why do men treat women so bad

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men

Old Hickory, TN

#1 Mar 21, 2011
because they think they can pull the wool over women and get by with it,but the truth is they will get caught...........
truth

La Vergne, TN

#2 Mar 21, 2011
men wrote:
because they think they can pull the wool over women and get by with it,but the truth is they will get caught..........
Because women let them.
Bwaaa

Hardy, VA

#3 Mar 21, 2011
Naw, most turn into raving bitches once a month and to be honest thats why we fish, hunt and camp. It's better to be bit by bugs, rained on and freeze our buts off than to have to deal with that crap.
lol

Murfreesboro, TN

#4 Mar 21, 2011
because that's what women go for? i mean it wouldn't be a "bad boy" if the guy wasn't mean to the woman too.. and if thats what they like then they deserve to be treated that way
Bwaaa

Hardy, VA

#5 Mar 22, 2011
Look, I have a great wife and we love each other. we both understand what the deal is and we have a handle on it. I have never cheated and I wouldn't give the time of day to any other woman because they could never come close to what my wife is to me.
The thing is, this man know when to stand and knows when to get the hell out of the way.
I always say, "don't break something you can't fix". This means don't do something you can't get past after it happens.
The have to talk to each other so you know when to keep your mouths shut if you know what I mean.
yupper

Murfreesboro, TN

#6 Mar 22, 2011
truth wrote:
<quoted text> Because women let them.
Thats what I was going to say
jerks

La Vergne, TN

#7 Mar 22, 2011
The majority of men from this area are jerks. They are reared to show zero respect to women. They hear their dads' call their mothers "old lady" etc. Men here are brought up to see women as objects. They are not taught to treat women as their friends, lovers(not sexual relief items) or people with feelings. Women should not put up with this sort of treatment. As long as you let them, they will. I haven't seen one worth the abuse and neither should you.

“Know thyself.”

Since: Sep 10

Murfreesboro, TN

#8 Mar 22, 2011
Bwaaa wrote:
Look, I have a great wife and we love each other. we both understand what the deal is and we have a handle on it. I have never cheated and I wouldn't give the time of day to any other woman because they could never come close to what my wife is to me.
The thing is, this man know when to stand and knows when to get the hell out of the way.
I always say, "don't break something you can't fix". This means don't do something you can't get past after it happens.
The have to talk to each other so you know when to keep your mouths shut if you know what I mean.
THAT is fantastic! I'm glad to see that someone was raised and went the right way! You sir? WIN.

“Know thyself.”

Since: Sep 10

Murfreesboro, TN

#9 Mar 22, 2011
It's in part because of how society has changed to accept people who take a dump all over other people and use people. If women were to look at men with girlfriends and wives who will dump all over their gf or wife for them and realize instead of getting a kick out of that kind of crap what they should have been was woman enough to send them with their tails between their legs and their pride wounded back to their gfs and wives...Then maybe Men would start respecting women again. If a guy who I knew had a gf or wife come on to me or asked me out? I have and would turn him down and have thought of these men as trash because I was feeling great sympathy for those women for having to put up with that.

Liars are the worst though. With a liar you don't know what to expect until you figure out they are a liar.
Muddy

Wise, VA

#10 Mar 23, 2011
jerks wrote:
The majority of men from this area are jerks. They are reared to show zero respect to women. They hear their dads' call their mothers "old lady" etc. Men here are brought up to see women as objects. They are not taught to treat women as their friends, lovers(not sexual relief items) or people with feelings. Women should not put up with this sort of treatment. As long as you let them, they will. I haven't seen one worth the abuse and neither should you.
And yet...women continue to CHOOSE the jerks, and have probably passed up a hundred decent guys to get with these losers!! Boo hoo...CHOICES have consequences!!!

“Know thyself.”

