Familiar Complaints Aired At Hearing On DCF

Trina Porter flew to Connecticut from Maryland so she could show state legislators a picture of the niece she hasn't seen in more than a year. Full Story
autism mom

East Bridgewater, MA

#88 Mar 23, 2011
DCF is a rogue agency. It has no oversight and no accountability. The workers are poorly trained. The only people here defending DCF are DCF employees. So I would like to know from DCF employees, what kind of training have you had with respect to domestic violence? What kind of training have you had dealing with children with autism? The answer to that question is NONE. DCF hurts more people than they help. I can tell you from personal experience that I had a DCF worker state outright that she didn't believe that my child is autistic. I have three neuropsych evals diagnosis the child with autism. Not only is my child autistic, but my child has two comorbid conditions; Tourrette's and ADHD. The DCF worker was of the opinion that my son's behavioral issues were a result of my parenting skills. This DCF worker thinks that she's more qualified to make a diagnosis than the Director of Autism Specialties at Children's Hospital/Boston(who is board certified in Behavioral Pediatrics). There is absolutely no processs to get a worker removed from a case even if the worker GROSSLY negligent and has violated DCF's own protocol.

“Speak up for those who cannot”

Since: Mar 11

speak for themselves

#89 Mar 23, 2011
help wrote:
How about the other side! Become a Foster parent and see what really happens. What these kids go thru at the hand of the parent. And where are the extended family when the child is born addicted.Where the the rest of the fammily when the child "Fell off the Swing" Where is the family when after a Visit I'm up all night with a Screaming Child trying to make them understand ANYTHING. DCF is not perfect But the do try.Stop Looking to blame DCF for all the problems and get Involved.You'll See both sides then. HELP!!!
Coming from a mother who just recently got her daughter back from the system after she was taken because of her FATHER, I can tell you right now they do absolutely nothing help. All they do is try to extend cases until the parent gives up. I give props to the foster parents to the children who do really need a good family, but what about the parents who get their kids taken away for things that aren't their fault? What about them? Then the foster parents try to adopt the child without thinking about the parent who would die for their kid!! Think about that part of the system before you praise them like Gods

“Speak up for those who cannot”

Since: Mar 11

speak for themselves

#90 Mar 23, 2011
Citizen Rosa wrote:
It's easy for the Child Advocate and the legislators to pile on against big bad DCF. But in EVERY SINGLE CASE
where a child is removed from family, the child has a free lawyer, the parents each have free lawyers, relatives are allowed to come to court and have their say, and a judge makes the final decision. There are also various advocates and court personnel who also are involved in the case and making sure the safest decision is made. If a parent or child's lawyer doesn't like the court decision, it can be appealed. And, of course, the Child Advocate is supposedly available to help these families as well. DCF is not the be all and end all of these cases. There are plenty of other layers of protection (or bureaucracy) for the families but we never hear about them. If kids are being kept from families due to DCF arrogance, why are these others letting it happen?
Have YOU ever tried to fight a HUGE agency such as DCF in court, cuz speaking from experience, you make it seem so easy, and it's not. The judge, depending on their feelings on DCF, affects the way the case works.

“Speak up for those who cannot”

Since: Mar 11

speak for themselves

#91 Mar 23, 2011
autism mom wrote:
DCF is a rogue agency. It has no oversight and no accountability. The workers are poorly trained. The only people here defending DCF are DCF employees. So I would like to know from DCF employees, what kind of training have you had with respect to domestic violence? What kind of training have you had dealing with children with autism? The answer to that question is NONE. DCF hurts more people than they help. I can tell you from personal experience that I had a DCF worker state outright that she didn't believe that my child is autistic. I have three neuropsych evals diagnosis the child with autism. Not only is my child autistic, but my child has two comorbid conditions; Tourrette's and ADHD. The DCF worker was of the opinion that my son's behavioral issues were a result of my parenting skills. This DCF worker thinks that she's more qualified to make a diagnosis than the Director of Autism Specialties at Children's Hospital/Boston(who is board certified in Behavioral Pediatrics). There is absolutely no processs to get a worker removed from a case even if the worker GROSSLY negligent and has violated DCF's own protocol.
I am so sorry to hear all of that. My best friends' son is autistic, as well, and DCF was involved with her for awhile, as well. They are nothing but a bunch of scum bags with no proper training at all
Perseverance

Glastonbury, CT

#92 Mar 23, 2011
DCF digs from the bottom of the barrel for their "social workers". Just ask about baby Emily. Remember Baby Emily? DCF turned their collective backs and left that infant to be raped and murdered by her father. DCF "social workers" went there and investigated but they were inept and didn't see anything wrong in that house and left that baby to die a horrible death. Typical DCF cold-hearted incompetence. But they still collected their paychecks that week. How many other times did DCF leave kids to die? And while these kids are being killed or abused right under DCF noses the "social workers" are off playing God with people whose only crime is being poor.

