know, and nothing has EVER came easy to me. I have worked hard for everything I have in life. They always say, you only got that job because of your skin, and if they applied for the same job, they would get turned down. My friends always assume that when we go out, all of the woman are going to be attracted to me. I don't know why people think like that. Its crazy!!! The women are the worst. I usually deal with darker-skinned sistas, and they think I'm conceited, I stay in the mirror all day, and I'm a player. They make it like, I think about being light-skinned all day lol. People need to grow up (or seek professional help). I think these people really have self-esteem issues and need to consIder sitting on a psyc's couch and get it together. Its 2010 get with it!!!!
Peace!!!

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#6 Apr 26, 2010
DowntownShaun wrote:
I'm a light-skinned brotha, and I'm from the "hood". I like to believe that I'm successful, and a lot of my friends believe my success came from me being light-skinned. I grew up poor just like everybody else that I know, and nothing has EVER came easy to me. I have worked hard for everything I have in life. They always say, you only got that job because of your skin, and if they applied for the same job, they would get turned down. My friends always assume that when we go out, all of the woman are going to be attracted to me. I don't know why people think like that. Its crazy!!! The women are the worst. I usually deal with darker-skinned sistas, and they think I'm conceited, I stay in the mirror all day, and I'm a player. They make it like, I think about being light-skinned all day lol. People need to grow up (or seek professional help). I think these people really have self-esteem issues and need to consIder sitting on a psyc's couch and get it together. Its 2010 get with it!!!!
Peace!!!
I agree.

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#7 May 4, 2010
diane77 wrote:
Love the Skin Youíre In
By Chandra ChaVi, Call & Post
February 24, 2010, 3:48PM
I was unaware that people still have color complexes. Iím shocked that I continue to encounter individuals who think that light-skinned black folks are more attractive and acceptable than darker-skinned black folks. But it just tells me that we really need to embrace who we are and love the skin weíre in as a whole.
Thereís a brotha that I know of a beautiful mocha brown shade who always makes comments about light skin being more acceptable. First of all I think heís too old to still have that type of perception about us. Secondly, I realized that he was insecure with himself and may even have had issues with his self-esteem. Perhaps he was ridiculed and picked on as a child and carried the negative connotations that were affiliated with his complexion into his adult years. I found that to be sad and disturbing. Itís sad because we tease and scorn one another being totally unaware of the depth of the effect that it may have on us in the future. And itís disturbing because of the simple fact we make fun of our beautiful brown skin.
Iíve heard the endless jokes growing up as a child. The darker your skin you were humorously said to be from Africa. Well, what the heck is funny about that? That should be celebrated! And just sitting here reflecting back on those days, I canít recall light-skinned brothas and sistas being picked on like the darker skinned ones were. The act continues to be recycled and we need to teach our kids that itís unacceptable to talk about one another in that way as well as make them aware of the short and possible long-term damage that it may cause. They still believe in good and bad hair, pretty eyes (the lighter the prettier), etc. In addition to that, Iíve also heard of brothas and sistas intentionally reproducing with people of another race so that their offspring will have ďgoodĒ hair and the like. So again, what message is that sending to us as a people? That we have to alter our bloodline in order to be attractive? Unbelievable!
Another thing that has come to my mind is the fact that we get upset when brothas and date outside of our race yet weíre not accepting those within our race! What will it take for us to embrace and celebrate those in the image of ourselves? Must we really await television and movies to tell us how attractive that we are? I donít recall brown skin being desirable until Taye Diggs, Morris Chestnut, and Idris Alba made appearances on screen. Yes, these brothas are truly gorgeous men, but why is it brothas of their complexion werenít given the time of day until Hollywood indicated that it was okay to do so? This is why I think so highly of Gabourey Sidibe (of ĎPreciousí). She embraced her beauty when no one else did and teaches her siblings to do the same.
Love the skin weíre in. There shouldnít be a moment that passes by when we donít acknowledge a beautiful physical attribute about a brotha or sista. Thereís nothing wrong with stroking egos and making someone feel good every so often. I do it on a regular. Stop making fun of people and try making them feel good about themselves!
interesting
Lupe

Sicklerville, NJ

#8 May 19, 2010
Most light skinned blacks are atractive but some of the are ugly the majority is atractive ,some dark skinned blacks are atractive but most is average or ugly in my opion which is the truth I am copper like a new penny complexion.

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#9 May 20, 2010
Lupe wrote:
Most light skinned blacks are atractive but some of the are ugly the majority is atractive ,some dark skinned blacks are atractive but most is average or ugly in my opion which is the truth I am copper like a new penny complexion.
beauty is in the eye of the beholder. some light skin blacks are fat or old or short males. you can't prove most light skin blacks are attractive.
not you

Cleveland, OH

#10 May 20, 2010
so true,beauty is in the eye of the beholder. every1 has their own personal preferance. to each his own. I am light skinned and I am more attracted to light skinned men. people have the right to choose who or what kind of people they date.

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#11 May 20, 2010
not you wrote:
so true,beauty is in the eye of the beholder. every1 has their own personal preferance. to each his own. I am light skinned and I am more attracted to light skinned men. people have the right to choose who or what kind of people they date.
true
Hollie

Houston, TX

#12 Jun 14, 2010
Light skinned blacks are a thousand times more attractive than darker skinned blacks. This is just my opinion, but light skin is much prettier, much more interesting, and much nicer to have than dark skin. By dark skin I mean black, oil like skin, not even brown, which is also pretty. I wouldn't go out with a dark skinned black man because they are scary to me. Bright skinned, bright eyed males are super handsome. Just my opinion.
Papa Harley

Munroe Falls, OH

#13 Jun 14, 2010
i prefer green skinned females!

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#14 Jun 14, 2010
Hollie wrote:
Light skinned blacks are a thousand times more attractive than darker skinned blacks. This is just my opinion, but light skin is much prettier, much more interesting, and much nicer to have than dark skin. By dark skin I mean black, oil like skin, not even brown, which is also pretty. I wouldn't go out with a dark skinned black man because they are scary to me. Bright skinned, bright eyed males are super handsome. Just my opinion.
wtf
Ginabear

Houston, TX

#15 Jun 15, 2010
diane77 wrote:
<quoted text>wtf
. Like I said, just my opinion.
Ginabear

Houston, TX

#16 Jun 15, 2010
Btw I'm Hollie i just changed my user name to Ginabear

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#17 Jun 16, 2010
Lupe wrote:
Most light skinned blacks are atractive but some of the are ugly the majority is atractive ,some dark skinned blacks are atractive but most is average or ugly in my opion which is the truth I am copper like a new penny complexion.

there are just as many ugly dark as there is light,its really apersonal choice but neither is better than the other in my opinion we are all black at the end of the day.ive seen a hell of alot of ugly lightskin people as well as dark

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#18 Jun 16, 2010
Hollie wrote:
Light skinned blacks are a thousand times more attractive than darker skinned blacks. This is just my opinion, but light skin is much prettier, much more interesting, and much nicer to have than dark skin. By dark skin I mean black, oil like skin, not even brown, which is also pretty. I wouldn't go out with a dark skinned black man because they are scary to me. Bright skinned, bright eyed males are super handsome. Just my opinion.
just curious,are u black?if u are it figures,lol
Ginabear

Houston, TX

#19 Jun 17, 2010
lululove wrote:
<quoted text>
just curious,are u black?if u are it figures,lol
Yeah I am, lol.

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#20 Jun 20, 2010
lululove wrote:
<quoted text>
just curious,are u black?if u are it figures,lol
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