Since: Sep 10

Murfreesboro, TN

#12 Mar 23, 2011
Muddy? Honestly? Where are all these decent guys you speak of? Are they just so dickless they can't muster the gumption to ask anyone out? Are they that babyish? Are they that afraid of rejection or being laughed at because they aren't mature enough to brush it off from someone they haven't even bonded with? Ever hear the expression: No guts No glory? And Fortune favors the bold? And Confidence is an attraction for females. All these loser guys you talk about? They must be doing something right even if they are losers, because they know how to win a girlfriend which usually starts by having the guts to ask someone out and treat them to a date. Or does the woman have to do all the work for these "decent" guys? Because I have been both asked out and did the asking and I have to say I don't like doing the asking...I was raised to expect "the man" to do the asking, but have found men must lack something now from when my parents grew up. One of the things they lack is respect for women. Most men in this area treat women like whores.
Hell, the first guy I fell in love with was an asker and I had to end up forgiving the first few times he'd planned a date because he stood me up a few times before he was actually able to convince me he was going through a rough time and to give him another chance before he kept a date. That should have been my first sign to kick him to the curb before anything really started because he certainly proved himself a bad person to be in relationship with. One of those who just claimed he just wanted love and an exclusive relationship with someone who wouldn't cheat on him, convinced me it was me, then he gets it, and he up and decided all the sudden after putting me through some emotional hell and wasting my time that nope he'd rather date someone else.

I hope I have a pretty decent boyfriend now, he's faithful so far, and I hope that we last and go on to get married one of these days, have or adopt some kids, but in all honestly...in my 31 years...I have never met too many decent guys in this area. Definitely not 100s!

The majority of guys in this area expect sexual things after just a little time of dating and if you don't then they start looking for those that will, and yet they claim they want someone who will not cheat on them and love only them? A lock that can be unlocked by a bunch of keys isn't much of lock.

And as a woman you are damned if you do and damned if you don't when it comes to the sex thing. Someone is going to find fault if they really want too no matter what you do. If you have any past sexual encounters at all (even if it's ONE) then there is jealously and lack of trust when you first enter into another relationship. If you don't have any then you are looked at as either a liar or freak.
Lets see..So ALOT of men in this area...can't seem to stay faithful, and lack loyalty...If our American soldiers were as unloyal to our country as area men are to women then we'd be under some dictator rule as we speak.

“Know thyself.”

Since: Sep 10

Murfreesboro, TN

#13 Mar 23, 2011
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There is also an enormous drug problem in this area which is all a lot of people really care about...if they can get high or trashed then that is all they want out of life. Many don't want to work, and if they do work then they complain about it and become intolerable grumps and take it out on others around them. They should honestly crawl back up inside their mother's womb because there is nothing that satisfies them about living life.

There is also this weird habit of people wanting to share intimate details about their relationships to others who intervene...so these men tell people outside their relationship things they shouldn't, run their mouths about about their relationship instead of communicating with the person they are in the relationship with...

SO many other things...LIKE...they try to compare their girlfriends to other women, no matter how beautiful you are...some fickle man is always going to want you to be either thinner, fatter, have bigger boobs, smaller boobs, bigger butt, smaller butt...yadda yadda yadda... Then they chase after jail-bait or druggie bitches (neither of which usually wants them for long) pop pills, heavily drink, are wishy washy about what they want in life, have no direction, can't commit to anything unless it's being a "jerk" and irresponsible in most areas of their life.

Then no matter what you seem to do for them...past or present...they never appreciate it and are never happy with what you do or what they have.

