Losing a Spouse

[Interested]

How can you look to the future,when you can't let go of the past? When you truly love someone and they die,it is hard to think about the future.

[just me]

I feel for you if this happened to you.....It would feel like your whole world is gone ........Time is the only healer..and even then a deep emotional scar is left. If this happened to you or someone you know...my prayers are with you.

[Living it]

It is very hard to look into the future after losing someone you love so much, the man you thought you would spend forever with! For a very long while I thought I would never be able to let go and never be able to live again! I am so happy to say I have found love again. Although you will never stop loving your spouse & never forget him, you will be happy again! You have to know that your spouse would not want you to be alone! You will never get over this, you just have to find away to live with it! I wish you the best of luck, and God Bless you!

[Brian Salings]

Seek professional help. My wife didn't die but it is as though she did when she left. I didn't seek professional help and it was harder than it had to be. I made some bad mistakes because I didn't know how to handle it. Don't waste time asking other people. People can be sympathetic but no one can help you more than a trained professional on the matter. Do it today. Don't waste another minute on it.

[devious]

Brian Salings wrote:

Seek professional help. My wife didn't die but it is as though she did when she left. I didn't seek professional help and it was harder than it had to be. I made some bad mistakes because I didn't know how to handle it. Don't waste time asking other people. People can be sympathetic but no one can help you more than a trained professional on the matter. Do it today. Don't waste another minute on it.

looser's are looser's it doesn't matter how much help you get.

[Interested]

Devious are you a loser? Have you had help? Have you ever cared for anyone?

[Brian Salings]

Ignore the punks on here; they are the true loosers with nothing to do but misuse their parents computers to get shock value attention. They feel bad and they want everyone else to feel bad with them. Ignore them.

[mother2]

Brian Salings wrote:

Seek professional help. My wife didn't die but it is as though she did when she left. I didn't seek professional help and it was harder than it had to be. I made some bad mistakes because I didn't know how to handle it. Don't waste time asking other people. People can be sympathetic but no one can help you more than a trained professional on the matter. Do it today. Don't waste another minute on it.

I think when a marriage dies it is like a death, I have heard people say it is worse.I am glad you got help and seem to be ok now. thank you for you post.

[kyle]

mother2 wrote:

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I think when a marriage dies it is like a death, I have heard people say it is worse.I am glad you got help and seem to be ok now. thank you for you post.

hey i will make you feel better

[Brian Salings]

mother2 wrote:

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I think when a marriage dies it is like a death, I have heard people say it is worse.I am glad you got help and seem to be ok now. thank you for you post.

Yeah it's a little worse cause you see the person around and you know you can't be together anymore. Every time you see them a flood of memories come back to you.

[Brian Salings]

kyle wrote:

<quoted text>hey i will make you feel better

I doubt you can make yourself feel better let alone anyone else.....you're just another punk looking for attention on here...get lost kid.

[Interested]

Thanks Brian.

[Interested]

Do you count your blessings?

[shooter]

Geez, regardless of the topic, some just can't help themselves. I'd be lost without my bride. I can't imagine what you are going through, and pray that I don't go through it. I hope you have a small group or Sunday school class to provide support. If not, stay in touch with close family and friends. Don't go it alone, and God bless.

[Grieving]

My husband of 40 years died 3 months ago today. Some days I do ok and other days I can't make myself get dressed or do anything other than cry. I do not know when the pain will ever lessen but I do know that if it was not for my children and some really close friends and for my church that I would not manage as well as I do. I will never stop loving him and I know how very fortunate I was to have had him for those 40 years but knowing that still does not make the days much easier. I try not to constantly dwell on it but some days like today that is all I can do.

[Living it]

Grieving wrote:

My husband of 40 years died 3 months ago today. Some days I do ok and other days I can't make myself get dressed or do anything other than cry. I do not know when the pain will ever lessen but I do know that if it was not for my children and some really close friends and for my church that I would not manage as well as I do. I will never stop loving him and I know how very fortunate I was to have had him for those 40 years but knowing that still does not make the days much easier. I try not to constantly dwell on it but some days like today that is all I can do.

It is a very deep pain that nobody can understand unless they have lived through it! God Bless you & I wish you the very best!

[Interested]

Grieving,my husband died last September and it is like a part of me is missing. We had been married for 38 years. No one knows until they go through this. I feel for the ones who have lost children. I know that it is has to be awful. God will not put more on us than we can stand. I have been told,you need to go on with your life. I know their right and mean well,but what life. I have my children and I love them dearly but there is still a deep void. I know time will heal,but it will take time. God Bless You and everyone.

[Grieving]

Living it & Interested. Thank you for your support. Only those who have been here understand this pain. Does anyone else have any problems taking any kind of action. My air conditioning went out a couple of weeks ago & I knew I needed to call someone & I knew who to call but still it was 5 days before I picked up the phone & called the repairman to come fix it. When I did call he came & repaired it. Do you ever get over this inability to do what needs to be done.

[Sherry]

Grieving wrote:

My husband of 40 years died 3 months ago today. Some days I do ok and other days I can't make myself get dressed or do anything other than cry. I do not know when the pain will ever lessen but I do know that if it was not for my children and some really close friends and for my church that I would not manage as well as I do. I will never stop loving him and I know how very fortunate I was to have had him for those 40 years but knowing that still does not make the days much easier. I try not to constantly dwell on it but some days like today that is all I can do.

You need to focus on the good things you had in those 40 years and celebrate his "living" not his death. How would he want you to live now that he is gone? I think he would be telling you to keep on laughing and enjoying life. Yes you will always miss him because he became a part of you and you no longer have that connection. Think about the fact God gave you 40 years with him and when you start thinking about his death, replace the memory with something good from the time he was here. I can not imagine your pain but I know I would be lost without my husband. Keep your faith in God, continue doing things with your friends. Allow yourself time to grieve and don't expect to get over his death so soon. Its ok to cry, it helps your emotions heal. It may take years to finally get use to a new way of life but do it for "HIM" and do it because you know in your heart he loved you and would want the best for you. God Bless you in your trying times.

[Sherry]

Grieving wrote:

Living it & Interested. Thank you for your support. Only those who have been here understand this pain. Does anyone else have any problems taking any kind of action. My air conditioning went out a couple of weeks ago & I knew I needed to call someone & I knew who to call but still it was 5 days before I picked up the phone & called the repairman to come fix it. When I did call he came & repaired it. Do you ever get over this inability to do what needs to be done.

God does not ask more of us than we can handle. The fact is, you DID call the repairman and you DID get it fixed, right? God is telling you that your stronger than you think you are and that you must move on. That doesn't mean that your disrespecting your husband, it just means that your time here on earth is not finished and while your here you will need to take care of yourself and those things in which your husband can no longer do. You are much stronger than you think you are, God is watching...promise you!