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Laughing out loud

Ripley, TN

#21 Oct 10, 2012
First of all, if I am supporting my wife through hard work and am taking care of her needs, she would not think of maintaining a relationship with an ex. Even if it is amicable, that is a nono! It has nothing to do with security or trust. It has everything to do with respect! You should make your feelings known to her in a calm and rational way.
mother of two
#22 Oct 10, 2012
Laughing out loud wrote:
First of all, if I am supporting my wife through hard work and am taking care of her needs, she would not think of maintaining a relationship with an ex. Even if it is amicable, that is a nono! It has nothing to do with security or trust. It has everything to do with respect! You should make your feelings known to her in a calm and rational way.
true and i wish mi boy friend would look at it that way
pops

United States

#23 Oct 10, 2012
Laughing out loud wrote:
First of all, if I am supporting my wife through hard work and am taking care of her needs, she would not think of maintaining a relationship with an ex. Even if it is amicable, that is a nono! It has nothing to do with security or trust. It has everything to do with respect! You should make your feelings known to her in a calm and rational way.
That is exactly my point. Because her ex can't go back to being just someone she knows like a classmate or something. She has promised not to speak to them anymore but it has raised some trust issues.

“It's all in your head”

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Since: Aug 12

Somewhere

#24 Oct 10, 2012
Pops, from now on, whenever you and your wife are out and see this guy, YOU give him a big bear-hug. If you don't have back problems and he's not morbidly obese, maybe even pick him up a little, give him a little shake. Be loud about it, too, so everyone looks. If you do this every time, after a while,whenever he sees you and your wife, he'll turn tail and run. Unless he ends up liking it ;-)
lizzy beth

Mobile, AL

#25 Oct 10, 2012
Little Pessimist wrote:
Pops, from now on, whenever you and your wife are out and see this guy, YOU give him a big bear-hug. If you don't have back problems and he's not morbidly obese, maybe even pick him up a little, give him a little shake. Be loud about it, too, so everyone looks. If you do this every time, after a while,whenever he sees you and your wife, he'll turn tail and run. Unless he ends up liking it ;-)
Tried somethin similar. I think the individual is deranged
sweet irish creme

United States

#26 Oct 11, 2012
People like your wife are too nice for their own good and there's not a whole lot you can do about that but be sure to stand your ground. Block his numbers from her phone so if they talk you' ll know that she initiated the contact & let the bastard know that you are aware if what's going on. If anything happens past that point then you will know you did everthing you could if the marriage ends
gnc

Pearland, TX

#27 Oct 12, 2012
Bless your heart, if she loves you she won't disrespect you like that. I'm afraid you might be fighting a losing battle and if so its not your fault for her behavior but it is your priority to set limits as to what you are willing to put up with and not accepting anything short if that. Life's too short to live miserably
sweet irish creme

Humble, TX

#28 Oct 24, 2012
It would be greatly disrespectful to speak to exes whom you don't have children with if you are dating or married & in a way disrespectful to your self because you think so little of yourself that you need a reminder of your past mistakes. If a spose choses to do this knowing your way of thinking on the matter, you might want to consider accessing the relationship

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