When should a child begin sleeping Alone?

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DREAMZ

North Lawrence, OH

#1 Jan 21, 2013
I have a girlfriend that has a 3 year old toddler and which she is a wonderful mother to no doubt about it, but IM afraid she's to nice and not strict enough when it comes to sleeping at night. I feel bad for giving her a hard time about it and we usually end up in a fight over it, but my opinion is if this continues it's only going to hurt her child in the long run. The child wants his mommy around 24/7 and always has to know where she's at. She let's the child fall asleep with her on the couch at night and sometimes she will put the child in their bed after it falls asleep, but if the child Wales up it comes into our room crying for mommy to come sleep with him, and she does usually back to the couch they go. Am I wrong for giving my Girlfriend a hard time about this?
Roger Brown Lost Creek

United States

#2 Jan 21, 2013
DREAMZ wrote:
I have a girlfriend that has a 3 year old toddler and which she is a wonderful mother to no doubt about it, but IM afraid she's to nice and not strict enough when it comes to sleeping at night. I feel bad for giving her a hard time about it and we usually end up in a fight over it, but my opinion is if this continues it's only going to hurt her child in the long run. The child wants his mommy around 24/7 and always has to know where she's at. She let's the child fall asleep with her on the couch at night and sometimes she will put the child in their bed after it falls asleep, but if the child Wales up it comes into our room crying for mommy to come sleep with him, and she does usually back to the couch they go. Am I wrong for giving my Girlfriend a hard time about this?
I think that you should sleep in your mommy's bed until you quit bed wetting.

For me, I was between 12 and 13 before I quit bedwetting on a regular basis.
Dreamer

Clarksburg, WV

#3 Jan 21, 2013
The longer you let yor child sleep with you, the harder it is to get them to sleep alone. It's best to never start the habit.
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DREAMZ

Germantown, OH

#5 Jan 22, 2013
Is this a joke?
Agreed

New Cumberland, WV

#6 Jan 22, 2013
I allowed my older 2 children to sleep in bed with me until I weaned them from breastfeeding, which was around 1 year of age. Then I started a gradual transition to their own beds. Tucking them in with blankets that I had slept with the night before to keep my scent on them. I had start a whole new bedtime regimen. The youngest, I never started the co-sleeping thing, although his bed is in my room as it is anyway. But I would nurse him and then put him down in his own bed.

Since: Nov 12

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#7 Jan 22, 2013
It depends. It is probably best to quit sleeping with a child when you find you are no longer attracted to them. Otherwise, you are just leading them on.
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bobbin

Weston, WV

#9 Feb 9, 2013
i find that mommy's boy will stay till thre food card and health care runs out. around 26 i think
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Get over it

Buckhannon, WV

#11 Feb 11, 2013
The child will sleep in his own bed when he feels secure. Question you should be asking is am I making this child feel insecure? I'm sure you're a decent guy but the child may have daddy issues. Maybe you should try a bedtime routine with him, and start teaching him how to be a big boy. FYI you sound jealous.
idolts

Rupert, WV

#12 Feb 14, 2013
the day the child is BORN.
it is a baby not a stuffed animal it will do fine in hie or her own crib. insecure parents are why children sleep with their parents in the first place. also the people who give stats on sid-silenmt infant death-say babies shoulsnt sleep in adult beds due to death by sids. anything that makes your baby more dependant aginst falling asleep alone is detrimential to the child in my opinon. all babys deserve love, holding and cuddeling but they also deserve to be self reliant and safe. thanks for my 2 cents worth.
kate

Los Angeles, CA

#13 Aug 6, 2014
A think a child should sleep with his parents or in the same room until age 4, after that the child needs to slowly get into a patern where he feels save and comfortable to sleep on his own. Obviously the child is still needy of his mommy, so once he needs her she goes to lay with him, but she needs to explain to the child that he needs to be a big boy and he will soon need to sleep alone, yes it can be frustrating since you probably want to have sex at night and the child is there or killing the mode...hey, it happens! But let's not forget you girlfriend's son comes first, be a good sport and support her and don't be jealous because if she is a good mom like you say, her son will always come first !
serious

Alexandria, VA

#14 Aug 6, 2014
when it's born
Riverboat Gambler

Anonymous Proxy

#15 Aug 6, 2014
They make books on this topic, written by doctors and other qualified people. I don't know that you are going to get the best advice on topix. however, having read the books i can say that a child should never sleep with their parents. they could be suffocated when they are very young.
not your problem

Philippi, WV

#16 Aug 7, 2014
NOT YOUR Kid!
NOT YOUR Problem!
Woow

Williamsport, MD

#17 Aug 8, 2014
While it may not be their problem, in the future it will be the child's problem since they will suffer security issues from sleeping with their parent when it is not necessary
disagree

Philippi, WV

#18 Aug 12, 2014
Woow wrote:
While it may not be their problem, in the future it will be the child's problem since they will suffer security issues from sleeping with their parent when it is not necessary
Opinions, Don't sweat the small stuff.
I think a child that is close to is mother is a sweet thing.

However, if he was in his 30's and married it would be time for therapy.
Ana

Weston, WV

#19 Aug 12, 2014
I work in pediatrics, and I see all kinds. We old timers would much rather a child be attached to mom or dad like you described than the opposite. I see many, many reactive attachment disorders that are on the rise due to drug abuse in this area. If you're in this for the long run, I promise that he won't be sleeping with mom in the 4th grade. She sounds like a caring, albeit spoiling mom. That could only be a good sign for any future children between you. However, if the situation is a little overwhelming after consideration, then maybe it's best to part ways now, because all three of you deserve peace and happiness. I guess that's my two cents, for free.
serious

Alexandria, VA

#20 Aug 19, 2014
Children can be close to their parents even when they don't sleep with them. Sleeping with the parents caus other problems later.

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