The above rant = Area Men in a nutshell.
Muddy

Wise, VA

#14 Mar 23, 2011
Wretched Cherub wrote:
Muddy? Honestly? Where are all these decent guys you speak of? Are they just so dickless they can't muster the gumption to ask anyone out? Are they that babyish? Are they that afraid of rejection or being laughed at because they aren't mature enough to brush it off from someone they haven't even bonded with? Ever hear the expression: No guts No glory? And Fortune favors the bold? And Confidence is an attraction for females. All these loser guys you talk about? They must be doing something right even if they are losers, because they know how to win a girlfriend which usually starts by having the guts to ask someone out and treat them to a date. Or does the woman have to do all the work for these "decent" guys? Because I have been both asked out and did the asking and I have to say I don't like doing the asking...I was raised to expect "the man" to do the asking, but have found men must lack something now from when my parents grew up. One of the things they lack is respect for women. Most men in this area treat women like whores.
Hell, the first guy I fell in love with was an asker and I had to end up forgiving the first few times he'd planned a date because he stood me up a few times before he was actually able to convince me he was going through a rough time and to give him another chance before he kept a date. That should have been my first sign to kick him to the curb before anything really started because he certainly proved himself a bad person to be in relationship with. One of those who just claimed he just wanted love and an exclusive relationship with someone who wouldn't cheat on him, convinced me it was me, then he gets it, and he up and decided all the sudden after putting me through some emotional hell and wasting my time that nope he'd rather date someone else.
I hope I have a pretty decent boyfriend now, he's faithful so far, and I hope that we last and go on to get married one of these days, have or adopt some kids, but in all honestly...in my 31 years...I have never met too many decent guys in this area. Definitely not 100s!
The majority of guys in this area expect sexual things after just a little time of dating and if you don't then they start looking for those that will, and yet they claim they want someone who will not cheat on them and love only them? A lock that can be unlocked by a bunch of keys isn't much of lock.
And as a woman you are damned if you do and damned if you don't when it comes to the sex thing. Someone is going to find fault if they really want too no matter what you do. If you have any past sexual encounters at all (even if it's ONE) then there is jealously and lack of trust when you first enter into another relationship. If you don't have any then you are looked at as either a liar or freak.
Lets see..So ALOT of men in this area...can't seem to stay faithful, and lack loyalty...If our American soldiers were as unloyal to our country as area men are to women then we'd be under some dictator rule as we speak.
Uh yeah...the losers ARE "doing something right"...they are feeding women a load of crap lines, then treating them bad, and the women put up with it!! And no, the guys that women CHOOSE are often unfaithful, but guess what? They PICKED him...either they are naive to the point of being childlike, or they WANT a guy like that! Good guys are everywhere and your post is just a buncha male bashing "Oprah-like" babble, in which women never take responsibility for their own STUPID CHOICES! Blah Blah Blah!!!!

“Know thyself.”

Since: Sep 10

Murfreesboro, TN

#15 Mar 23, 2011
Women do pick these losers...but know what? When the majority of men in a given area are losers and they lie about that fact because they want to make themselves look better than what they are... then what kind of choice is there? You can either take a chance on someone and hope they are a good person or you can be alone. If it ends up being a bad choice then at least you tried something as opposed to sitting around waiting and waiting for something that is apparently very rare or nonexistent to pop up. I did my fair share of waiting and I got sick and tired of it, whereas some people took chances and ended up doing okay for themselves.

And no it's not Oprah babble...This is stuff I have personally experienced from men in this area and dating.
Ronaldus Magnus

Abingdon, VA

#16 Mar 23, 2011
I have addressed this issue befor on several occasions and I useally end up typeing more than topix allows per post. Wretched Cherub is correct there are high numbers of males that have no respect for females. Muddy is correct as well females are makeing poor choices.

I know a guy who is 25 years old that has no respect for females and yet they are fighting each other in line to get to him. Everywhere he goes his phone is blowing up with females who want to get with him and are flocking to his location. Ive met alot of his ex girlfriends all are extremely attractive. I ask what happend to their relationship its always the same anwser. The female always finds out that he has been cheating on her with nearly a dozen other girls. He is notorious for this behavior and still females can't get enough of him chewing them up and spitting them out like candy. Even ex girlfriends that he has mistreated want him back. It is amazeing to watch this extremely superficial guy with no real intelligence to speak of to be able to get away with this.

My conclusion is that apparently most females are not intrested in a gentleman that respects women and their opinions. For every "good guy" you show me I can show you twenty females that won't have anything to do with him. Hell Ill be lucky to find any girl that will have anything to do with him. I have actually been told by girls on several diffrent occasions that they quit seeing a guy after one date because they said and I quote "He was too much of a gentleman."
Ronaldus Magnus

Abingdon, VA

#17 Mar 23, 2011
Yes I know males are suppose to be men and iniate contact with females and ask them out and accept the rejection time and time again until success. I feel there needs to be some basis to expect success instead of just blindly charging forward with no regard. Ive actually seen girls make fun of a guy just for trying. It is disheartening to say the least. As for myself,I am constantly on the lookout for sombody who might even seem to be remotely intrested in me. As far as I can tell a guy with a home, a vehicle, a stable job, no drama, no vices, respectful, and a mind that is more concerned with serious topics instead of pop culture is not a desireable companion in the opinion of all the single females ive met in the last fifteen years.

