How can a father never want to know his daughter ?

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Daughter

Oklahoma City, OK

#1 Jan 17, 2013
I am 24 years old and have always known my mother as father & mother to me but it hurts because I do not understand how I remember some what of my dad when I was younger but how.can he be married and have two other children but never supported me or came around knowing he knew where I lived address & never gave me a dime an how can he take care of other Children ?
One More Word

Zwolle, LA

#2 Jan 17, 2013
Daughter wrote:
I am 24 years old and have always known my mother as father & mother to me but it hurts because I do not understand how I remember some what of my dad when I was younger but how.can he be married and have two other children but never supported me or came around knowing he knew where I lived address & never gave me a dime an how can he take care of other Children ?
I do understand how you feel. I did not have any sort of real realtionship with my dad until I was married. The years of him being neglectful could not be forgotten. I did my best to put the past behind and in my heart I forgave him for my own peace of mind. But to answer your question, none of this is about you at all. It is about selfish people that produce kids and never accept the responibility of being a parent. The years go by and they can move on. There is nothing that can fill that void for you, I know that. But understand that you are far from alone. You may find some peace if you can talk to others that have went through this. When it eats at you so bad you can't take it try to go spend some time with someone you know cares about you. I remember when my Mom was alive I used to send her a Fathers Day card as well as a Mothers Day card. The first time I did it she cried because she finally knew how much I appreciated her. Huggs hun.
onlyme

Rayville, LA

#3 Jan 18, 2013
You know I'm kind of involved in a similar situation, however, it is my son. His mom pretty much sent him to his dad (my husband now) and never looked back, she did however, keep his sister in order to keep her welfare, food stamps, and child support coming.

As for me and mine I view it as her loss MOST DEFINITELY MY GAIN....he is now in his 20's and I couldn't love him any more if he were my biological child.

About a week ago though, he came to me and told me "HE NEEDED TO MAKE AMENDS WITH HIS MOTHER". I have no problem with him contacting her, what I have the problem with is that he feels the need to apologize for the broken relationship~I TOLD HIM HE HAD ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR~HE WAS A CHILD!!

My point is: I really understand your pain, but please don't beat yourself up about it~once again...you were the child and it's his loss! Hope everything goes well for you. GOD BLESS
Bad Boy

Bradford, AR

#4 Jan 28, 2013
How did your mom treat your dad? Did she do all she could to keep him from seeing you?

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