Is sexting the same as cheating

Is sexting the same as cheating

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Cheated

Louisville, KY

#1 Aug 24, 2012
I caught my husband sexting a co worker of his. She is also married and her huband works in the same place that her and my husband works! They both swore there was nothing going on, just joking back and forth. I don't know if I truly believe it or not. I don't know if I should just say forget it and leave him or tell the whore's husband or what.. Any normal advice? Thanks!
my opinion

United States

#2 Aug 24, 2012
In gods eyes there the same. If they say nothing happen then it really up to you. But i think it's not fire to call her a whore and not him. Just be glad you found out one way or the other before something did happen if it really didn't. But sorry i don't think you should say anything to the other party.
me

United States

#4 Aug 24, 2012
In my experience it's the same. You're his wife and the only one that he should have sexual conversations with. It's wrong of him to go to someone else. You can either leave before it turns to real life cheating. Or sit down and talk and discuss what's missing in the marriage that would make him act the way he did. And let him know exactly how you feel. Put him your shoes. He may start to think that what he did WAS in fact a mistake if he thought for one second the tables could be turned.
friend1230

United States

#5 Aug 24, 2012
Nah. Its just goofn off. I mean, I really don't even think people mean to do it. U just start joking around and the next thing u know its a perverted text and then laughing about it. Their just playback around. Not sleeping together.
Billy

Louisville, KY

#6 Aug 24, 2012
No its not cheating.
Lynn

Shreveport, LA

#8 Aug 25, 2012
I would tell the other spouse and then I would kick his butt out the door. That is disgraceful for him to disrespect you in that way. If he truly loved you with all his heart, he would not of hurt you in that way. You deserve someone to treat you better than that. Let him have here because he must secretly desire her.
yes

United States

#9 Aug 26, 2012
Yes you should tell the woman's spouse. It's takes two. She isn't the only one to blame, but likewise, your husband should not be the only to carry the shame. I'm sure her husband would like to know as well. I think it is the same. I'm not saying to call her out at work in front of her husband and make a scene because you wouldn't want to embarrass him being an innocent party. But if you know where her husband works maybe try calling him or sending an email and let him decide how he wants to deal with it. My opinion ... If he is sexting her then who else would he be sexting. Affairs with co-workers are the hardest ones to overcome as they see each other everyday. If they went as far as to sext then they probably got physical. But that's just what I think, in the end you have to make your own decision on how far it went or what you will do now. Sorry.
Cassie

United States

#10 Sep 5, 2012
I just found out today that my husband has been sexting his ex wife! We have been together for almost 10 yrs and have 3 wonderful children. The messages were so gross the things he said he wants to do with her. For example one says, "I cant wait to slam my c@@k in you" when I confronted him all he could say was why are you looking in my phone. What the heck. I have spent all night praying and thinking what I should do. I am so heart broken.
Sheila

Shelbyville, KY

#11 Sep 5, 2012
Cheated wrote:
I caught my husband sexting a co worker of his. She is also married and her huband works in the same place that her and my husband works! They both swore there was nothing going on, just joking back and forth. I don't know if I truly believe it or not. I don't know if I should just say forget it and leave him or tell the whore's husband or what.. Any normal advice? Thanks!
Hate to tell you this darling, but they have done more than sext. I would be the farm on it.
36C

Shelbyville, KY

#13 Sep 5, 2012
Cassie wrote:
I just found out today that my husband has been sexting his ex wife! We have been together for almost 10 yrs and have 3 wonderful children. The messages were so gross the things he said he wants to do with her. For example one says, "I cant wait to slam my c@@k in you" when I confronted him all he could say was why are you looking in my phone. What the heck. I have spent all night praying and thinking what I should do. I am so heart broken.
If you women would flirt like that with your man, he wouldnt go looking elsewhere for fun! It is not your fault this happens, but men need excitement!
what2do

