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Confused

Philadelphia, PA

#1 Jan 14, 2011
I have noticed that no one takes their relationships seriously anymore. Or is there even such a thing as a meaningful relationship? I thought a marriage or relationship is supposed to be between two people who are in love with one another who are faithful to one another. I also thought that there is one person for everybody. The one who completes you. All I have seen in my journey of finding the right one is lies. Selfish people wanting someone on the side. No commitments. People thinking they are in love with the wrong person. Is there anyone else who feels the way I do? This is confusing to someone who wants to live the right way. Who wants to be with one person and be faithful. Who wants someone to spend time with. I'd like to hear other opinions about this.
just a parent

United States

#2 Jan 14, 2011
I totally agree. Nothing is sacred anymore. People only believe in lying cheating and drugs. I have kissed quit a few frogs and even married 1 just 2 find out he had a drug problem that he hide very well! I'm wanting forever. Doesn't anyone believe in that???
Twinkle Toes

Philadelphia, PA

#3 Jan 14, 2011
Most men are players. I believe there are good ones out there somewhere though. I want forever too 'parent'. Stevie Wonder has a song called 'part time lovers' I believe. I want to be someones everything not part time. He also has a song called ' I just called to say I love you' but you don't get phone calls like that anymore. Only calls or texts from people wanting something. I've kissed alot of frogs lol. Now I want a prince. Where can I find one?
ummmm

United States

#4 Jan 14, 2011
Where are all of you looking for men at? The gutter or the bar, which there is not much difference...
Confused

Philadelphia, PA

#5 Jan 14, 2011
Where do you look?
Twinkle Toes

Philadelphia, PA

#6 Jan 14, 2011
They sure ain't gonna show up from out of nowhere so where do u go to find a mate?
Big-M

United States

#7 Jan 14, 2011
If he's for me God better put flashers on him cuz I don't pay attention to the crap I run into. I've actually met a REALLY GOOD MAN, but after dealing w/ so many ZEROS, I don't know how to act w/ MY HERO!!
jus4kics

United States

#8 Jan 14, 2011
you girls are typical females....you over look the "princes", and there are some out here, because they dont live in a upscale home; they arent hansome enough; they earn less money than you. u type of women will never be satisfied because no man will ever meet ALL the cryteria, in which you all have a list, and no 2 are the same. I realized some time ago men simply cant make a woman happy ALL the time and thats what women want. Like Big-M said, cant trust the one shes with because of the past. Whomever u are in a relationship with now cant help the past.
just a parent

United States

#9 Jan 14, 2011
You are correct jus4kics. It is hard 2 learn how 2 trust again after you have been hurt! I'm willing 2 try. I'm tired of being hurt! I have a lot of love 2 give and would love 2 receive it in return!

Level 1

Since: Jan 09

Winnfield La

#10 Jan 14, 2011
There is no fairy tail relationship, there is no prince riding off into the sunset with his princess. There is love, work, kids. But it can end with happily ever after!
Nurse

Winnfield, LA

#11 Jan 14, 2011
My husband wasn't rich when we met, he drove an old beat up truck, and didn't have much more than his clothes and some CD's. Now that we are married, we have a home, both have cars, and so forth. Now, I didn't say we have the best or even things that would make others envy us. We live day to day just like the rest. But, the one thing that makes me feel like I have it all is when he holds me in his arms and tells me how much he loves me. I have NEVER felt a feeling like the one I get when we are together like that. I am on top of the world!!! So, for the gal looking...stop. Your soul-mate will find you when you least expect it. I wasn't looking for anyone in my life and was quite content with being single when my man came into my life. It WILL happen!!
The Last Gentleman

New Port Richey, FL

#12 Jan 15, 2011
yeah i understand how you feel, I'm not rich or have the rock hard abs and tan skin that alot of women go for today, but I do have something alot of guys don't anymore. Chivalry and Manners. alot of women today are scared of those qualities and it's rather upsetting, most women nowdays will go through an abusive relationship and such due to the social status of whom they're with, and if you show them the true meaning of being a special woman they get scared! I've looked and looked but it's getting harder and harder to find that special someone, so i've decided that if they do come into my life it will be on God's terms and nothing else, that person will show up when you least expect it and you and that person will know! I wish you luck and keep your head up you never know who it may be! It could be the person right beside you, it could be the person that you've never met yet!
brother winston

Somerset, KY

#13 Jan 15, 2011
Women have been snookered and spiritually polluted by all this "feminism" and "independent, self-sufficient womanhood tripe." This has emasculated a lot of men. If you want a real man, transform yourself into a real woman. Think husband, self-sacrifice, helpmeet, etc. not me, me, me. Think how you can then help your husband, how you can demonstrate your love for him--if you apply these principles, it may take a some time, but you will notice a remarkable difference, until that transformation takes place--you will continue to be just a piece of meat, for you have managed to "dehumanize" yourself.
brother winston

