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She123

United States

#1 Mar 20, 2013
Anyone else out there that is only staying married bc ot their kids? They are almost grown and then i am gonna leave my husband , he makes me miserable.
Divorce is not the answer

Rineyville, KY

#2 Mar 21, 2013
If your unhappily married work on your marriage to make it good again. Trust me. I'm divorced and that solves nothing. Work on your marriage.
She123

United States

#3 Mar 22, 2013
Not all marriages are worth saving, my husband has made me disrespect him, he is a chronic liar and a control freak, i refuse to live the rest of my life with a narrsacists. If you knew the whole story you would understand.
Divorce is not the answer

Lexington, KY

#4 Mar 22, 2013
I don't have to know the whole story to know your marriage is worth saving. My spouse cheated on me lied to me spread lies about me to justify the affairs and on and on. Did divorce solve the issues? No. Did I think it would? Yes. Looking back it would have been much better to solve the issues in our marriage then run from them because they don't go away. I know right now divorce looks like the best and maybe even the only option but trust me fixing your marriage is the best option. I'm not saying its easy I'm saying it will be worth it.
She123

United States

#5 Mar 22, 2013
Thats all well and good for you, but i know longer love or respect my husband. The only time i feel happy or at ease is when i am not around him, so just as no two people are alike no two marriages are alike and i am not gonna choose and stay with someone just so i can say we survived and stuck it out. Marriage shouldnt be that hard. Good luck to you.
him68

Bellevue, WA

#6 Mar 30, 2013
to she123 i understand,wat ur saying ,and yes somethings,u have to let go ,somethings ar'nt worth fixing,i kno im done been through it,and dose things ever get better,yes they can good luck to you,hope that u find wat ur seeking,
She123

United States

#7 Apr 1, 2013
For him68...thanks so much! I needed those words of encouragement if i thought i had to stay with my husband forever i wouldnt be able to get out of the bed every morning, each day that goes by i know im one day closer to life without him and something better! Thank you and i hope your life is a better one too.
sex addict the oringinal

Lebanon, KY

#8 Apr 11, 2013
been there & done that ,i know what ur going thru. just do what u wanna do & let go if ur not happy
Let it go

Covington, KY

#9 Apr 11, 2013
I married somebody and stayed until I realized I hated hearing his voice and looking at his face, it's not good for your kids for you to be miserable all the time. Since they're almost grown I understand u waiting at least that long, but my son and I are both exponentially more happy. In his case his dad decided since we were divorced he had no dad responsibility, but i still wouldn't change it. Even if my son and I struggle sometimes it's worth it for us to be happy.
I feel your pain

Bardstown, KY

#10 Apr 11, 2013
She123 wrote:
Anyone else out there that is only staying married bc ot their kids? They are almost grown and then i am gonna leave my husband , he makes me miserable.
. I'm in the same boat and I'm also staying for the sake of my kids plus financial reasons also. Dont have the money and now days it takes two incomes to make it in this world. It has got to the point that I love being away from him. We fuss all the time even around the kids and over little things. I'm sick and just want out.
Get help

Glendale, KY

#11 Apr 11, 2013
If you would take the time you are spending complaining about your marriage in counselling or actually talking about this with your spouse you may find that you no longer have anything to complain about.
life does get better

Winchester, KY

#12 Apr 12, 2013
i have been married for 21 yrs almost and stayed for the kids also.. and their grown now and i couldnt wait for this day also to get away!! i have been threw counselin with husband and it got worst threw the yrs he was abusive and lied to the cops had me locked up.he messed with friends i had when we was separated. he took me to wild motorcyle parties so he could have an open marriage put up with so much more and now i have met another man and fell in love and couldnt be more happier i just need a divorce now!!!
My advice

Bowling Green, KY

#13 Apr 12, 2013
She123 wrote:
Anyone else out there that is only staying married bc ot their kids? They are almost grown and then i am gonna leave my husband , he makes me miserable.
I was married 18 years. I wasted a lot of years of my life and his. Did we try to save it? Yes we did and all that time trying was really putting off the inevitable. If you aren't in love with your spouse any longer, that is your answer. You can't make yourself love someone and can't make someone love you. Why would anyone want to? We all make mistakes we are human, but if your going to divorce just try to make it amicable for the children's sake. We divorced and at first it wasn't on good terms, but he realized i had not been happy in a long time and didn't want us to live this short life being unhappy. We get along great now as friends. You have to do what is best for you, listen to yourself.
Awful

Lexington, KY

#14 Apr 12, 2013
This whole thing sickens me. Since when did the world revolve around you and your happiness. I hate the way people use stupid cliches like follow your heart and do what's best for to justify your actions. And "life does get better" stop cheating on your husband. Your complaining about him wanting an open marriage while your having an affair. Give me a break.
life does get better

Georgetown, KY

#15 Apr 12, 2013
Awful wrote:
This whole thing sickens me. Since when did the world revolve around you and your happiness. I hate the way people use stupid cliches like follow your heart and do what's best for to justify your actions. And "life does get better" stop cheating on your husband. Your complaining about him wanting an open marriage while your having an affair. Give me a break.
he had affairs with my friends,etc so you can be sicken all you want im not complaining at all means im so happy im getting away from abusive and cheating and lieing and a chester molester of a husband i had... im sorry your life hasnt been plesant!!it is about my happiness cause i revolved around his for yrs hell with him!!i deserve happiness and i love it!!
life does get better

Georgetown, KY

#16 Apr 12, 2013
im getting away what made me unhappy all these yre promblem is solved here..lol no man is worth going to jail for.... and him lieing on top of it!!
Just Saying

United States

#17 Apr 12, 2013
I love my husband but I don't think he loves me at all, he's just here. He has cheated on me many times, cut down my looks and has this thing for porn that would make any woman jealous. Even took some nude pictures of a teenager himself. She was half his age.

When I look back on our marriage I have doubts he ever loved me now. So if your marriage sounds like this get out, it will never change. You can love them all you want but that won't make them love you.
She 123

United States

#18 Apr 12, 2013
This is for..Awfull...excuse me but what is life about if it isnt about happiness?! Life is ment to be happy, and if another person is dragging you down to keep u from being happy it is time to move on.
Awful

Springfield, KY

#19 Apr 13, 2013
Life is about living to please God and working to live according to his will. Happiness comes and goes but God remains forever. Live for something that will not forsake you. That's what life's about.
Somewhere else

Covington, KY

#20 Apr 13, 2013
Go thump that bible elsewhere, you shouldn't be engaging in talk like this anyway... If you're living your life for god. If somebody makes you miserable you should move on, not spend your whole life a depressed mess. GOD would want you to be happy so you could live for him, he forgives divorce. Being unhappy for a long time can change you as a person, and obviously not or the better. Get right with yourself girl, don't let anybody throw god in your face to make you feel bad about it. God forgives and understands all, his followers not always so much though.

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