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thatonegirl

Cushing, OK

#63 Jan 28, 2013
justleave wrote:
You are all crazy for staying with sorry low life cheaters,and you nope for staying with a man who did all that then begs you back like some lost little boy. He was a big man when he screwed that old hoe,my gosh! Just leave and tell him to pi-s off.
Plus, just bc he screwed up his marriage vows doesn't mean she didn't take hers seriously. If the day comes that she decides she just can't live with him anymore, then she can leave him. Leaving does not make the pain and anger go away. If she feels that she might one day be able to get past it, then that is her choice. It is also her choice to decide if she wants to give him another chance. Just bc society tells her to leave doesn't mean she wants to or is ready to. He changed her life and her kids lives in a second. She has the right to take all the time she needs to figure it out. If it takes her 10 years and she decides then that she wants to leave then that's her right and her choice alone. She also has kids to think about. Just bc he didn't think about them doesn't mean she doesn't. People do screw up and sometimes they screw up big. It's up to her and time whether she can handle that screw up so leave her alone
Cheryl

Broken Arrow, OK

#64 Jan 29, 2013
Clive Crotchmeyer wrote:
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A guy's just got to get something strange ever so often.
Let me give you some strange.. email me at cherylnstilwell yahoo.com Nice huge tits, love oral. ur pic gets mine.
nope

Fort Worth, TX

#65 Jan 29, 2013
thatonegirl wrote:
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Well I'll tell you this too. Those thoughts you have--- you know the ones Im talking about. The thoughts you have of the whore where you have to force yourself not to go anywhere near her or your kids won't have a mom, those thoughts that scare the hell out of you bc u never thought u were capable of them and pray that God will forgive you for having them bc you can't control them, those last for a lonnnggggg time. They will be the reason you will not be able to get rid of the anger for a long time. I don't know what to tell you except pray and control it. Only time makes it go away. Have you crosses paths with her since finding out?
You completelly understand. I have not run into her. I know all about her though and I have purposely stayed away. I have an 18 year old son that wants me to go and beat the crap out of her and then I have a 13 year old son that just wants it to go away,but tells me he hates his dad now. My 8 year old lil boy doesn't really understand,and thinks the sun rises and sets because of his daddy. I can't take that away from him. God has guided me here to this site for a reason and God will guide me through.
nope

Fort Worth, TX

#66 Jan 29, 2013
thatonegirl wrote:
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Plus, just bc he screwed up his marriage vows doesn't mean she didn't take hers seriously. If the day comes that she decides she just can't live with him anymore, then she can leave him. Leaving does not make the pain and anger go away. If she feels that she might one day be able to get past it, then that is her choice. It is also her choice to decide if she wants to give him another chance. Just bc society tells her to leave doesn't mean she wants to or is ready to. He changed her life and her kids lives in a second. She has the right to take all the time she needs to figure it out. If it takes her 10 years and she decides then that she wants to leave then that's her right and her choice alone. She also has kids to think about. Just bc he didn't think about them doesn't mean she doesn't. People do screw up and sometimes they screw up big. It's up to her and time whether she can handle that screw up so leave her alone
Thank you,I feel that some people have never been through it so telling someone to just leave is easy for them. It is a struggle each and every day to stay. I want to beat the odds,I want to be that exception to all others and forgive. I have made it clear I will only forgive this once. I know in my heart I don't have a second time. Also he has tried really hard this last year to show me that he loves me. It's just hard for me to trust in it anymore,and I really wish I would and could just let myself be in love with the new person he has become since realizing what a mistake he made. I just can't yet.
thatonegirl

United States

#67 Jan 29, 2013
nope wrote:
<quoted text>You completelly understand. I have not run into her. I know all about her though and I have purposely stayed away. I have an 18 year old son that wants me to go and beat the crap out of her and then I have a 13 year old son that just wants it to go away,but tells me he hates his dad now. My 8 year old lil boy doesn't really understand,and thinks the sun rises and sets because of his daddy. I can't take that away from him. God has guided me here to this site for a reason and God will guide me through.
Lol at your 18 year old. Years ago, I thought man, it would be so worth the bail. But I knew with the anger I felt, I would end up killing her instead of beating her and she wasn't worth my kids losing their mom. She is in law enforcement and tried to trap me into shit with that. I told her oh no don't you worry about nothing. I don't want you dead. If you're dead, karma can't get your ass and I want to watch you suffer. I have never been face to face with her, on purpose. I almost did.... Almost went there but stopped myself at the last minute. Now, almost 6 years later, I don't have those thoughts all the time, but if we ever crossed paths I'm not sure what would happen. I know what I want to do, but won't. I can for sure tell you that I would scare the piss out of her though and she would quickly figure out who I am. Eventually, when your hurt turns to anger, you start to not care. When your heart finally accepts that what's done is done and can't be changed, you'll start to let some of it go. And you'll basically be done with men all together lol I wish I had learned a long time ago to stop wanting to know what he's doing. Now I tell him I don't want to know. Whatever shit you're gonna do, do it at work and hide it well and don't let me find out. I don't want to know, do not bring your BS into my house, keep it away from me. PLEASE sneak behind my back so I'll never have to know about it. He says he's not, I tell him I don't want to hear it if he is. When I made that flip, life became much easier. Call it denial or whatever, but it's either be that way or be single forever bc you're never going to know if a man is telling the truth or not. This way you can't be disappointed about it. Expect it. And yes, cheating makes a person like this. He did it, he can deal with it.
thatonegirl

United States

#68 Jan 29, 2013
nope wrote:
<quoted text>Thank you,I feel that some people have never been through it so telling someone to just leave is easy for them. It is a struggle each and every day to stay. I want to beat the odds,I want to be that exception to all others and forgive. I have made it clear I will only forgive this once. I know in my heart I don't have a second time. Also he has tried really hard this last year to show me that he loves me. It's just hard for me to trust in it anymore,and I really wish I would and could just let myself be in love with the new person he has become since realizing what a mistake he made. I just can't yet.
Yes people think you can just stop loving someone in a second just bc they hurt you. If that were true, then it probably wasn't love in the first place if you could just pick up and leave. I hope these people never have to find out what it's like. I would wish it on my worst enemy though lol Karma
nope

Mckinney, TX

#69 Jan 30, 2013
LOl! I don't know what would happen if we crossed paths with each other either. I think I am beginning to accept that things can't be changed. That's so hard to do in the beginning. I have let it be known that I will not and can not ever forgive a second time though. I hope he never does it again and we can continue to improve our life together, but if we split I just don't think I can ever involve myself with another man. They really aren't trustworthy. I have a friend who's husband cheated on her. She divorced him and for the next 2 years all he did was pursue her till she started dating him and then married him again. She never dated anyone else during that time and he didn't either, said he realized he had the best woman to begin with and didn't want anyone else. It has been 12 yeaars since he cheated on her and he has never done it again. She is happy as can be again. Tells me all the time just put my trust in God that my husband won't hurt me again and start living. I am trying. Thanks so much for listening.

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