You know what DCF excels at? Self-preservation and ass covering. All they care about is collecting their paychecks, and screwing people.
Perseverance

Glastonbury, CT

#93 Mar 23, 2011
Perseverance

Glastonbury, CT

#94 Mar 23, 2011
Perseverance

Glastonbury, CT

#95 Mar 23, 2011
Perseverance

Glastonbury, CT

#96 Mar 23, 2011
Perseverance

Glastonbury, CT

#97 Mar 23, 2011
Perseverance

Glastonbury, CT

#98 Mar 23, 2011
Dopey
Crackheads
F'ing up

“Speak up for those who cannot”

Since: Mar 11

speak for themselves

#99 Mar 23, 2011
LOL You tell 'em. DCF is an organization that just needs to be shut down
Valerie

United States

#100 Apr 10, 2011
I would and in fact have taken in a foster child, however the DCF worker who placed this child in my home with my then very young children "forgot" to mention that the child had severe mental health and severe sexual issues which led to a nightmare for both myself and my 3 little kids who were perfectly innocent. Then DCF made it my fault when the child was uncontrollable even though she had manifested all these behaviors in placements before my home. They didn't care one iota that my children were harmed by them and in fact the social worker still works for them 10 years later.
Valerie

United States

#101 Apr 10, 2011
DCF is all about the money and only the money. If they keep a child in foster care they get paid, if they give a child back to it's family they don't get paid. Backwards?? Absolutely! My friend was right when she told me DCF stands for "Destroy Certain Families.
CIN

Ludlow, MA

#102 Jun 21, 2011
I had my two kids taken away from me an my husband in April. it hurts so bad we are ex addicts, yes, and were on the methadone clinic for some time when we decided to come off together. Which wasn;t such a good idea had we known what we were in for. we were sick but in denial, and yes of course our kids age 5 and 9 m0. were living and seeing our sickness. i am truly sorry for that. but we were always there for our kids, always had food,shelter,love,but not the way or as much as they deserved for sure. I knew that and my husband and i just needed help but were also ashamed to admit it. I think I could have had my social worker who knew herself,obviously, if she trully cared about our family,given us the resourses to get treatment again to better ourselves and our childrens lives. but NO. Instead she witnessed us falling down and gave no real help but months later my chidren are to be removed from our care and into state custody. I am heartbroken. We are on the clinic again,but are clean. we are looking for a new apartment in a better area, and thats pretty much why they were taken for our failure yes, but now we are fixing that problem on our own. we have our first court date in august,and i am so scared to death that that wont be enough to get our kids back. our last supervised visit was awkward for the fact thAT WE WERE BEING WATCHED the whole time. my daughter wants to come home too and its so sad to see them that way.
Sassy

Cocoa Beach, FL

#103 Mar 6, 2012
You people have no idea to have your children takin away and nobody cares. Just because I am on pain medication for health reasons they think they can ruin my life. Not gonna happen. And these free attorneys they are a joke. I can't even get them to call me back. Until you experience raising two children on your own and owning your own home. The one thing that really gets me is there is no charges. How can they take my children with no charges?
Perseverance

Glastonbury, CT

#104 Mar 7, 2012
Sassy wrote:
You people have no idea to have your children takin away and nobody cares. Just because I am on pain medication for health reasons they think they can ruin my life. Not gonna happen. And these free attorneys they are a joke. I can't even get them to call me back. Until you experience raising two children on your own and owning your own home. The one thing that really gets me is there is no charges. How can they take my children with no charges?
They are nothing but sh#t!
reggie from branford

Hamden, CT

#105 Nov 29, 2012
DCF goes on a witch hunt because phone calls made with malice. They have no proof of wrong doing and plenty of pepole who speak good of the accused, but still insist on pushing and throwing their weight around. i think they are a shameful group and I mean GANG of thugs.They need to be investigated.
gette

Burlington, CT

#106 Jan 25, 2013
dcf will befriend you. they will encourage you to be upfront. they will comfort you. they will give you hope. then the nightmare begins. they take everything you've told them out of context and use it against you. they do not encourge you to work together as a family. actually they tell you not to talk to each other. Why? because they tell each side something different. when it's all over, your family is devided and distroyed. The children have no rights. the court appoints attorneys for them. the attorneys go along with whatever dcf says. the judges only hear what dcf wants them to hear. when dcf decides they have done their job they sign off and leave families to pick-up the pieces. they offer you counciling to fix what they have done, but it never comes. Social- relating to or occupied with family matters. social work- advance social conditions of the disadvantaged. providing psycological counciling, guidance and assistance. empathy- identification with and understanding of others situations, feelings, and motives. this agency needs a complete overhaul. i don't know what kind of education these people have, but i found these definitions in the dictionary. "suffer the children"
sad

Danbury, CT

#107 Jan 25, 2013
help wrote:
How about the other side! Become a Foster parent and see what really happens. What these kids go thru at the hand of the parent. And where are the extended family when the child is born addicted.Where the the rest of the fammily when the child "Fell off the Swing" Where is the family when after a Visit I'm up all night with a Screaming Child trying to make them understand ANYTHING. DCF is not perfect But the do try.Stop Looking to blame DCF for all the problems and get Involved.You'll See both sides then. HELP!!!
They are crying all night because they want to go home. They might be "better off" with you-you are probably better able to give them "things". But money cant buy you love. I know its difficult to be in your position and I dont blame you for your frustration.There are some parents that cant cope. I have seen some.I have also watched the public hearings and cant believe what some very loving parents have been through trying to get back their kids-begging to at least have the kids with relatives-the state wouldnt listen at all. This is the USA?

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