Excerpts from Tolly Carr's comments

Excerpts from Tolly Carr's comments

There are 10 comments on the News & Record Syndication Feed story from Mar 24, 2007, titled Excerpts from Tolly Carr's comments. In it, News & Record Syndication Feed reports that:

Some excerpts from WXII television anchor Tolly Carr's comments to the congregation of the Greater Cleveland Avenue Christian Church in Winston-Salem on Sunday: "I'm going to try my best to get through this.

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Greensboro, NC

#1 Mar 26, 2007
I think that Tolly should be ashamed of himself for asking anyone to give him money. Everyone knows that if he were an average man in this city he first would have never been released from jail that night without any bond. Nor would anyone think it was okay for this accussed murderer to ask for sympathy from our community. No one in thier right mind should donate or give any money to him! It appears that he made a terrible choice, and he should be soley responsible for that choice. Is he not a grown man? Did he not have a career at the news channell? As far as Tolley being ashamed of himself, the news channell should be too. All we've heard about is this slain police officer. Over, and over, and over, but when one of your own screws up, you down play the situation. This incident is just as news credible as any. Why are we not hearing about anyone donating money for this victom or his family? Instead you choose to report on Tolley and his plea for help? You can gurantee if this was any other black man the same age as Tolley they would not have walked out of that magistrates office in that manner. And the media would be all over him with negative publicity. Very wreckless news reporting!

Atlanta, GA

#2 Mar 26, 2007
The citizens of Winston Salem need to get behind the family Casey Bokhaven not Tolly Carr.
Any average citizen knows they would not have been let out just on a DUI charge much less after killing someone.
What does say about our system? If it had been the other way around we would have Jesse and Al on the court house steps calling for justice.
Tolly made a huge error in judgement and he should pay the price as anyone else would do.
Yes the family of Casey should be mad and they deserve answers and they deserve justice be done.
I hope everyone takes the time to write the D.A.s office to complain and demand Tolly be held to the same justice as anyone once.
He has taken a life, Casey may not have been a self proclaimed "prince" but I am sure he was to his family.
To listen to Tolly he plans to come back and "help" everyone when "this" is over. This is a life he has taken not just a little mishap.
I feel for the family of Casey and hopefully some church will get behind this family so everyone can show their support for justice in Casey's name.

Kernersville, NC

#3 Mar 27, 2007
The best way to show support for the family right now is prayers, of course. The best way to stand together as a community and make a difference is to write an impact statement.
For all of you who were affected by the death of Casey, for all of you who have ever been affected by drunk driving, I want to ask for your help:

When someone is killed at the hands of another, the victim's family prepares impact statements giving the victim a "voice" in Court.

The District Attorney's Office in Forsyth County has given the "go ahead" for people to write "citizen" impact statements.

If anyone reading this has been affected personally by Casey's death, please do an impact statement. It doesn't matter if you knew Casey, knew anyone in his family, or knew anyone related whatsoever to this case. If you were affected, please type up a statement expressing your feelings and how the case has affected you.

Anyone who has ever been affected by drinking and driving, please do an impact statement.

Please do not use profanity or speak out of anger. This is everyone's chance to give Casey a "voice" in Court. A chance to prove how his senseless murder has affected you.

Please do not state any factual information in your statement. This is an emotional statement letting the Court know how you feel about the events surrounding the death of Casey Bokhoven. If you do not have the proof behind an accusation you want to make, please leave it out. If you can say you saw Tolly Carr that night, please say so. If you cannot say that you did, however, leave it out. These are not statements of the facts about the case, merely statements about how you feel about it and how you would feel if Tolly Carr received a less than just punishment. We want the Court to know we are watching.

You don't have to address it to anyone. As an example, here is a generic Impact Statement:

My name is __________ and I am a citizen and resident of __________ North Carolina. I am writing to you today regarding the death of Casey Ryan Bokhoven. I did (not) know Mr. Bokhoven, nor do I know Tolly Carr. I am completely unrelated to either of these individuals. My purpose for writing this statement is to express how this has affected my life.

Since the drunk-driving accident that killed Mr. Bokhoven, I have noticed a change in our community. There are a lot of people, myself included, who have been affected by this tragedy.

I am afraid that this case will set the "standard" on whether people feel it is okay to drink and drive. What I mean by saying that is, if Mr. Carr is shown any leniency, I am afraid that others will follow in his footsteps, and someone else will be killed at the hands of a drunk driver. Please remember that there are lots of people watching for the outcome of this case.

Thank you for your taking the time to hear my voice.


/s/(your name here)
Your name

If you have any questions regarding this, please post them in a comment to this blog and they will be answered.

