Man guilty of attacking wife Judge orders millionaire held

When you married, it was a commitment. You stayed with it. I was trying to keep my family together. A McHenry County millionaire was found guilty Wednesday of trying to kill his wife 21/2 years ago, in an attack that prosecutors say was fueled by jealousy and greed. via Chicago Tribune

[Susie Greentree]

Off with the old on with the new. How come Carolyn Cox keeps changing her story?
Couldn't the jury see her inconsistanties?
Doesn't anyone know the real B.J. Cox. A kind easy going, hard working loving man who has built numerous "palaces" for his family, Made a fortune from work and wise
investments. What about the new "boy"friend she found on the internet,
even befor the fatal day where she made all her aquazations. Only three days after she had been told what to say by her son and lawyer. God was there that day and he knows what happened even if Carolyn doesn't.

[Alice Montgomery]

my hat is off to B.J. Cox, hang in there guy. Justice will prevail, if Carolyn would only admit that she can't remember what happened. Why can't her lawyer see that the ememgency people and hospital attendants said she was incoherent. Not for 3 days could she remember anything until she was coached by her wonderful son who is trying to protect his mother.
What about honor your father and your mother. All evidence proves that there was no blood on the bed on hall on any place except where she fell and where she placed her hand on the pickup. This the worst miscarriage of justice I have ever seen.

[Sam Veers]

Kelly McGhee wrote:

Who are you trying to fool Carolyn Cox. You have changed your story numerous times. There were people that said this could not have happened from an attack and people that said it could. Blood splatter says it could not. Mr. Cox didn't savagely beat you, he didn't beat you at all. If he had really wanted you dead, you would be. Mr. Cox is innocent and if you had ever loved him in the 46 years you were married, you would not be so happy that he will die in prison. You are a cold-hearted phoney, Carolyn Cox. I will pray for B.J. Cox. Who will help you. Oh yes, your dear son.

ONE SURE CAN TELL YOU ARE NOT FROM MCHENRY COUNTY! This so called man got what he deserved & with luck he will ROT in JAIL & not get out soon because he is rich man. Why didn't he just be man enough to ask for a divorce & share their wealth with Carolyn which I am sure she helped him accumalate. No man gets to amass that much wealth alone if he is married.

[jeannie dunbury]

To Sam Veers: Seems you need glasses to see the evidence. If she was soooo abused why didn't she get a divorce. Instead she got a boy friend on the internet and is now seeing him in public. If Cox had wanted her dead he had many opportunities, he is not worthy of all she has put him through. How long do you think it will be with her mental illness, befor her wonderful son has her in a cell much like the one Mr. Cox is in now. Seems you have an attitude toward people who work and make a money for their family.

[Stop Abuse]

The individuals commenting here are probably the members of the Cox family from Missouri who did nothing to support Carolyn, her children, nor their own brother -- their own blood relative. Carolyn's situation is typical of most women who suffer abuse. They keep it quiet, and make it possible for the family to stay together. They see the family unit as more important than the bruises and black eyes. Mr. Veers is correct--you are not from McHenry County, and therefore, your statements about the evidence are totally false. If you had been there, you would know the truth and your statements about evidence and blood would be seen for what they are--complete fabrications. As for Carolyn changing her story, her story never varied--it has been totally consistent throughout. Mr. Veers is also correct about the wealth--Carolyn worked hard to achieve the status and wealth they obtained. She even put her husband through college. The homes (not palaces) were not just built by B.J.Cox--Carolyn worked as hard or harder than anyone to reach their goals.

[Stop Abuse]

Continued.... As for a boyfriend, Carolyn's "friend" --after all, she is 65 years old-- was met over eighteen months after she was attacked. That is in the official record--totally undisputed. As a matter of fact, it is in the record of the online service--again undisputed. If Carolyn's husband had been killed, she would have had a funeral and support of the Cox side of the family. Instead, the Cox family suggests that because she was attacked and met someone eighteen months later, the rules are different. They suggest she does not have a right to any further life after the attack. How said for her. She lost her husband the day of the attack--he was not able to exist for her any more after that. Then his family proceeds with these disgusting comments.