“Know thyself.”

Since: Sep 10

Murfreesboro, TN

#18 Mar 23, 2011
Ronaldus Magnus wrote:
Ive actually seen girls make fun of a guy just for trying. It is disheartening to say the least. As for myself,I am constantly on the lookout for sombody who might even seem to be remotely intrested in me. As far as I can tell a guy with a home, a vehicle, a stable job, no drama, no vices, respectful, and a mind that is more concerned with serious topics instead of pop culture is not a desireable companion in the opinion of all the single females ive met in the last fifteen years.
I don't think I have personally ever made fun of anyone for showing any interest in me since grade school. That just shows you the maturity level of some of the "girls" you have been acquainted with. One of the problems with girls getting involved imho into serious relationships too young is that they stagnant mentally and grow too comfortable with the "dating game"...which is one reason you get 15 year old mentality in older women's bodies. If women were to focus more on educating themselves and exposing themselves to culture outside of what they see on tv or in magazines...more than being worried about serious relationships as a child than they would become a much more refined and intelligent woman as an adult. They might not be miss popularity, but they will not have to be because they'll realize how unimportant being popular is over other more useful and self enriching adornments.

I'm going to be honest with you...a lot of women in this area are just as bad as a lot of the men about using people and being liars. They need to pull their shallow heads out of their asses and grow a heart and treat people the way they'd want to be treated. Unfortunately it is the sensitive people who are actually caring people who are the ones who are hurt often times by those of insensitive uncaring natures and impacted negatively by their carelessness.

Keep your chin up, your eyes open, and don't be afraid to ask someone out and just remember...if you face rejection, it's not you who are missing out...it's them.

“Know thyself.”

Since: Sep 10

Murfreesboro, TN

#19 Mar 24, 2011
Ronaldus Magnus wrote:
I know a guy who is 25 years old that has no respect for females and yet they are fighting each other in line to get to him. Everywhere he goes his phone is blowing up with females who want to get with him and are flocking to his location. Ive met alot of his ex girlfriends all are extremely attractive. I ask what happend to their relationship its always the same anwser. The female always finds out that he has been cheating on her with nearly a dozen other girls.
That seriously sounds like my exe boyfriend once I started to hear things and his lies unraveled. Little secret? Don't know about this guy your talking about, but I'll tell you a little thing about what attracted me to my exe. I felt sorry for him. An explosion of sympathy. He reminded me of this little stray dog that just needed to be shown real love and given a home and he'd be alright. It wasn't his intelligence that got to me, because I didn't think he was that smart, it wasn't whatever looks he has, it wasn't anything else other than I thought he was a good person with a good heart who was just starving for love and one more thing: he stood up to me. I wasn't going to go out with him and he stood up to me and because of it I changed my mind. Then later on I found out the truth...that he was just a good liar and knew how to play people's hearts for sympathy. But I adored the person I thought he was.
Ronaldus Magnus wrote:
I have actually been told by girls on several diffrent occasions that they quit seeing a guy after one date because they said and I quote "He was too much of a gentleman."
I have never had that problem. I have had to stop seeing someone because they have been too pushy. I have had to stop seeing someone because they tried to damage my self esteem. I have had to stop seeing someone even before I really saw them because they became stalkerish. I have had to stop seeing someone because the relationship was too one-sided and I felt like I was putting forth all the effort. What is wrong with these girls you know? I have had to stop seeing soemone because there was just nothing there.
Queen B

Hartsville, TN

#20 Mar 24, 2011
Maybe some women put up with it because they just do not want to be alone or do not want to start the dating process all over again. Its hard to meet a guy in this area.
Ronaldus Magnus

Abingdon, VA

#21 Mar 24, 2011
I don't see how it can be hard to meet a guy in Wise County. You can go into any establishment on Fri/Sat night and the males will outnumber the females 15 to 1. Or even local events like FSR concert last week at the Tavern probably 200 people there 3/4 where male.

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