Somerset, KY

#14 Jan 15, 2011
Nurse wrote:
My husband wasn't rich when we met, he drove an old beat up truck, and didn't have much more than his clothes and some CD's. Now that we are married, we have a home, both have cars, and so forth. Now, I didn't say we have the best or even things that would make others envy us. We live day to day just like the rest. But, the one thing that makes me feel like I have it all is when he holds me in his arms and tells me how much he loves me. I have NEVER felt a feeling like the one I get when we are together like that. I am on top of the world!!! So, for the gal looking...stop. Your soul-mate will find you when you least expect it. I wasn't looking for anyone in my life and was quite content with being single when my man came into my life. It WILL happen!!
You may have a lot of good advice to offer, it seems to me. Don't allow things to come between you and your husband, whether children, family, stuff, etc. If a man gets the feeling that he is dispensable, he may become dissatisfied with his relationship.
just a parent

United States

#15 Jan 15, 2011
Last gentleman you sound like a stand up man!!! 2 bad I don't know you...you sound like the someone I'm looking 4.
Confused

Philadelphia, PA

#16 Jan 15, 2011
Thanks all for the advice. I want someone who I can look in his eyes and see the love he has for me. I don't care about material possessions or if he has hard rock abs. Just the way he treats me. I know he's out there somewhere. I appreciate the encouragement and advice.
CALIFORNIA DREAMING

Lakeside, CA

#17 Jan 15, 2011
Confused wrote:
I have noticed that no one takes their relationships seriously anymore. Or is there even such a thing as a meaningful relationship? I thought a marriage or relationship is supposed to be between two people who are in love with one another who are faithful to one another. I also thought that there is one person for everybody. The one who completes you. All I have seen in my journey of finding the right one is lies. Selfish people wanting someone on the side. No commitments. People thinking they are in love with the wrong person. Is there anyone else who feels the way I do? This is confusing to someone who wants to live the right way. Who wants to be with one person and be faithful. Who wants someone to spend time with. I'd like to hear other opinions about this.
You can waste a lot of your life looking for "the right one." So many people marry bad and suffer horribly, and the children from the union suffer as well. When you see that you are connected to the wrong person for you, RUN AND RUN FAST. Do not waste a second of your precious time that God has given you on people that will make you sad, angry or use you. THAT SAID, AT SOME POINT YOU WILL GIVE UP AND JUST LET LOVE FIND YOU, IF IT WILL. SOME ARE LUCKY SOME ARE NOT. THAT IS LIFE. FOR THE LUCKY ONES, WELL, THEY USUALLY DO NOT KNOW THAT THEY ARE BLESSED. It does take work, a lot of work to sustain a relationship. So, the problem is: Do you want to spend all that time looking or spend your time in other ways. YOUR CHOICE.

Level 1

Since: Jan 09

Winnfield La

#18 Jan 15, 2011
brother winston wrote:
Women have been snookered and spiritually polluted by all this "feminism" and "independent, self-sufficient womanhood tripe." This has emasculated a lot of men. If you want a real man, transform yourself into a real woman. Think husband, self-sacrifice, helpmeet, etc. not me, me, me. Think how you can then help your husband, how you can demonstrate your love for him--if you apply these principles, it may take a some time, but you will notice a remarkable difference, until that transformation takes place--you will continue to be just a piece of meat, for you have managed to "dehumanize" yourself.
I love this post! I just recently decided to be a stay at home wife and mom. I never realized how much more work it was but I love taking care of my husband and kid. I feel more like a nurturer now.
brother winston

Somerset, KY

#19 Jan 15, 2011
tribulation wrote:
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I love this post! I just recently decided to be a stay at home wife and mom. I never realized how much more work it was but I love taking care of my husband and kid. I feel more like a nurturer now.
Congratulations, and you will find you are able to have more nutritious meals on less money and be able to seek out sales and can do a lot of "networking" with other wives to locate good deals, and to be able to redecorate, etc., perhaps even design and sew clothing, a lot of ways to be so very much more effective as a wife.
Wondering from Winn

United States

#20 Jan 15, 2011
I don't feel like I need to be "effective" by staying home and cooking and cleaning. I believe God put me here to be so much more. Some women want to be stay at home mom/wife and that is the career fir them. If that makes them happy then so be it. However I enjoy a successful career which brings into the household significantly more money than my husband but we do not choose to split hairs in that manner. Everything brought in is ours together and for the stability of our home. We are equal life partners. I can clip coupons on my day off if I choose but prefer spending time with my partner enjoying the living WE have made. By the way I do not feel dehumanized either..

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