[God will get you for that]

When you come from a place like Missouri, I guess its acceptable to hit woman. All of these posts seem to be from Missouri. Hmmm... thats where all of BJ's relatives are from. Is that you Caroline, BJ's sister, how's Bert??? I know its you. Why don't you grow a pair and make your comments under your own name. You are giving Missouri people a bad name.

[Carolyn Cox]

This site has been brought to my attention by those who are concerned about me because they know the truth that I was nearly murdered by my husband on September 13, 2004. After enduring an attack of approximately six hours, I had to be airlifted in order to save my life. In court, it was described that I had what was equal to eight skull fractures, and my eye was considered to be blown out--nothing left to hold it. My face is almost half metal. After being beaten, I was locked in our garage with two running vehicles. Not only did I see my husband throughout the attack, I also talked with him. As a result, he was convicted and is serving a 20-year sentence. I suspect those writing these comments suggesting I changed my story are my ex-husband's family. They need to face the truth--my story was never changed. As a matter of fact, the state's attorney pointed out that no one could have been more consistent. What is of the utmost importance is that no one should ever tolerate abuse thinking the situation will improve. It doesn't--it gets worse, and it can result in the worst abuse possible--death. It is now my mission to tell others not to stay in an abusive relationship. I am determined to make something positive come from something horrible. Read the Daily Herald article (6/19/08)"Women Nearly Killed by Husbands Form Bond". That is an article about Gloria Johncours and me (Carolyn Cox). We hope to make a difference in the problem of domestic violence--we cannot sweep this problem under the rug any more.

[Jeannie Youngblood]

I have known Carolyn Miller Cox all my life. A more truthful, Christian woman doesn't exist. She did what all abuse victims do... she kept her mouth shut. Abuse wraps your whole being in dirt and shame and you lose the ability to voice the blame. You are made to feel like it is all your fault. It's not surprising Carolyn didn't speak the first few days, she had multiple skull fractures and wasn't expected to live!!! As soon as she was conscious she has always told the SAME story. She knew who did it, she saw him each time she crawled back into the house and he carried her back out to the garage to finish the killing job by dying from the fumes of the running vehicles in that locked garage. Abuse is not something that happens only once... it starts on a small scale and maybe doesn't happen very often but just keeps escalating and the beatings become more severe. More often the abuser can't 'get off' by a simple slap or punch anymore so he wants to see blood and hear you scream. He needs to see that blood to get his thrill. BJ is an abuser. His family can hide it under a rock but it won't go away. Hopefully the prison system will make him get therapy for his problem, but I doubt it. The trial is over and the people saw the truth and gave their verdict... they had no doubt from the beginning of deliberations according to jury members who spoke with the media, so leave Carolyn alone. Her ordeal is not anywhere near over with... she has had to have so many surgeries and endures so much pain on a daily basis and the operations and pain will continue for the rest of her life. She will never forget what happened, it will play in her head every time she allows the memories to seep into her consciousness. That is a part of abuse that can't be healed. Ever... JUST LEAVE HER ALONE!!! Pray for her to heal, stop causing her more distress. We love you, Carolyn Ruth, and we pray for you every day. May God heal your pain and your memories. Ladybug, we all hope you and Denny will find happiness that lasts a life time. Tell Ken that all of your home town friends are so sorry that he had to suffer the mental strain of what his father tried to do to him, too. Accusing his son of what he himself had done showed BJ for the jerk and worthless piece of crap he had become. You're a good person,Ken, just be sure to model your life on your mother's traits, not your dad's Carolyn, I have my broom, too, and I spend alot of time making sure the abuse subject is no longer hidden... it has to be told and not hidden in the bedrooms of America.

[Cathy]

I think you were wonderful in your video - and I believe that your story didn't change and if it did well look what YOU were put through - people need to look at the whole story or MIND their own business! I am sorry some people are so ignorant - I think that you couldn't have did that to yourself!