You may email your statement to the email address for this site, which is [email protected] If you do email it, however, please use an electronic signature such as this:


/s/John Doe
John Doe

Thank you to everyone who has put forth an effort in this cause.

and please go here and if you have myspace, add them!:
www.myspace.so m/justice4casey

Kernersville, NC

#4 Mar 27, 2007
Lisa Kotecki


#5 Apr 20, 2007
I am so deeply disappointed in our legal system. My prayers go out to the Bokhoven family. I can't imagine losing one of my children in this manner. I don't understand how the Winston Salem police department can take a man to jail for a DWI and "killing a human being" and allow him to "sign" himself out and promise to appear in court. A stray cat gets in my house and attacks me, my husband ends up killing it to get it off of me and he goes to jail with a $8500 bond! Tolly Carr kills an "innocent young man" and just signs himself out of jail. Where's the justice in that. I don't agree with killing anyone or anything at all, but when a cat has it's teeth embedded in my leg and I can't get it off without killing it, that's what I do. But getting behind the wheel of a vehicle after consuming any amount of alcohol, in my opinion, is looking to kill someone. Tolly Carr had options and he chose the wrong one. I've noticed this story has been "kept quiet" and no one seems to want to punish this man for what he's done. He killed a man. A young man with a bright future ahead. I quess if you kill someone because you were driving drunk and then decide to check into rehab all is well. Let's forget about it and it will go away. Please, don't let this man get away with "murder", because in my opinion that's what he did. He committed murder. My prayers are with you Casey Bokhoven. I didn't know you personally, but I know you're in God's loving hands and he will take care of you and somehow he will help your family get through this. I've noticed that the puninishment for killing a cat are more serious than those for killing a precious young man that had done nothing wrong. To Tom Keith and everyone else in the DA's office, look in the mirror each day and ask yourself, what am I doing wrong? Our legal system is a "joke", when a man can run down a person and kill them and walk away. I cry each time I think about this and I want to do something, but I don't know what to do. Let's work together and fix this problem. Thanks for allowing me to voice my opinion.
patricia samuels

Winston Salem, NC

#6 Apr 23, 2007
he without sin cast the first stone
every one is forcusing on tolley if it wasnt in gods plan it wouldnt have happened to either one .its more than tolley to focust on what about the killing of 33 peoples and all the other crimes that are being done bodys being found children being molested the lord said forgive your brother 70 times 70 as i have forgiven you so leave it in gods hand and stop trying to find fault with the system and focuses on your own life

and your surrounding you it could happen to you sober have a nice day

pat samuels winston- salem n.c


#7 May 5, 2007
I do not live in NC, but I found out about this story from the internet. My prayers go out to Casey's family. I am shocked that the media seems to focus on Mr. Carr. The media needs to focus more on Casey and his family. Drinking and Driving is an awful choice...I have had to deal with it with both my family members and friends. It ruins lives, and the sad thing is, it can all be avoided --either have a designated driver, don't drink at all, or call a taxi. I am very saddened by this tragedy, and I will continute to follow the outcome of the case. I hope that we can all learn from this tragedy. It's very, very sad. Especially for the victim's family. I myself have lost loved ones in my life, and you never, ever get over it. Please never, ever drink and drive.

My love and prayers go out to Casey's family.


Lexington, NC

#8 May 14, 2007
i havent heard much about the hot shot tv reporter lately. is he buying his way out?

Raleigh, NC

#9 May 17, 2007
Tolly Carr's status is not why he was able to sign himself out of jail, it was his character that allowed him to get out, as it would have allowed any other citizen that has never been in trouble with the law to get out. And as far as asking for money, don't think just because he's seen on television, that he's rolling in millions of dollars. Legal fees are very HIGH!! not to wiggle his way out or buy his way out of killing someone, but just the mear fact of obtaining legal representation.

As far as Cassey's family, my heart goes out to you too, and if you need more money for legal representation, then I suggest you do the same thing too, ASK FOR MONEY.

I'm a parent as well, I have only one child, I too would be very angry, I would want to blame someone, I would want someone to pay, but when the dust settles whatever the outcome may be, Tolly Carr will always pay, he will never be able to forget Cassey, and what he did, he will have to live with the memory of taking Cassey's life for the rest of his life.

Therefore my prayers have been and will continue to be for both families.

May the Lord God comfort you and keep you strong.

Earth hath no sorrow the heaven can not heal.


#10 Jul 31, 2007
I did not hear that he asked for money. Let him use legal aide like everyone else that does not have to pay for an attorney. I am in disbelief that he asked for money. He can have the attorney he can afford, why should he get any special treatment? This man maliciously killed an innocent human being with his disregard for others. He knew he was drunk and he still chose to drive. I am so mad..I do not personally know either one of these men but my heart goes out to the family of the man who gave his life for such disregard by another human being.

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