Frankfort, KY

#14 Sep 5, 2012
Cassie wrote:
I just found out today that my husband has been sexting his ex wife! We have been together for almost 10 yrs and have 3 wonderful children. The messages were so gross the things he said he wants to do with her. For example one says, "I cant wait to slam my c@@k in you" when I confronted him all he could say was why are you looking in my phone. What the heck. I have spent all night praying and thinking what I should do. I am so heart broken.
You wait til he goes to sleep, tie him in the bed and chop his c@@k off with the biggest knife you have in the kitchen and then shove in his mouth to shut up his screaming. Tell to slam his c@@k in that b1tch now!!!
toobad

Shelbyville, KY

#17 Sep 8, 2012
my opinion wrote:
In gods eyes there the same. If they say nothing happen then it really up to you. But i think it's not fire to call her a whore and not him. Just be glad you found out one way or the other before something did happen if it really didn't. But sorry i don't think you should say anything to the other party.
I am so glad you can see through God's eyes. Capitalize his name next time if you are so religious. GEEEZ!
guest

Lubbock, TX

#18 Sep 8, 2012
I totally agree!
me wrote:
In my experience it's the same. You're his wife and the only one that he should have sexual conversations with. It's wrong of him to go to someone else. You can either leave before it turns to real life cheating. Or sit down and talk and discuss what's missing in the marriage that would make him act the way he did. And let him know exactly how you feel. Put him your shoes. He may start to think that what he did WAS in fact a mistake if he thought for one second the tables could be turned.
DPage

Frankfort, KY

#19 Sep 8, 2012
If sexting is the same as cheating then what do you call going to the strip club with the guys, is that cheating. There.s naked women there????
Hummm

Mena, AR

#20 Sep 8, 2012
Cheated wrote:
I caught my husband sexting a co worker of his. She is also married and her huband works in the same place that her and my husband works! They both swore there was nothing going on, just joking back and forth. I don't know if I truly believe it or not. I don't know if I should just say forget it and leave him or tell the whore's husband or what.. Any normal advice? Thanks!
Do you really don't know?
Jeff

United States

#21 Jun 11, 2013
If your spouce went to any length what so ever to hide the sexting, then it was cheating.
yes

Lawrenceburg, KY

#22 Jun 11, 2013
Yes it is cheating, personally I think an emotional affair is as bad or worse than a physcial affair! I would tell the spouse of this woman and then I would sit my man to the curb! If he does it once he will do it again, just a matter of time! once trust is broken it is almost impossible to truely trust that person again. just saying.
I say

Louisville, KY

#23 Jun 11, 2013
If they sexting they probably already fu**ing, or real close to it. If my girlfriend was texting someone, talking about sex, she might as well have the guy on top of her, as far a I am concerned, cause we would be through. No if ands or buts about it. Ain't no game, funny ha ha sh*t. Serious as a heart attack! If they talking bout fu**ing then they are wanting to do it.
wow

Lawrenceburg, KY

#24 Jun 12, 2013
Hell yes it's a form of cheating. What's the point in "loving" one and telling another what you'd like to be doing to them when you should be doing that to the one your loving. If things aren't what you thought they were going to be then go on and move on. Get away from each other rather than living a lie. If you aren't happy sexually with the person you "love" so much then maybe you (or whoever) not to work on your style of "doing things". Find ways to spice up the bedroom for you and your partner. I see no good out of "sexting" another while married or with someone. No good could come out of that crap. Maybe if people who are cheating or telling others how they'd like to "do them" could express this to the ones they love or with then just maybe it wouldn't be such a desire with some stranger. This is a small town. Im sure in a very sick way, we have all slept with each other through fluids without physically being there. Isn't that gross to think about? Excuse me while I go puke..........
soontobesingle

Monroe, LA

#25 Jun 18, 2013
Cassie wrote:
I just found out today that my husband has been sexting his ex wife! We have been together for almost 10 yrs and have 3 wonderful children. The messages were so gross the things he said he wants to do with her. For example one says, "I cant wait to slam my c@@k in you" when I confronted him all he could say was why are you looking in my phone. What the heck. I have spent all night praying and thinking what I should do. I am so heart broken.
Caught my husband doing the same thing with his ex wife--hurt just isnt the word for it. He told me if he thought my feelings would be hurt he wouldn't have left it there, he would have deleted it, HA! I guess they are just too slow and dumb to come up with anything better to say.

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